As I have been dating women for quite some time, I would like to think that there are few things I would feel shy about talking to my lover about. However, I find that whenever I hear the phrase " what do you want to do tonight?" I find myself thinking nearly the same thing though never bringing it up. I'm still a little quiet about my joys and pleasure in the ways of bondage and role playing. How should I bring it up without making it sound like I want something way out there from my partner?