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I think it has more to do with actual experience than attraction. I have known of 100% gays to have 'experimented.'
Absolutely. Also, a lot of gay and lesbians don't come out when in their teens, due to pressure from families or religions or many reasons. A lot of these people tend to date and even have sex with members of the opposite sex, until they are ready to plunge in and come out.
I know a lot
of gay and lesbian people who have done this (I'm a little older than some of the 20 somethings on Eden and being gay wasn't always as accepted as it is today, when I was a teen or 20 something) I don't consider these people "less gay" or "less lesbian" than someone who had only had sex with those of the same sex. (I never would have said to my step sister, "You don't get a gold star. You fucked dudes before you came out." Not only would I consider this incredibly rude, it doesn't matter, coming out was VERY difficult for her (we were raised heavy Catholic) and it made no difference on her identity once she did come out.)
Honestly, you are who you identify as. I don't think what you did the past has that much influence on what people should call you, label you or consider you.
Hey, if someone wants a gold star, I have a whole box of them in my closet, from when I taught preschool. You're welcome to them.