Bisexuals

C-Rae C-Rae
Is it just me or do a lot of the LGBTQ community tend to hate on them or something? Mostly the LB part. I don't I just wouldn't try and get too serious with some because a lot of ppl who say they are Bi are just confused but I know that's not always the case.

Do you?
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Yes
8  (9%)
No
55  (61%)
I don't mind dating one
27  (30%)
Total votes: 90
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06/10/2011
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Sir Sir
I do not understand the question.
06/12/2011
MaryExy MaryExy
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Originally posted by Sir
I do not understand the question.
Ditto. Yes it's just you, the LGBTQ community doesn't tend to hate on bisexuals? No, the LGBTQ community doesn't hate on bisexuals?
06/12/2011
Sinfully Sinfully
I hope not. I consider myself bisexual but am yet to do anything sexual with another female yet... maybe one day. As for now I continue to wait.
06/13/2011
zeebot zeebot
Also confused by the question....
06/16/2011
Miss Nessa Miss Nessa
A little confused.
06/17/2011
Spoken Pandora Spoken Pandora
I think I get what you are saying. Lesbians tend to outcast bisexual women and you don't but you don't fall in love with a bi-sexual women either...correct?

In my circle of friends many choose not to date bi-sexual women because the fear of them dating both them and a man at the same time,the risk of catching an STD (which in my opinion can happen just as frequent with a lesbian as well), or the fear of the bisexual woman not telling the true.

Personally I'm on the fence with this because to my knowledge I haven't dated a bisexual woman. However I do notice that they are the "black sheep" of our little community.
06/20/2011
KnK KnK
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Originally posted by C-Rae
Is it just me or do a lot of the LGBTQ community tend to hate on them or something? Mostly the LB part. I don't I just wouldn't try and get too serious with some because a lot of ppl who say they are Bi are just confused but I know that's ... More
I'm going to say, it depends on the person. I feel like a lot of straight people are more critical of bisexuals than the queer crowd.

To a lot of straight vanilla people, bisexual seems to exude whore, slut, and someone who is infected with STDs. The majority of my straight friends don't know I'm queer-identified or kinky because I know they really wouldn't get it.
06/20/2011
C-Rae C-Rae
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Originally posted by Spoken Pandora
I think I get what you are saying. Lesbians tend to outcast bisexual women and you don't but you don't fall in love with a bi-sexual women either...correct?

In my circle of friends many choose not to date bi-sexual women because the ... More
Yeah that's what I was trying to say but I was having trouble phrasing it haha
06/22/2011
BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by Spoken Pandora
I think I get what you are saying. Lesbians tend to outcast bisexual women and you don't but you don't fall in love with a bi-sexual women either...correct?

In my circle of friends many choose not to date bi-sexual women because the ... More
I recently was somewhere where I was asked if I was gay. I said, "Not exactly." And then I got this downtrodden, disgusted face and was presented with the question, "Oh, bi?" And again, I said, "Not exactly." Then she was just confused! I explained that I identify as "queer" (to which she gave me a high-five???) and that I'm married to a man. To which she was more confused.

I felt a little put off and uncomfortable because I feel like I'm even more outcasted by two different communities. The straight community accepts me just fine as long as I don't mention that I'm queer. The LGBTQ community accepts me just fine as long as I don't mention my husband. It's terribly frustrating to not know exactly where I'm accepted/fit in.

I suppose part of the "problems" with bisexual girls is that everyone's been burned by the more "bi-curious" (aka, cute, funny, wants to make out, but doesn't want to be WITH a woman) girl who is experimenting. But I think that to umbrella bisexual women with being untrustworthy of being in a committed relationship just sucks. I've never been with a woman, but I know that I:

1) am capable of being with a woman and loving a woman.
2) would like having sex with a woman.

Same way that straight people and gay people know that they were gay/straight before they ever had sex, I have always known that I would enjoy being with a man and a woman. I don't need to be with both to know it. It's just something that's a part of me.
06/25/2011
RAVEN 1826 RAVEN 1826
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
I recently was somewhere where I was asked if I was gay. I said, "Not exactly." And then I got this downtrodden, disgusted face and was presented with the question, "Oh, bi?" And again, I said, "Not exactly." Then she ... More
If a girl gets fucked in the ass it's anal sex. If a guy fucks another guys ass thats Gay. What if the likes it in the ass? He's gay. Course, the guy gets a trophy fucking a girl in the ass, and can't wait to tell his friends about her. A guy fucks a dude in the ass? Don't tell no one. If it feels good in the ass? "Just do it!"
06/25/2011
BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by RAVEN 1826
If a girl gets fucked in the ass it's anal sex. If a guy fucks another guys ass thats Gay. What if the likes it in the ass? He's gay. Course, the guy gets a trophy fucking a girl in the ass, and can't wait to tell his friends about her. A ... More
I'm not sure if I should be offended by your comment. I'm not even sure what the hell you're talking about or how this responds to my comment about bisexuality in the LGBT and straight communities.

And my straight husband enjoys anal sex with me, he's as far from gay or bisexual as it gets. We don't feel ashamed about it at all. But if you want to find threads about anal sex and what that means for a person's sexual orientation, just go up to the search tab. You'll find lots! But this thread has nothing to do with that and I'm interested in hearing what others have to say about my comments regarding bisexuals in the LGBT/Straight communities.
06/26/2011
gingernicole gingernicole
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Originally posted by C-Rae
Is it just me or do a lot of the LGBTQ community tend to hate on them or something? Mostly the LB part. I don't I just wouldn't try and get too serious with some because a lot of ppl who say they are Bi are just confused but I know that's ... More
I don't know anyone who hates bisexuals?? The only time I'm annoyed is when a girl claims to be bisexual but isn't interested in women... only getting the attention of men by pretending to be bi. I think most bi girls aren't like this. It's just the ones who get all the attention that ruin it for everyone else.
06/27/2011
Miss Voluptuous Miss Voluptuous
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Originally posted by Sir
I do not understand the question.
Me neither.
06/28/2011
PassionQT PassionQT
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
I recently was somewhere where I was asked if I was gay. I said, "Not exactly." And then I got this downtrodden, disgusted face and was presented with the question, "Oh, bi?" And again, I said, "Not exactly." Then she ... More
Having a Bi man in my life, I can attest that they are shunned by both sides. It's like they are saying "you can't have both, make up your mind already, pick a team!".... A drag queen at an event I was at once said "bi's are the most selfish sex"...I kind of laughed at that because I tend to remind my partner he has the best of both sides (to which he says "yeah, but sometimes it's a curse). If someone is comfy being with both sexes, who is to say they can't be? I get the craving for a woman every now and then, but my man is my main squeeze.

I've knew a bi guy who would date only men for a while, then date a girl, but he would always be monogamous with whomever he was with at the time.
07/07/2011
meganthomas meganthomas
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
I recently was somewhere where I was asked if I was gay. I said, "Not exactly." And then I got this downtrodden, disgusted face and was presented with the question, "Oh, bi?" And again, I said, "Not exactly." Then she ... More
I completely agree with what you said last. I think it is so closed minded when people tell a man who is sexually attracted to other men that he just needs to be with a woman and he'll realize how wrong he is. It is not necessary and it undermines a person's ability to understand their own attractions, wants, desires, etc.

I don't totally understand what you were saying about being "burned" by a girl who is experimenting.

Based on what you said about yourself, I would just say that it doesn't matter who you confuse, as long as you are comfortable with your own situation! Who needs a high five about their sexual identity anyways?
07/07/2011
BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by meganthomas
I completely agree with what you said last. I think it is so closed minded when people tell a man who is sexually attracted to other men that he just needs to be with a woman and he'll realize how wrong he is. It is not necessary and it ... More
What I'm talking about is the story I hear (nearly weekly) about the lesbian who falls for the girl who isn't quite sure she really likes girls. They try it out and "oh, I don't like this, sorry." Basically for them it's fooling around and experimenting; when, for the lesbian involved, they're hoping for the relationship.

Personally, it doesn't really matter to me if lesbians are confused about how I choose to identify because I am not seeking out a woman to be involved with. If I were, I would probably be more offended that they didn't take me seriously; as it is, I'm just someone new to get to know as a friend. And in friendship, sexuality is (or rather, SHOULD BE) irrelevant.
07/07/2011
Jenyana Jenyana
I'm bisexual, and I totally get where you're coming from here. Most people seem to think that just because you're bisexual, you're not going to be able to be monogamous, or that you're just fooling yourself, or trying to be "interesting". I've heard it all.

For me, being bisexual just means that I happen to find some men attractive and I could have sex and be in a relationship with them, and that the same is true of some women. It doesn't necessarily mean that I'm going to do it, or that I find just about anybody attractive simply because I can be attracted to both men and women; it just means that gender doesn't really matter to me when falling for someone. The content of your pants and your shirt only changes the way in which we can get off, not my ability to like you.
07/09/2011
biangel88 biangel88
personally i am bisexual and i find that people look at you differently for being bisexual its like you have a disease or something ...like your not normal
07/19/2011
dezzydezire dezzydezire
The question is a bit confusing. I have no problems with bi people and i myself am bi.
07/19/2011
Noira Celestia Noira Celestia
My instructor in a class I took in college was talking about how the LGBTQ is hating on bisexuals, and I keep hearing people say this as well, but I haven't personally experienced it.
07/19/2011
AmberM AmberM
i haven't had anyone in the community hate on me, and i'm bi.
07/29/2011
mizzmilla mizzmilla
The LGBTQ community is about accepting everyone for who they are.. not hating on them for it.
09/08/2011
PussyPurr PussyPurr
This was a confusing question...was it a question? I also disagree with the statement "a lot of ppl who say they are Bi are just confused". That's how many bisexual (or however you choose to label/identify it) people's sexuality is completely dismissed. My mother did that to me when I tried to come out to her as a teenager. I guess I am STILL "confused" 20 years later....
09/12/2011
CherryDyke CherryDyke
Wow, it took me a while to figure out the question. Turns out it's a no.
09/12/2011
allinonekid allinonekid
The answer is no.
11/19/2011
Lavender420 Lavender420
This is ridiculous.
11/28/2011
midnightcaresses midnightcaresses
Hmm.
02/18/2012
Mwar Mwar
I find the science interesting. As one who believes sexuality has some genetic basis, bisexuality is more peculiar than homosexuality in some ways. I think its more of a lens thing. Some don't care about gender when selecting a partner, other find it more important.

Either way, to each their own
05/02/2012
Rockasaurus Rockasaurus
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Originally posted by C-Rae
Is it just me or do a lot of the LGBTQ community tend to hate on them or something? Mostly the LB part. I don't I just wouldn't try and get too serious with some because a lot of ppl who say they are Bi are just confused but I know that's ... More
As a member of the LGBT community I don't like the idea of disliking someone based on their sexual orientation- it just seems a little backwards to me.
05/03/2012
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