How did you come out the closet to your parents?
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They found out because I wasn't thinking about the fact that they were at the same place as my and my girlfriend. I kissed her and they happened to walk into the room at the time. They freaked out a slight bit but I think they are more in denial about it then anything else although they do mention it it passing with me.
Originally posted by
ReesaAndBrandon
I still haven't and would welcome anyone with advice on the subject.
01/12/2011
My mother is still trying to rationalize it, while I think my dad is just waiting to see if it's "just a phase she's going through." When I told her about a potential relationship with another woman freshmen year (college) her first response was, "That's unfortunate." When I told her about the beginning of this current relationship she asked me if I "was confused" (because I was getting out a relationship with a guy and going into one with a girl); just recently, she has told me that taking birth control might be the reason for my "ambivalence for what sex you're interested in." I'm still a little pissed at her for that last comment. >.>
03/13/2011
I do not have a good relationship with me parents as it is and my father is very homophobic while my mother is a bit more tolerant but I am not sure how she would feel about her daughter being gay. I feel like I am going to tell them soon though, I need to. They keep worrying that I need someone in my life and I am soo very much in love with my partner and want to be able to tell them about her and how happy we are. . .
03/18/2011
It was a complete accident. They were talking about getting me a boyfriend. It was irritating me, and the following words just slipped out of my mouth. "I don't like guys!" Haha, it caught them off guard. It's actually not what I meant to say. What I meant to say was, "I don't want a boyfriend." The turn out was pretty nice though. I'm pansexual, so it's not completely true that I don't like guys. They never ask me about my sexuality anyway. So I guess it doesn't really matter.
06/07/2011
My mother and I have never been on excellent terms. She was never around growing up, ever. She never saw me with my boyfriends through middle & high school. So when I started dating this girl in college I never thought my mom would notice. Unfortunately she lost her job so she did see me and her together. She blew up & kicked me out of the house. It's been over a year and we are JUST starting to talk again. Mostly because I have a 4 month old yellow lab, and she loves dogs. But I'm hoping she will warm up to my girlfriend, she's going to be around for a very long time. However, my mother's reaction has terrified my girlfriend from telling her parents. So at some point, we will have to go through this again--I'm just praying her family is more accepting than mine...
08/20/2011
I still haven't told them that I'm bisexual. There was one point where I was close; when I was sixteen I asked the hypothetical "what would you do if one of your daughters was attracted to women?" ...and didn't get a good response. At all. My mum basically answered that she would have that daughter sectioned because it's just not normal. Needless to say, i didn't get past that point. :/
(funnily enough, she told me that she would be supportive to one of us being transgendered, just not gay. She can't get over the idea that only PIV sex is the "right" kind of sex. Unlucky for me, I'm bisexual, not transgender. I can't believe she made me resent being cysgendered... -_-)
Ever since then, I've been slowly trying to shift their perception of queer people as a bad thing into one in which they can see them as just people. I've made progress, but nowhere near the point where I would feel safe telling them that I don't only find guys attractive. *sighs*
(funnily enough, she told me that she would be supportive to one of us being transgendered, just not gay. She can't get over the idea that only PIV sex is the "right" kind of sex. Unlucky for me, I'm bisexual, not transgender. I can't believe she made me resent being cysgendered... -_-)
Ever since then, I've been slowly trying to shift their perception of queer people as a bad thing into one in which they can see them as just people. I've made progress, but nowhere near the point where I would feel safe telling them that I don't only find guys attractive. *sighs*
09/01/2011
I am bisexual, but I would never hide that from my parents. I feel that people who hide their bisexuality because 'they'll probably date (the opposite gender) anyway' trap themselves into 'becoming straight'. And I'm glad that I told them when I was 11. It went fairly well though of course my mom thought it was a phase or some kind of confusion. I did have confusion later--I thought I was completely straight because of a yucky girl trying to molest me, and then I thought I was a lesbian because I realized I don't have very frequent attractions to males, or maybe only a specific type. I've kind of come to terms with the fact that I just like who I like, and gender just doesn't matter to me one bit. I still find myself 'hot for' and also romantically, relationship-wise attracted to people of both genders.
It was actually funny. I told my mom I had something to tell her and when I told her I was bi, she just gave me ice cream for some reason.
My dad literally had always said since I was 5 that he'd be okay with whatever sexuality his kids were, as we have gay family members on his side who he taught us to accept. So that went predictably well, almost like there wasn't even a talk, I was just like 'yeah I like girls and guys.' LOL
It was actually funny. I told my mom I had something to tell her and when I told her I was bi, she just gave me ice cream for some reason.
My dad literally had always said since I was 5 that he'd be okay with whatever sexuality his kids were, as we have gay family members on his side who he taught us to accept. So that went predictably well, almost like there wasn't even a talk, I was just like 'yeah I like girls and guys.' LOL
09/02/2011
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