Sexual Fluidity?

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Sexual Fluidity?

ehue1992 ehue1992
So general question to my LGBTQ Comrades as well as anyone else who wants to through in their 2 cents. I've been out for about two and half years now. However in my two and a half years I've mostly just had sex with straight guys. When I say straight, I don't mean closeted gay or even bisexual. I'm talking guys that (normally) would never think of being with a guy. This got me thinking. Does anyone else out there believe in the idea of Sexual Fluidity? This is the idea that while there may be straight and gay there is a certain level of flexibility in a person's self-prescribed label. What do you guys think?
10/14/2011
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Kkay Kkay
I think that sexuality is difficult to put an ultimate definition on. Attraction is complicated, and it's not always the same at every point in someone's life.
10/14/2011
Cherrylane Cherrylane
I definitely think many people's sexuality is somewhat fluid, though I've mostly heard the term used more in terms of women.

I myself consider myself hetero, though I've had a girlfriend and tend to find women sexier, on a physical level. I can love women, but my emotional relationships tend to be best with men to the point where I can't really imagine pursuing another relationship with a female again. They sure are pretty though...
10/14/2011
PassionCpl PassionCpl
I think if 'sexual fluidity' were an accepted term, a lot of people with feel easier with their sexuality, especially guys. In our experience, there are a LOT of guys who say they're straight but will happily fool around with another guy, especially if there's a woman involved, lol.

But as a bi-couple answering your question, yes we believe in sexual fluidity.
11/01/2011
wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
Quote:
Originally posted by Kkay
I think that sexuality is difficult to put an ultimate definition on. Attraction is complicated, and it's not always the same at every point in someone's life.
I think that Kkay put it very well. Sexuality is far more complicated than we give it credit for. While my girlfriend identifies as a lesbian she also points out that she believes that she will be with whoever she is attracted to physically and emotionally and whatever else comes with it. It just happens that she is more often attracted to women. She always has. She's only slept with one man in her life, and had, I believe, two boyfriends.

Whereas, I came out a year ago as a bisexual, and when I met her in January, I started dating her a month later. Only recently have I totally felt comfortable saying my orientation is lesbian, though I won't discredit the fact that I do still find some men attractive (though, the thought of sex with a man now kind of makes me go "ewww!") or maybe in the future if my girlfriend and I ever part ways, maybe I'll date a man or have sex with a man again.

Its honestly just something up in the air. I think that attraction is something that we can't help, it just happens. And who we are attracted to sexually is dependent on so many factors that putting a stiff name or definition on it would be far too hard.

So yes, I believe in the idea of Sexual Fluidity.
11/01/2011
AndroAngel AndroAngel
We've had this conversation in person, but I figure I might as well throw in my two cents on here as well. I definitely think there's such a thing as sexual fluidity, in fact, I think everyone's sexuality is completely unique to them.
11/01/2011
Vanille Vanille
I definitely believe that sexuality can be fluid.
11/01/2011
ehue1992 ehue1992
Wow, thanks for all the opinions. I didn't expect that many people to respond! :3
12/06/2011
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