Getting Started at Sex Blogging

wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
I have a lot of questions about getting started at blogging about sex and the like. I've read some great advice here on the Blogs forums and I'm excited about starting.

First of all: coming up with a name. What should I keep in mind, should I keep it tasteful? Should I keep it simple, or creative.

I've blogged a bit off and on in the past, for fun and for pay. I also have a background with writing and distributing paper zines. I once did a Sex Ed issue and had A LOT of fun with that (was planning on digging that out for info for my blog). I'm not always the best at coming up with names.

Content: Should I stick to the general topic of sex or should I try to pick something that I can "specialize" in. I've written a lot of papers for school about sex education and even had a short stint (4 months) as a seller with Pure Romance. Teaching people about safe sex, self sex, and general education about it is something I'm very interested in.

Partners: For those of you that write blogs/have written blogs that are in relationships. Did you run the idea by your partner first if your partner isn't totally open with sex? What I mean to say is that, I'm a lot more open with sex and experimenting than my lady is. I mean, she's okay with us playing around in the privacy of our bedroom, but sex isn't a topic that she's totally open with outside of the act. Is it generally polite to run the idea by your partner to ask them if they are okay with you talking so openly about sex on the internet or not?

Networking: Obviously this is the hardest part of blogging. Well, hardest to start off with. Because if you don't network, have content that people are interested in, and keep your entries fresh, then no one will be interested and you won't draw in traffic. What are some good tips and tricks for doing this? I have a part-time job in retail and here in the next month and a half, my hours will probably rocket from 18-25 hours a week to close to 40 hours a week. What's a quick way to keep networking fresh without badgering people with my links?

Really... that's all that I can think of. Feel free to add in whatever else you think would be helpful. I know I might think of other questions later on.

Thanks so much to anyone and everyone that replies
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MidnightStorm MidnightStorm
Quote:
Originally posted by wrecklesswords
I have a lot of questions about getting started at blogging about sex and the like. I've read some great advice here on the Blogs forums and I'm excited about starting.

First of all: coming up with a name. What should I keep in mind, ... More
I'm going to go ahead and give this a small bump since I have many of the same questions and you phrased them so eloquently! I've debated on rather or not I should start a review blog, but since I'm now reviewing for two separate websites (Bad Dragon and Eden Fantasys) it seems like it might be a good idea to have everything centralized. I'm also prone to just flat out buying things when in stores, and I have a few toys that are not available on EF that I can also review.

I was actually very hesitant to start a blog, but my boyfriend seems all for the idea, so with his help I'm looking into it. Well, at least, he's GOING to help. He suggested it, so it's his job to help out! I can't give you help with most of your questions, but since the question about couples is more of an opinion, I can at least offer something there.

Personally, I am female and I'm very open about sex. I generally sort of 'expect' the same from my partners, simply because I can't imagine being with someone who was prudish about it in the least (I'm just a very open, sexual person). However, in the situation that I did intend to start a sex blog and I knew my partner might be uncomfortable with it, I would definitely want to talk to them first. To me, it feels like it would be ideal to have my partner on board for the blogging, as it would make it a lot more fun to hear both perspectives and to be able to mention them and let them know that they were a part of the project too. If your partner isn't open to the idea, keep talking to them about it and see if you can get their approval. I would definitely say that you shouldn't have to give up something you like for their benefit (in this case), but you shouldn't do something that they hate, either!

As for networking, my plan at the moment is to just kind of roll with it. I have a few communities I'm involved in, so I'll make it known that I'm doing this sort of thing there. I'm still tossing around rather or not I want to post a link on my Facebook--I want to be open with that sort of thing, but I also do have a FEW people that it might bother.

Anyways, good luck! I look forward to seeing answers to some of these questions.
11/11/2011
wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
It made me blush that you said I phrased everything eloquently! I'm always worried that I am such a mess when I write things out whether they are just random forum threads or things I'm writing for novels.

I'm really glad that your boyfriend is on board with you! I mentioned it to my girlfriend one day when I was on the site, talking about reviewing toys, getting points. And she more or less said that she doesn't care what I do so long as it doesn't jeopardize our relationship and it makes me happy.

Good luck to you as well
11/11/2011
Dusk Dusk
I've been blogging for over a year now, and it's definitely a complicated job. Keep in mind that my answers to your questions are my opinion only, and there are a lot of opinions out there.

Name: Personally, simple names are easier to remember. I have friends with blogs with longer names and I have a tougher time remembering them, so I normally just remember people's blogger handles instead. I have trouble coming up with names as well, so I normally ask for suggestions based on the ideas I have (or I wait for inspiration).

Content: I tried picking a specialty (BDSM) but I found that I wanted to write about so much more than that. Sometimes it can be nice to have a general sense of the direction you want to go, but don't restrict yourself to just that or you'll get frustrated when you can't write about other things.

Partners: I talked to my partner about everything before I started my blog, because I wanted to introduce him to the idea and also get his permission to talk about him there. It took a little while for him to be comfortable with the idea, but it helped that I told him I wasn't posting pictures of my face and I would never use his real name.

Networking: This was the most difficult part of starting my blog, and it took the longest. It also requires a LOT of upkeep, which is why I've been struggling lately because I've been in an odd sort of hiatus both with writing and networking. Start by getting to know other sex bloggers by reading their posts and leaving well-thought out comments. Don't just comment for the hell of it because we all see through the bullshit. Think about making a twitter handle or a facebook page, and talk to other bloggers for advice and such. Try trading links with a few people (if you ask them nicely). Be patient, things will grow slowly but surely.

Don't hesitate to message me if you ever want to talk about it! I love, LOVE blogger education so I'm always down for a chat.
11/11/2011
kitty377 kitty377
thanks for this post, It helped me out a lot!
11/18/2011
TerryAnne TerryAnne
Quote:
Originally posted by wrecklesswords
I have a lot of questions about getting started at blogging about sex and the like. I've read some great advice here on the Blogs forums and I'm excited about starting.

First of all: coming up with a name. What should I keep in mind, ... More
It seems like with the sexy blogs, you find you have a lot of page views and people read and comment, but it seems like there are many that don't subscribe, as the anonymous nature. I think that you should blog about whatever you feel comfortable with. Everyone has different feelings and likings. You might be surprised what you find and who you meet. I also work full-time and blogging is a hobby, an outlet. I do blog hops and visit sites, leaving comments. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
01/07/2012
xxjoel xxjoel
I had an open ended sex blog and I wasn't particularly sure what to write about. Maybe narrow it down to facts, personal feelings, erotica, etc.
03/18/2012
deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by wrecklesswords
I have a lot of questions about getting started at blogging about sex and the like. I've read some great advice here on the Blogs forums and I'm excited about starting.

First of all: coming up with a name. What should I keep in mind, ... More
I think starting from where you feel comfortable and following blogs with content you like are great ways to start.
11/02/2012
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