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do you spend more time at the bar or the coffee shop each week? this will have an age influence, i'm sure. i'm just wondering how many people transition from bar to coffee shop as they get older...
...did you transition, and at what age?
I'm a total coffee shop kind of girl, although I really don't hang around in a coffee shop for real long since there isn't one in my area (I know, where the hell do I live? Bum fucked Egypt? Or whatever that sayin' is) so I only get to go in one when I'm already in town for something (which is a lovely hour and a half away at the closest) so I rarely have time to just sit in there. But I love the relaxing environment and all the lovely scents in the funky coffee shop downtown! Man that place is like ba-liss!
And the bar scene was never my thing. I'm from the south. We tend to party at home. I was really young when I did my crazy drinking and partying, so I was not of age to do so in a bar. And a few years ago had a very... life changing... traumatic event and totally quit my drinking then. I went back to it (mostly only beer though, never really went back to the harder stuff that gets me super drunk) with my partner because I could no longer trust drinking around anyone else.
Then before I ever turned 21, I was done all together so the bar thing was never really my thing. Plus, I think the whole bar scene is a lot about getting attention, picking people up (for my age at least) and since my partner and I got together when I was 15 (I'm almost 23 now) I really had no more reason or interest to go bar hopping when I turned of age. Just not appealling.
So I guess I'm a weird one. We don't do bars, but we will have family & friends over on weekends and have beer every once in a while. We have a party with the whole family one day every weekend, so sometimes I'll have a drink of someone's home-made wine or shine and be done. I don't let myself have much more.