Do the you look at any attractive stranger walking by as a "potential sex partner" (no kidding)...I just heard a comment by a psychologist in human sexuality about this....

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Do the you look at any attractive stranger walking by as a "potential sex partner" (no kidding)...I just heard a comment by a psychologist in human sexuality about this....

Bignuf Bignuf
Okay, so I am listening to the radio and this "psychologist in human sexuality" said that where prior "studies" showed men think about sex many times per hour, more in depth recent studies showed that when walking down the street or in the mall..etc, men tended to "undress every single attractive female in their mind", and every one was a "mental fantasy sex partner" (she also said it did not matter if they were single or married or if the woman they were looking at was obviously single or with someone right then, or married, pregnant or whatever!). She also stated that this was FAR less common in woman, BUT that "some woman still did the exact same thing".

Do you think her assessment is correct. How common is this? BE HONEST..private poll.

Since she was ONLY speaking about hetero males and females, I don't know if it applies to those who are not, so I did not skew my poll otherwise.

DARN IT...I CANNOT EDIT THE ANSWER SECTION. I CUT AND PASTED THE ANSWERS FROM THE "I AM MALE" to the "I AM FEMALE" part, but was TRYING TO PUT (I AM FEMALE AND CHECK OUT EVERY ATTRACTIVE "MALE"...not FEMALE. SORRY FOLKS. I CANNOT UNDO, OR CORRECT THE QUESTIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!! ! IF YOU ARE A FEMALE, PLEASE ANSWER THE QUESTIONS REALIZING I AM ASKING IF YOU CHECK OUT MALES as "FANTASY SEX PARTNERS...not attractive FEMALES" as it incorrectly states below. SORRY. I wish we could TOTALLY edit questions!!!!
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I am MALE (hetero) and DO "check out" every attractive female in my mind as a fantasyl sex partner.
5
I am a MALE and "once in a while", but certainly not "always" check out attactive females, in my mind, as fantasyl sex partners.
7
I am a MALE and do NOT check out woman "in my mind" as fantasy sex objects.
2
I am FEMALE (hetero) and DO "check out" every attractive female in my mind as a fantasyl sex partner
10
I am a FEMALE and "once in a while", but certainly not "always" check out attactive females, in my mind, as fantasyl sex partners
27
I am a FEMALE and do NOT check out woman "in my mind" as fantasy sex objects.
10
OTHER?
7
Total votes: 68 (62 voters)
Poll is closed
10/27/2011
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chicken12 chicken12
I've never heard anything like that and I'm very much interested in gender and sexuality.

I don't think it's totally true for the reason that this person is apparently stating it as all-or-none (EVERY attractive female, etc). That's just not realistic - men are fully capable of focusing on whatever it is they're working on or reading or talking to. They're capable of just seeing a pretty woman walking down the street and paying more attention to whatever task they're doing.
10/27/2011
Beck Beck
I certainly do. I notice them right away. For some reason it is like animal instinct, I will see them out of the corner of my eye and be like "OH"! I notice that it is usually the ones that have dark hair, many tattoos, and drive motorcycles. YUMMY! That is my honey minus the motorcycle. Only cause we can not afford one.

Also I have caught my honey doing the same thing. Men seem to be more notice able about it. He'll turn his head and stare without realizing he is and many other men as well. Where we will look out of the corner of your eye or do something so no one realizes what we are doing.
10/27/2011
Kitka Kitka
I'm a highly sexual person so I can't help looking at all kinds of people that I find attractive when I'm out and about.
10/27/2011
SexyTabby SexyTabby
I always thought these studies were amusing. Mainly because I think more about sex and such then the Hubby does. Or at least more then he'll admit. I don't think of everyone as sexual partners but do tend to be easily distracted and my thoughts almost always run to a sexual theme. It doesn't much matter if it's women or men either. I find women extremely sensual so they are just as appealing in public as men. Another thing that's interesting is the word "attractive" used in the study. That has so many different definitions for individuals. The people around me may not necessarily fall into my personal preferences but none the less I'll still find myself off in sexual thoughts. Not that I'd ever act on any of the thoughts I conjure.
10/27/2011
Girly Girl Girly Girl
yeah sometimes
10/27/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
As a monogamous male for over 20 years - the old past time of 'reading the menu' as we called it, seems less relevant. Sure I appreciate beautiful girls - but now I wonder if they would be a good date form my son!
10/27/2011
Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
hmm... No option for Female (hetero) checking out attractive males as a potential sexual fantasy?
10/27/2011
zwee75 zwee75
Quote:
Originally posted by Sex'и'Violence
hmm... No option for Female (hetero) checking out attractive males as a potential sexual fantasy?
^ Was looking for the same thing!
10/27/2011
SexyTabby SexyTabby
Quote:
Originally posted by Sex'и'Violence
hmm... No option for Female (hetero) checking out attractive males as a potential sexual fantasy?
It was just an error they should say male - can't edit the poll
10/27/2011
Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
Wow - I don't think I ever really check out a sexy guy. I mean - yeah, I'll notice them a little bit as I walk by but I don't look again or anything. If my husband is with me, I'll generally take his hand and flirt with him.

My honey and I have talked about this because I've told him I know its natural for guys to look and that I didn't want him to feel uncomfortable about it. His reply was, "Why look when you can't have? That's just being mean to yourself. Nah...I'm happy with what I have and while I may look once (when he first sees them), I don't look again."

Maybe that's the result of 31 years of monogamous marriage - I don't know.
10/27/2011
GonetoLovehoney GonetoLovehoney
I check out both attractive sexes,but males more so than females. It saddens me when the guys wear baggy pants that hide their bums =C.
10/27/2011
GenderSexplorations GenderSexplorations
I think it's an interesting idea but I don't think it's necessarily accurate. I think on a base level it is, but probably moreso for singles than coupled persons. It depends on if the person has a lifelong mate instinct or is the type to have multiple partners over a lifetime.
10/27/2011
- Kira - - Kira -
I'm bi, so the poll doesn't apply to me. I'm going to comment anyway.

I don't check out guys because I'm happy with my husband. I guess I feel like if I'm happy with what I have, why bother looking at other guys? I do, however, check out pretty much any girl that walks by me since I don't have a girlfriend. If I'm with a girl I do the opposite. I look either way, but I look at the gender that I'm not with at that time.
10/27/2011
unfulfilled unfulfilled
I will admit that I give guys I think are attractive a little smile even though I'm married. I don't see the harm in it. I think it's natural to look at someone attractive. I don't necessarily say wow I wonder how they'd be sexually, but I can appreciate good looks.

My best friend made the comment once that his gf got ticked off everytime they were out anywhere and he looked at another girl so now he has to shop with his head down. She doesn't understand it comes naturally to him. I've known him for a decade longer than she has so that's my observation.
10/27/2011
Ansley Ansley
We both check out other people but no one is a potential sex partner to either one of us. Or at least in most cases. There are days when we pick people out when we're in public and comment about what their "O" face might look like or something like that. But, we've never seriously suggested that we bring them home.
10/27/2011
Kkay Kkay
Genderqueer and pansexual. I don't tend to sexualize myself, so I don't look at people as potential partners to be with me. I do notice when people are attractive, though, and think that they'd be pretty doing X or Y or Z.

My demisexual partner can and has walked by the most gorgeous people and when I comment, blinks and is honestly surprised that someone was there. It just doesn't register for him.
10/27/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Okay, so I am listening to the radio and this "psychologist in human sexuality" said that where prior "studies" showed men think about sex many times per hour, more in depth recent studies showed that when walking down the street ...
Definitely not
10/27/2011
Cherrylane Cherrylane
I don't usually, but there are times when I see someone attractive walking by, both girls and guys, and think "yeah, i'd fuck em" or "i could see myself with that" or some such thing.
10/27/2011
NaughtyNikkie NaughtyNikkie
This is interesting to me... I myself think about sex far more than my hubby does, he deals with me grabbing & touching him every moment I can & I don't care if I'm in public when I have a "moment" as he puts it, I just rub on his dick. I do look at people but I don't look at them in a sexual way. I guess maybe I'm more than happy with my sex life & could care less about undressing others with my eyes..
10/27/2011
jenn g jenn g
I kind of do, esp. if i am feeling hot
10/28/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
Quote:
Originally posted by Ansley
We both check out other people but no one is a potential sex partner to either one of us. Or at least in most cases. There are days when we pick people out when we're in public and comment about what their "O" face might look like or ...
This for us, so much this.

My husband and I notice other attractive people and do look because there's no harm in just looking (to us anyway). We may pretend to get offended by the other's action, but it's all play. We can both appreciate a good looking person, so we do, but we don't ever have any plans to bring anybody home with us.
10/28/2011
WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
I am constantly checking out everybody (and fantasizing about them) and will point out females to my husband if I think he'll like them.

I like what I have, but variety is the spice of life. Having a nice car doesn't keep me from looking at other cars.

My imagination even fantasizes about people I'm not really attracted to against my will sometimes, if there are no hotties around. Apparently I'm not me if my mind isn't perving on someone.
10/28/2011
Tuesday Tuesday
Interesting poll. So far our results confirm what you heard.
10/28/2011
Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
I've checked out attractive people (male and female) and momentarily fantasized about them. I don't do it all the time. If it's a female, I'll even point her out to my husband and get his opinion.
10/28/2011
Ansley Ansley
Quote:
Originally posted by Jul!a
This for us, so much this.

My husband and I notice other attractive people and do look because there's no harm in just looking (to us anyway). We may pretend to get offended by the other's action, but it's all play. We can both ...
Great minds (and relationships) think alike!
10/28/2011
Ash1141 Ash1141
I do sometimes, if I find them very attractive.
10/28/2011
Love Perpetua Love Perpetua
I find that I do this when I'm single and feeling frisky, but it depends on my cycle. I don't think I act any different, though.
10/29/2011
WetJenn WetJenn
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Okay, so I am listening to the radio and this "psychologist in human sexuality" said that where prior "studies" showed men think about sex many times per hour, more in depth recent studies showed that when walking down the street ...
Always always, look to a guys crotch, my husband just noticed I did this about 6 months ago. He asked me why one day and I replied to see if I can see their dick.

I always look at guys as a potential sex partner. I found my lifemate, Im just looking for some ppl to have fun with now.
10/29/2011
Apirka Apirka
I honestly think about sex many, MANY times a day, haha... but I don't really mentally undress every attractive guy that I see. My sexual thoughts usually go to whatever harmless crush I have at the time, whether it's someone I know personally or some celeb.
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