Do you know anyone who got married JUST because they were pregnant?

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Do you know anyone who got married JUST because they were pregnant?

Ansley Ansley
Just curious to see if you or anyone you know married due to pregnancy and how it worked out. (I'm not pregnant, for those who may be wondering and I'm already married. )
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I did, we're still together and happy
1
I did, we're still together but not happy
I did, we separated and/or divorced
2
I know someone who did and they're still together and happy
17
I know someone who did and they're still together but not happy
23
I know someone who did and the marriage ended
32
Other
19
Total votes: 94 (71 voters)
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07/15/2011
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darthkitt3n darthkitt3n
I don't know anyone who got married because of pregnancy.
07/15/2011
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by darthkitt3n
I don't know anyone who got married because of pregnancy.
Crap, I knew I forgot something. Consider the other as the "no I do not know anyone who got married due to pregnancy".
07/15/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Ansley
Just curious to see if you or anyone you know married due to pregnancy and how it worked out. (I'm not pregnant, for those who may be wondering and I'm already married. )
A baby alone does not a marriage make, if those folks are not right for each other "for the long run". The "shotgun" wedding was a feature of the 20's and 30's.....but even by the 1940's it was dying out as a "must do" and today...come on. What female star, singer...etc, is actually MARRIED before having babies? Those are the new "roll models".
07/15/2011
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by Bignuf
A baby alone does not a marriage make, if those folks are not right for each other "for the long run". The "shotgun" wedding was a feature of the 20's and 30's.....but even by the 1940's it was dying out as a ...
No one is saying a baby makes a marriage. It's just a question to see how prevalent it may or may not be today.

When I got knocked up my mom gave me three choices: 1) get married, 2) go to a convent for pregnant teenagers, or 3) abort.

I wasn't about to get married at fifteen or spend nine months of my high school career in a convent.
07/15/2011
El-Jaro El-Jaro
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Originally posted by Bignuf
A baby alone does not a marriage make, if those folks are not right for each other "for the long run". The "shotgun" wedding was a feature of the 20's and 30's.....but even by the 1940's it was dying out as a ...
* THIS!

Some of the most unhappy couples and worst divorces I know of started because of this.
07/15/2011
ThoughtsAblaze ThoughtsAblaze
A girl I went to college with complained about her boyfriend mistreating her. They made up one weekend and accidentally made a baby, too, and we couldn't convince her that she didn't HAVE to marry the guy. It was a bittersweet wedding reception to attend, and they're still unhappily together.
07/15/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
I know someone who deliberately got pregnant to capture her husband - he felt it was the right thing to do. They are still together and now have a second child. They have been together at least 10 years and there's no signs of them ever ending it or being unhappy.

But in most cases, I'd say when someone feels they have to marry cause of a child on the way, it doesn't work for long. Most of us don't like being forced to do something.
07/15/2011
Sammi Sammi
I know a few couples that got married because they were having a baby that are still together and still happy. I know a few that didn't work out also.
07/15/2011
ZenaidaMacroura ZenaidaMacroura
My mom married my dad because she was pregnant with me. It was a terrible marriage, which finally ended after 15 years. She always regretted marrying him.
07/15/2011
Vanessa Weiss Vanessa Weiss
I've seen this in only two situations where I have personally known the people involved.

1. Girl got knocked up, he married her, she cheated with his best friend and got knocked up again, they divorced.

2. Girl decided it was high time to get married and "oops, I'm pregnant!" They married, and then she miscarried They are still together and have two children.



To be honest, most of my friends who have become pregnant outside of wedlock and decided to keep the baby have either had the baby with their current partner and remained unmarried (at the time - some got married LATER but not "as a direct result" of her pregnancy) or have gone the single mom route.
07/15/2011
ZenaidaMacroura ZenaidaMacroura
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Originally posted by Shellz31
I know someone who deliberately got pregnant to capture her husband - he felt it was the right thing to do. They are still together and now have a second child. They have been together at least 10 years and there's no signs of them ever ending it ...
My boyfriend's ex/baby momma got pregnant to try to trap him. She'd neen cheating on him and he was about to break up with her. Their condoms starting breaking abnormally frequently. Next thing he knew, she was pregnant. But he knew better than to stay with her, thankfully. He's a terrific father and tries to see his daughter as often as he can. I think it is best not to marry just for the pregnancy. It also seems like a not so great lesson for the child.
07/15/2011
lanky lanky
i only know people who end in misery
07/15/2011
GravyCakes GravyCakes
they may have been married a full yr by now, but i don't give them very long. especially since they're in their early 20s.
07/15/2011
Noira Celestia Noira Celestia
I do know someone from high school that married a girl that he got pregnant because he thought that it was honorable thing to do. I don't know if they're still together or not. I do know a lot of couples that hurried their marriage because they were pregnant.
07/15/2011
Sinfully Sinfully
My best friend. She's married but not happy.
07/15/2011
lovemuscle n cookie lovemuscle n cookie
My parents lasted 25yrs of rocky marriage, mostly unhappy, finally divorced in 2003 which has been the best thing either of them could have done, they are both happier now. I also have a friend who married our senior year of high school have been married for over 10yrs and still in love. And we have friends in their early 20s who have been married 1-2yrs, just divorced, but still "dating" trying to work things out.
07/15/2011
mandiegk mandiegk
My cousin. The other day she said to me: "We are miserable, but I don't have the balls to get a divorce." I know other people that have done it, but I can' comment on the status of their marriages because we aren't exactly close.
07/15/2011
LostBoy988 LostBoy988
Worst idea ever....
07/16/2011
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
actually my friend is about to. she was miserable as hell before she got preggers and was actually planning to walk out, and it hasn't gotten much better but she's planning to get married...
07/16/2011
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
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Originally posted by Ansley
No one is saying a baby makes a marriage. It's just a question to see how prevalent it may or may not be today.

When I got knocked up my mom gave me three choices: 1) get married, 2) go to a convent for pregnant teenagers, or 3) ...
seriously. i wish more people thought like your mom. so much heartbreak could be avoided in our culture
07/16/2011
bayosgirl bayosgirl
I don't know anyone who got married just because of pregnancy.
07/16/2011
v23 v23
I know someone who got married just because of pregnancy. They we're always on and off before and it never worked out, they we're disfunctional and at times violent. She got knocked up, they got married. It made everything way worse. They we're violent, constantly fighting, and cheated on eachother. I advised her against it but she didn't listen . . . now they're not together and the father has nothing to do with the child because of it. It's sad.

I don't understand why people get married because of pregnancy. Being married is a bond between two people that should be made because they care about and love eachother, and want to spend the rest of their lives together. Not because they feel pressured into it, feel they have no other option, or think it's the right thing to do.

Just my opinion though. =]
07/16/2011
Chilipepper Chilipepper
My Master's parents did (back in the mid-60's in Britain). Pure hell - she was a British career girl and he was a very traditional India-Indian, with lots of alcoholism and abuse ... Master remembers his mother packing him and his sister up when he was twelve and leaving in the middle of the night.

Also my paternal aunt. She got pregnant at fifteen by her boyfriend (mid-70's). They got married, had twins, the twins got taken away for abuse, aunt and uncle went to parenting classes, got the twins back, had two more kids. They're happily married and raised a very strong and responsible family, and are now awesome grandparents. My aunt and uncle are still in love after all these years, too. The pregnancy had instigated a series of events that made them better people, so it worked out for them.
07/16/2011
married with children married with children
I know couples who have, and they are still together, some happy and some not. And other friends who are not together any longer. My wife and I were married for 4 years or so before we tried to have a baby.
07/16/2011
Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
My grandmother supposedly got married because she was pregnant, but I don't know if she would have eventually married him anyway or not. From what I understand, they had a happy marriage (and a bunch more kids!), though he died back when I was ten and I don't remember their interactions all that much.
07/16/2011
Retro Retro
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Originally posted by Ansley
Just curious to see if you or anyone you know married due to pregnancy and how it worked out. (I'm not pregnant, for those who may be wondering and I'm already married. )
I wrote other because I know people who have and haven't. Some ended well and others didn't.
07/16/2011
Steve of Eden Steve of Eden
I know a few... lol and they are all divorced...

Obviously that shouldnt be the only reason you would want to get married...
07/16/2011
Purpleladybug Purpleladybug
Getting pregnant might now equal marriage for everyone.
07/17/2011
CAKES CAKES
I know several people who got married because they were pregnant, and none of those marraiges lasted more than a couple of years.
07/17/2011
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