I really don't mean to sound like a prude, but when someone gawks at my body, I get quite offended. I mean sure, they're looking because they are interested in some way, but it really feels like I am being violated. My partner and I and the 12 year old were talking about this last night. I went in the gas station and when I came out my partner was laughing because apparently they'd caught some old man staring at me and A (12 year old) said "He was looking at her down below and ugh! It makes me SOOO mad!" LOL. That was kind of sad that people have no shame. When I catch someone behind me taking a look at my booty I will make a clear point of turning around so they cannot look or like I told them last night when A got upset, if I'm sure someone is trying to look at my chest I look at them with a not so kind face and I jerk my jacket shut.
I just don't appreciate someone staring at my butt or chest in a sexual way. It makes me think "who the F do you think you are? What do you think I AM? An object? Something to hang up and stare at, violate with your eyes?" That may be a strong reaction, but I do have my reasons. It just almost feels disrespectful like they have some right to just think about you in that way. It just bothers me.
I only get upset if I am totally sure that someone's really mean mugging my butt or chest. Those are MY body parts and I don't want others looking at me like that when I have a partner. What PISSES me off is when someone knows us both and will stare at my butt or chest knowing that we're together and monogamous. It truly infuriates me.
It's not flattering to me, it's insulting. Now, if someone says I am pretty or even the occasional "she's beautiful" is nice and I don't take any offense to that. It doesn't make me feel violated. It's the hard "I would F you" looks that make me feel violated.