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Contributor: Antipova Antipova
So sometimes my own pedanticness shocks me. I know good and well that "whom" is pretty much extinct, but habits die hard and (thanks to the fact that we can't edit comments on reviews) I realize I look like a total old-fashioned nerd. (Well. Maybe appearances are accurate occasionally.)

Does anybody else still slip up and catch themselves using "whom"? Or do you still use it proudly?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
I don't think I ever type or say 'whom'.
Taylor , LAndJ , jedent , cburger , Coralbell , Cherrylane , sexydelphia , EdenJP , LilLostLenore , SelectZen , Kallisto , slynch , darthkitt3n , JessCee , Missmarc , interestingstuff , Allstars316 , melissa1973 , Beautiful-Disaster
19
I don't mean to use 'whom,' but it slips out occasionally.
Antipova , Kindred , padmeamidala , Mistress M. , Rarity , Miaever , TheSlyFox , Ansley , charmedtomeetyou
9
I use 'whom' in formal writing.
- Kira - , Ghost , Ryuson , Cherry21 , Bignuf , 12345678 , voenne , shinypinkstars , JackRaiden , Miaever , unfulfilled , TheSlyFox , deltalima , SaraU29 , Love Perpetua , Trysexual , TheirPet
17
I structure my sentences to avoid having the issue come up in formal writing.
Antipova , Kindred , Tuesday , stars , pinkcupcakes , tortilla , deltalima , K101 , BlooJay
9
I try to use 'whom' when I remember it.
Jul!a , Beck , El-Jaro , mistressg , TheSlyFox , Vanille
6
I always use 'whom'---what do you mean it's extinct?
P'Gell , Chilipepper , Valentinka , Kynky Kytty , AngelvMaynard , Ryuson , Cherry21 , Nazaress , Bignuf , 12345678 , Adriana Ravenlust , SMichelle , philly , voenne , Rossie , Pixel , JackRaiden , SaMiKaY , Diabolical Kitty , Ms. Spice , Eucaly , UnknownGirl , tim1724 , winterseve , Peggi , Ms. N , Nothere , GenderSexplorations , In Between Soliloquies , switzerland , dv8 , spiced , Martiniman , Living Doll , Eugler , Geogeo , SneakersAndPearls
37
Somethin' else!
AndroAngel , Errant Venture , RonLee , Rin (aka Nire) , misterazor , Hummingbird , Eugler
7
Total votes: 104 (91 voters)
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Contributor: Gracie Gracie
I use whom a little, but I giggle at myself when I use shall, no one uses that one anymore either.
12/23/2011
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
I don't think I ever got the hang of when you're supposed to use 'whom' so I just never use it. People seem to understand me anyway, so I don't worry about it too much.
12/23/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I use it. I don't think it's extinct. When used properly, it's proper English.
12/23/2011
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
I do. Hell, I put 'an' before a word that starts with 'H' ("We want an hotel for our stay")!
12/23/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
I know that there are proper times to use it, and I try to remember to during those times. Otherwise I don't really go out of my way for it one way or the other.
12/23/2011
Contributor: Valentinka Valentinka
I use it all the time. Always thought that's proper English
12/23/2011
Contributor: LAndJ LAndJ
My boyfriend is big on using whom and will correct me. I think it sounds awkward.
12/23/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
My proper English is rusty. I use slang so much from texting that it is hard for me to remember not to type 2 or 4, for everytime I use them correct or not.
12/23/2011
Contributor: Kynky Kytty Kynky Kytty
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
I use it. I don't think it's extinct. When used properly, it's proper English.
Same here, but even if used correctly, it still rarely comes up in my sentences.
12/23/2011
Contributor: AngelvMaynard AngelvMaynard
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
I use it. I don't think it's extinct. When used properly, it's proper English.
This!
12/23/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
Quote:
Originally posted by AngelvMaynard
This!
I wish everybody felt this way, honestly! I spend a silly amount of time trying to configure my sentences around it so I don't sound stuffy. But when other people use it, I'm really happy I fit in
12/23/2011
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
(Review Program Mentor)
I use it when I need it, it's a good word! I also use 'autonomous,' 'vernacular,' and other 'big words' on a regular basis, though
12/23/2011
Contributor: Cherry21 Cherry21
Quote:
Originally posted by Antipova
So sometimes my own pedanticness shocks me. I know good and well that "whom" is pretty much extinct, but habits die hard and (thanks to the fact that we can't edit comments on reviews) I realize I look like a total old-fashioned nerd. ... more
ah, I use it. Its proper english, and if its extinct then everyone needs to go back to grammar class!!
12/23/2011
Contributor: Nazaress Nazaress
I use "whom" whenever it's necessary. Letting words become "extinct" is letting an uneducated society win. People sometimes make fun of me for using proper grammar, punctuation, spelling, etc. in my texts and the like but that's not going to stop me from doing so. I'm correct and they're not so truly, they're the ones who look silly. I think it's ridiculous to let society slip into a state where simple words like "whom" become too difficult or too "uncool" to use. Power to proper English!
12/23/2011
Contributor: Nazaress Nazaress
Quote:
Originally posted by Gracie
I use whom a little, but I giggle at myself when I use shall, no one uses that one anymore either.
I use "shall". I even use "shan't". I use phrases like "But I digress" and words like "albeit". I don't see what's so wrong about being correct. Sometimes, simple words like "will" and "won't" don't cut it like "shall" and "shan't" do. And I honestly cannot think of a better word or phrase to use when "But I digress" and "albeit" are needed. I don't care if I look "silly" because I don't think I do. I look educated and not lazy. I look like someone who isn't letting everyone in the world revert to a simplistic dialect.
12/23/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Antipova
So sometimes my own pedanticness shocks me. I know good and well that "whom" is pretty much extinct, but habits die hard and (thanks to the fact that we can't edit comments on reviews) I realize I look like a total old-fashioned nerd. ... more
To WHOM are you referring in this post?
12/23/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Nazaress
I use "shall". I even use "shan't". I use phrases like "But I digress" and words like "albeit". I don't see what's so wrong about being correct. Sometimes, simple words like "will" and ... more
ME NO LIKE BIG WORDS. ME LIKE LITTLE WORDS. ME GOT BIG DIPLOMA DEGREE AND NEEDED BIG WORDS THEN BUT NOT NOW. PEOPLE NOW NO HAVE BRAINS. BRAINS GONE FROM PARTIES. LIKE LITTLE WORDS.

(oh...never mind. That was called sarcasm. YES Gracie, bless you. I agree fully. SOME people still know how to read and write and THAT will not become "obsolete" just because some others have become illiterate and can only write in TWEET length phrases or express their feelings and emotions in the minimum number of letters possible (LOL, LMAO).
12/23/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Cherry21
ah, I use it. Its proper english, and if its extinct then everyone needs to go back to grammar class!!
WELL SAID!!!!! Bravo.
12/23/2011
Contributor: Tuesday Tuesday
I dislike the word and try to avoid it whenever possible. It sounds like a word with its nose in the air to me.
12/23/2011
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
I think it's dated; I don't even hear professors use it most of the time.
12/23/2011
Contributor: dv8 dv8
Quote:
Originally posted by Taylor
I don't think I ever got the hang of when you're supposed to use 'whom' so I just never use it. People seem to understand me anyway, so I don't worry about it too much.
Grammar Girl: Who Versus Whom
12/23/2011
Contributor: Mistress M. Mistress M.
I try to avoid using the word 'whom' as much as possible. However it seems to just slip in there without trying once in awhile.
12/23/2011
Contributor: Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
Quote:
Originally posted by Antipova
I wish everybody felt this way, honestly! I spend a silly amount of time trying to configure my sentences around it so I don't sound stuffy. But when other people use it, I'm really happy I fit in
I spend a silly amount of time trying to use it correctly so I don't sound like a Neanderthal.
12/23/2011
Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
I use it from time to time.
12/23/2011
Contributor: philly philly
I don't think whom is really extinct
12/23/2011
Contributor: Cherrylane Cherrylane
The trouble with saying anything is "proper" english is that language evolves. What was "proper" then may not be so now. And that's okay.
12/23/2011
Contributor: sexydelphia sexydelphia
i probably use whom from time to time but don't realize it
12/23/2011
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
I use whom when it's proper, although I try to avoid it because some people think it sounds stuffy. That said, I used to have trouble remembering the proper times to use whom and sometimes I slip up, but I think it sounds weird and ugly to use "who" where "whom" should go.

For instance, I might occasionally be okay saying "who are you talking to." instead of "to whom are you speaking" I will never say "to who it concerns."
12/23/2011
Contributor: EdenJP EdenJP
Quote:
Originally posted by Antipova
So sometimes my own pedanticness shocks me. I know good and well that "whom" is pretty much extinct, but habits die hard and (thanks to the fact that we can't edit comments on reviews) I realize I look like a total old-fashioned nerd. ... more
never really use it
12/23/2011