If your EF Avatar is REALLY a photo of YOU.....why did you choose to do it that way?

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If your EF Avatar is REALLY a photo of YOU.....why did you choose to do it that way?

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Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Really curious. WAY too much of our deepest secrets are out here now for us to EVER put our faces on the avatar here. Employers, and other folks would NEVER understand and now, employers and search firms use "trolling software" to look at MILLIONS of sites online to see if computer photo recognition can pick up a photo (or name) of someone they are "researching" and thus NOTHING is "secret". Even grad school do that now for prospective medical or law school students (maybe others too), so that series of photos...even if your name is not there...of you downing ten shots in a row....they WILL find it and they DO make determinations based on it. I am just reporting the facts...please don't get upset with ME for the state of computer technology or anything.


Anyway, my sincere question, if you DO use your real photo in an Avatar here (and I am not sure many people do, from polls I have seen here), WHY do you???? Does it not concern you having that much of your personal life revealed but also linked to YOU???

11/18/2011
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Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
Mine's vague enough to be of no consequence - contrast paint-shop programs make everyone look prettier.
11/18/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
Mine is me, but you can not see most of me. It is that way for a reason, I'd rather not show everyone what I look like. I am not concerned about anyone knowing who I am, just do not want to have an actual pic. I had one up for one day, took it down due to rude and sexual comments, so I just choose to be hidden in plain sight.
11/18/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
In my personal opinion, it seems highly unlikely that unless you're going for some sort of super job that an employer is going to bother trying to troll millions of websites with facial recognition software looking for pictures of people doing potentially incriminating things. It is however way more likely that most of these things come up because people do associate their names with pictures like that at some point or another and that stays in the Google search that most employers use to look up potential employees. I'm not saying don't worry about incriminating photos getting out, I'm saying to pay attention to who's posting what and what names you use where. A Google search of a real name is often enough to find an alias, and that alias can bring up all the stuff you don't want out.

All that being said, unless you're posting about Eden on places that people you know will find you, or you're using your real name here, I think it's unlikely that people would be able to find you here just by a picture. I use one because I already use my name here, my friends and family know where I work, and I don't really care that much. If I needed to change it, I could, but my picture isn't going to be how people find me here. It would by from either the name I chose to show myself as or information that I've posted.
11/18/2011
Contributor: Talena Talena
I usually don't use my real picture on many of the sites I sign up for. Very few do I actually post the real me.
11/18/2011
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
I started using my real picture about eighteen months after I joined. I'm not ashamed of what I do here and it is not illegal in any way. Even if an employer were to put alllll that time and allll those resources (which is highly unlikely) into searching me, what could they do, fire me for writing about legal adult toys under an alias in my own time? That would be a fantastic case to bring to the labor board.

In reality, the people I work for and with know what I do. My family knows. And if anyone that doesn't know should stumble upon me, so be it. I have no intention of ever running for a political position or anything where my personal life would come under insane scrutiny. I do not do anything I am ashamed of or would not be proud to be a part of. In my mind, if I'm not comfortable showing my face in conjunction with something, maybe I shouldn't be doing it at all.
11/18/2011
Contributor: Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
I definitely don't feel comfortable using my own picture - but I will use a picture of my bedroom bunny. Besides...his butt is cuter than mine!
11/18/2011
Contributor: Jaimes Jaimes
I am very proud of what I do, and I prefer that our community feels that they are talking to a real person, rather than an avatar.
11/18/2011
Contributor: karay123 karay123
Mine is me. I didn't want a generic avatar. But like a PP said, it's pretty vague. And honestly, if my employer found me here, she wouldn't care one bit.
11/18/2011
Contributor: WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
I didn't want one of the generic avatars. Mine is me, as well, but doesn't show my face...not that I wouldn't have one that does. I just like the picture because of the look on my cat's face. I was trying to get pics of how close I could get my hands and my feet while in a backbend. This definitely wasn't the best backbend, but it was the only pic that my cat photobombed.
11/18/2011
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
I have nothing to hide, nor am I ashamed of what I do on the internet, so yes, my avatar is actually a pic of me.
11/18/2011
Contributor: Joie de Cherresse Joie de Cherresse
Mine is me. I'm not ashamed of anything I do on the internet. I just like having my own picture as my avatar.
11/18/2011
Contributor: JessCee JessCee
I work in a very conservative field and I simply don't care. It doesn't bother me at all to use my picture. I just don't see how anyone could find me here unless they were searching the site themselves, going through the forums and just happen to read a thread I posted in. The only way my real name is connected to my account is through my shipping address.... and I know that information is safe with Eden, so it's not like this site would show up through a google search of my name.
11/18/2011
Contributor: LQ LQ
Quote:
Originally posted by Jaimes
I am very proud of what I do, and I prefer that our community feels that they are talking to a real person, rather than an avatar.
Just wanted to say I love your new pic.

As far as not using my real pic. I just keep this part of my life separated from the "regular" stuff for a couple reasons.

1) Respect for people who aren't comfortable with it or for whom it's not appropriate. I have friends' children on my primary Facebook, for example. No, it's not going to warp them if I say something positive about a sex site, but I just don't think it's really appropriate in that context.

2) Future career stuff. I may at some point be in the public eye. If someone wants to dig up my kinky sex-talk past for the tabloids, whatever. However, that also affects my friends, family, etc. and that isn't fair to them when they don't want to be in that position due to my decisions.

3) The world in general doesn't need to know what I do in bed. If I discuss it here in general terms, that's great. It's helpful & educational & comforting. I don't see it as a whole lot different than discussing something with a friend. But does everyone I know online need the details... no.
11/18/2011
Contributor: NavyDoll87 NavyDoll87
My avatar is of my lower half, but only because I look a little young for my age and I don't want people to question if I truly belong here. I'm 24 and I always get that I look 16. I don't want to attract unnecessary attention.
But I am not ashamed of what I do or what I talk about. If I was embarrassed, I wouldn't say anything at all.
11/18/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Jul!a
In my personal opinion, it seems highly unlikely that unless you're going for some sort of super job that an employer is going to bother trying to troll millions of websites with facial recognition software looking for pictures of people doing ... more
Julia,

Let me be educational about a few things I know as FACT. Forget the "Super Job" analogy. Law Schools, Medical Schools BOTH use that kind of search of applicants. Every government job now, of any consequence (certainly anything with any police/law enforcement) does too. I also know..again, for a fact, that several major US companies that have NOTHING to do with security issues (one makes cars, another boats and a third is an industrial food company) all use this kind of software now to screen potential employees. Thus, it is FAR, FAR more common then you may think. The software is cheap and if you have that photo of you drinking rum by the gallon through a funnel in Cancun posted on your Facebook or on some friends blog....don't be surprised when the medical school application or job application comes back marked "don't call us, we'll (never) call you")

Just life in a computer world.
11/22/2011