Man afraid of vibes!?!?!

Daniel & Brittany Daniel & Brittany
I have a female friend whos husband is horrified by the though of her owning a vibe/dong/almost anything. I asked him flat out and he explained he is afraid of being replaced by toys, how do I help him understand his wife wanting a vibe of rabbit does not mean he's a sub par lover and is not her trying to replace him with a toy? I really wanna help her out but to do that I need to help him understand.
  • Buy 3 Items for $70
  • Buy 3 Items for $50
  • Buy 3 Items for $30
  • Save 20% on Luxury Toys
  • Pick Any 2 E-Stim Toys, Get 60% Off A Kit
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
All promotions
toxie m toxie m
Let him know that using a toy is an absolutely different experience than having sex with a partner, even if it's a super realistic penetrative toy. It feels different, it's psychologically different, everything. It's not about being replaced, it's about expanding the repertoire. One thing I say to similarly-threatened men who come into my sex shop is that try as they might, men just cannot vibrate. And vibrations feel really cool. And women don't hold it against men that they don't have this super power, they just augment their experience with bullets and rabbits and the like.

For a first toy, especially if it's an internal vibrator, maybe have your friend look for a small, unintimidating toy that won't be threatening in size to her husband. Way back in the day when I got my first vibrator my boyfriend of the time felt a little weird and threatened, until he saw it. Once he realized that his penis was bigger than my toy (and that me wanting a toy didn't just mean I was yearning for a bigger wang) he quickly relaxed about the whole thing.

Toys can also be used together to make it a coupley experience, which might take the edge off. The We-vibe might be a perfect place to start
Daniel & Brittany Daniel & Brittany
Thanks for the help, i'm gonna be seeing them today (hopefully) and plan to repeat most of what you just said lol. Fingers crossed for her...
toxie m toxie m
Good luck! I hope it all ends well
Total posts: 4
Unique posters: 2