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I'm surprised to see that nobody thinks that sex is just a physical need. I've met several women who believe that is the attitude there husbands have. That makes it hard for them when their sexual needs are unmet.
It seems that nowadays, most women feel like this. I'll never forget yesterday when I was walking with two of my co-workers to Subway just up the way from where I work; We passed by a few large windows into some restaurant and I glance over and there is a huge table with a bunch of men, apparently on their lunch break, but they were all in suits with ties, etc. They were gawking at me like I was some hunk of meat and it really creeped me out. I do not doubt at all that about three fourths of the men at that table were married, which makes it even more disgusting in my eyes.
I suppose my point is that it feels to me like men are more into the physical aspect of sex. This goes for women as well, but... yeah, I see more of it in males than females.
I, personally, do have lower self-esteem and I'm fairly shy on top of that. Luckily the man I'm with is *extremely* good in bed, but I always feel a little inferior as our relationship isn't the heterosexual "norm". I can't really touch him as much as I'd like, and that makes me feel like I don't please him AS much.
Self-esteem has a lot to do with the pleasing of your partner if you're sexually active in a relationship, or otherwise. I don't doubt this, not even for a second. I definitely think you have to be at least somewhat confident in yourself--but for me, being comfortable also plays a huge role in it, too. If I'm not comfortable, I'll be kind of scared to move or I just won't have sex.