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There are another values for girl's Virginity related to parents. In many societies around the world it represents the value of family and culturing. Here are some proverbs from different culures show the value of Gilr virginity to family and
There are another values for girl's Virginity related to parents. In many societies around the world it represents the value of family and culturing. Here are some proverbs from different culures show the value of Gilr virginity to family and parents:
- From Arminia: Girl like a Crystal, if broked can't repaired. (Shows that every one will see the ruin)
- From Malayo: If flower is picked, twig is run over (Twig or branch is a simple for parents who people will run over them if their daughter virginity is lost)
- From Romania: Girl's honesty like an Ice, when melts its white can't be seen. (same as first one)
Virginity has a great values in societies have ancient roots for thousands of years. I think Catholic societies in modern countries have such values.
I'm sorry, but just because something is part of someone's "culture" doesn't mean it's right or true. The United States, as well as other countries had slavery
and racism as part of it's "culture" for hundreds of years; that didn't make it right or true, just selfish and evil.
As for Girl like a Crystal, if broked can't repaired. (Shows that every one will see the ruin)
I don't see having sex as "breaking a woman." If you think like this, is your own wife "broken" after the wedding night
? Then what?
"Virginity" is an artificial construct by people who want to completely control the feelings, pleasure and lives of women
. It's a totally sexist construct, not to mention the basis of the Sexual Double Standard.
I simply can't agree with you. I KNOW my marriage is better because My Man and I experimented. He never saw me as "broken" because I had sex with other men, he saw it as my gaining more experience which only benefited our relationship in the long run. I learned things
in my quest. Those things not only helped me appreciate him more, but it taught me some things to help our lives be better.
Also, I don't want to wake up one day in my 30s or 40s and think, "OMG, what did I miss? What are other men like? Maybe I need to find out!" THIS happens every day with "virgin" marriages (more than men who want or think they are getting "pure" brides realize) and often they never find out how the woman eventually satisfied herself.
Not only that, I learned from my experimentations that My Man is The Best
when it comes to sex and everything else. There is no way I could KNOW this, unless I spent time with other men. I would just be guessing
. He has NO fear that I will go behind his back to see what other men are like (unless we decide to open our relationship again, with mutual consent) and I have no desire to do that, having already done so when I was younger, before we decided to be monogamous.
Thank GOD I live in a "Culture" that allows me sexual freedom. Otherwise I'd probably end up being shot in the head on some soccer field by the "Purity Police."
I have my freedom and always have had it. I have a man who respects that women are SEXUAL beings and he works hard to keep me satisfied (as I do for him) we both learned from sowing our Wild Oats what was BEST for both of us.
You may find different in your relationship. Good luck to you. I hope, for the sake of your marriage, that it does work out the way you expect. I also hope you respect the fact that your wife is a sexual being and needs variety and experimentation, even if it's just the two of you doing these things.