What do you do when you're angry?

Contributor: K101 K101
It completely depends. If it's on a day where I've had a terrible day and something's already upset me badly it kinda builds up and gets worse than what it normally would be. There's some random days where I tend to take things to heart more than I usually would too and those are when I tend to get upset more. It depends on why I'm upset. If it's just a comment from someone that was hurtful or that I'm not sure if it was meant in a rude way or not I'll quietly ponder over it then usually ask. My partner's too good at knowing when something's wrong with me and he never lets me go upset without asking me what's wrong and trying to comfort me or whatever it is I need.

If I'm just totally pissed and irritable then I tend to make those huffing noises without ever realizing it. Lol. He does though and he's like what's wrong?! Did I do something? Please tell me if I did. Lol. I'm usually like whoops! And most of the time it takes quite a bit to really anger me. I guess he learned when I blow air or make a huffing sound it means my stress and frustration levels are rising and I'm gritting my teeth.

I tend to get my feelings hurt a lot easier than I get angry though, but this morning I was both furious and emotionally hurt which lead to a horrible migraine and in that case I keep quiet so I don't say anything I might regret, but I did and usually do make myself clear if someone was really hurtful. My problem this morning was with family members though and they aren't as good as just talking it out as my partner is. My family can hold grudges and it's scary! Lol. I don't, but I find it's better to keep my distance when I'm hurt by them or angry. Now if it's my partner, I will try to calm down and then we always talk about it. So really it depends. There are times with him where I'll just be quiet for a long time while I think about what's upset me and try to figure out if maybe I just took it the wrong way or something.
10/05/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Morganna
This poll thing might be kind, I could easily get addicted to it.
So, when you get mad, what do you do? Sulk? Swear? Kick?
Personally, I do a mix of sulking, being passive aggressive, swearing, and crying.
I scream and yell...but THEN I get all quiet and sulky. A combination of the two choice in your poll. Swearing? Never. Crying...you really have to push my buttons to get me to cry. Plan revenge? Oh yes.

I guess, however, I should add that it takes a LOT to make me angry to start with. I am just NOT into drama and MOST things just roll off. Ninety percent of things people fight about, if they would wait ten minutes and think about it, are not even worth the effort, or mental anguish, of an argument. Less drama is just more happiness and tranquility!!!
10/05/2011
Contributor: AriBoi AriBoi
I tend to cry or just sulk.
10/05/2011
Contributor: kellyg kellyg
I personally keep it all in, angers, frustrations, hurt feelings, and dont let on that I am upset...I keep that going until something small happens and I totally blow up..not healthy but it's how I work lol.
10/05/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I have a tendency to intellecualzie the situation, and then scream and yell. If my mood issues are acting up, I have the horrible issue of getting nasty. I've been working on these issues lately, but when I get upset, it's like someone else takes over.

For instance, my youngest daughter is exempted from many vaccines, due to neurological problems in the family and her own problems with Tourette Syndrome and Aspergers. Her Ped wrote a letter for the school and the state, stating the basic reason for the exemption and yesterday the school called (a MONTH after the letter was submitted and its being nearly identical to the letters submitted since she was in nursery school) that the letter had been "rejected by the state." Now, I have to start from scratch with NO guidelines. Our school has a obsession with getting "100% compliance with vaccines." (Despite the fact that no one cares about "100% of parents involved in the school" or "100% of students actually speaking the ENGLISH language" not being a priority.) I freaked out on the school nurse, after TRYING to talk to her HCP to HCP. I was crying and she gave me some bullshit that she had a meeting to go to (do these Administrators actually do any WORK? Or do they spend all their time in "Meetings?") and she said she had to go, despite the issue not being solved and hung up the phone. I was freakin livid!
10/05/2011
Contributor: Ash1141 Ash1141
It depends on the severity of my anger. Sometimes, I just cry. Other times, I "hulk" out and throw stuff. Sometimes, I just completely ignore everyone and become mute.
10/05/2011
Contributor: Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
I take a deep breath, calm myself and try to talk it through. If it doesn't work, we both go away, and then later on try to talk reasonably about the problem.
10/05/2011
Contributor: acessorie acessorie
Depending on who it is I react differently. If its a boss I stew quietly and do dirty shit to them without their knowledge. If its somebody who I don't love I let them have it. If its somebody I love I'm passive aggressive.
10/05/2011
Contributor: Apirka Apirka
I sulk and plot revenge because usually the people that make me angry are in a position of authority over me (namely the owner of the house where I live) and they get angry easily and threaten to kick me out/call the cops/slap me/scream at me... so I have to keep it to myself.
02/28/2012
Contributor: HugsAndBites HugsAndBites
all of the above- it depends on the situation
02/28/2012
Contributor: Azule Azule
I guess it really depends what I am mad about. Little things tend to get to me, but the larger ones I've learned to let go. Wait, reverse that.
02/28/2012
Contributor: LacyRogue LacyRogue
I have a bit of a temper
02/28/2012