A very shy 20-something, an "other mother" to my partner's son, and a currently unemployed (going on 3 weeks) marketing professional.
What's your secret identity?
08/26/2009
I work for a major insurer. I am out to all of my close friends, my mother and to pretty much anyone that asks. I used to be very tight lipped about it, but realized that didn't do anybody any good. If I know someone will be uncomfortable, I don't mention it, but if they ask, they get the straight answer..
08/26/2009
I'm the guy your mother warned you about. Just joking. I'm currently an unemployed fellow that used to work in the construction industry.
Alan
Alan
08/26/2009
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lol!
Originally posted by
Alan & Michele
I'm the guy your mother warned you about. Just joking. I'm currently an unemployed fellow that used to work in the construction industry.
Alan
Alan
Michele, you have to share Alan's humor with us more!
08/26/2009
I am a lot of things. I am a nurse, I am a vegetarian, I am a tad eccentric, I am a traveller, I am a reader, I am a recipe-inventor, I am a cook!
08/28/2009
We are openly discreet so there aren't many secrets...though most people when they meet us and slowly learn our kinks they are totally shocked cause we just don't seem like "those" people! I hope one day to meet some of "those people" just so I can compare and see if my neighbors are right but they are hiding from me I think. Where are the freaky people everyone else has met and can recognize on sight?
09/19/2009
I'm juggling three different identities, because when the first two collided the fallout was epic, and neither of those parts of me involved anything even remotely sexy. I think I'm enjoying this forum because a certain level of secrecy is expected, so I don't feel like I'm deceiving anyone by not disclosing anything that's off topic.
09/19/2009
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Nothing hidden. Everything I am; a mom, a wife, a business owner, a writer, a sex toy fanatic, a relationship/sex blogger... etc. etc. All of it makes me ME! I really dont have anything to hide. I value being open, I spent too much of my life feeling like an outsider.
Originally posted by
spicywife
Sex addicts by night (and day...) but what are our hidden identities?
It's funny, but becoming a mother helped boost my confidence in myself and in just about everything else I'm involved in. Once I came to terms with the fact that people will either love me or hate me; I became okay with myself AND with my choice of activities and my career. The reasons some people dislike me are the very same reasons others embrace me. If you're important to me then I care about what YOU think.
When I started writing many years ago I was always scared my candidness would affect my 'real world' relationships (both business and personal) in a negative light, but the fact that I've remained true to myself has gained me more respect (and new clients) than I would have ever imagined. I've never lost anyone because they found out I write about dildos or relationships...Maybe a few rolling eyeballs here and there, but whatever! haha In fact, it's the ones who may have a problem with what I do that I DON'T want to have to deal with anyways!
I think everyone is drawn here, well #1 - because of free sex and great discounts, but once you're in here you become a part of a community of likeminded individuals who are 'sexually real'. Whether you have a pseudonym or not, you're buying products, you're talking about your experiences, you're giving advice, and we hear you! While me may not agree with everything you say, or we have different personality or sexual preferences, we all have curiousity in common.
No one wants a fake, as people get older they learn to appreciate a person who cuts the bullshit and gives it to them straight. They'll take us bitching about losing g-spot orgasms due to vibe failure before they'll read *another* train wreck of an interview about (___insert___dumb celebrity___here____) because it's real, and people identify with real.
Ultimately, to get BACK ON TRACK, it was the time I spent hiding, or pretending I was something I WASNT that I wish I had back.
Holy Shit what a rant...I'm shutting up now! hahahah
09/20/2009
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Ok I meant FREE SEX ****TOYS*** and great discounts. hahahahah, yah. Peace out.
Originally posted by
SilverVixen
Nothing hidden. Everything I am; a mom, a wife, a business owner, a writer, a sex toy fanatic, a relationship/sex blogger... etc. etc. All of it makes me ME! I really dont have anything to hide. I value being open, I spent too much of my life feeling
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Nothing hidden. Everything I am; a mom, a wife, a business owner, a writer, a sex toy fanatic, a relationship/sex blogger... etc. etc. All of it makes me ME! I really dont have anything to hide. I value being open, I spent too much of my life feeling like an outsider.
It's funny, but becoming a mother helped boost my confidence in myself and in just about everything else I'm involved in. Once I came to terms with the fact that people will either love me or hate me; I became okay with myself AND with my choice of activities and my career. The reasons some people dislike me are the very same reasons others embrace me. If you're important to me then I care about what YOU think.
When I started writing many years ago I was always scared my candidness would affect my 'real world' relationships (both business and personal) in a negative light, but the fact that I've remained true to myself has gained me more respect (and new clients) than I would have ever imagined. I've never lost anyone because they found out I write about dildos or relationships...Maybe a few rolling eyeballs here and there, but whatever! haha In fact, it's the ones who may have a problem with what I do that I DON'T want to have to deal with anyways!
I think everyone is drawn here, well #1 - because of free sex and great discounts, but once you're in here you become a part of a community of likeminded individuals who are 'sexually real'. Whether you have a pseudonym or not, you're buying products, you're talking about your experiences, you're giving advice, and we hear you! While me may not agree with everything you say, or we have different personality or sexual preferences, we all have curiousity in common.
No one wants a fake, as people get older they learn to appreciate a person who cuts the bullshit and gives it to them straight. They'll take us bitching about losing g-spot orgasms due to vibe failure before they'll read *another* train wreck of an interview about (___insert___dumb celebrity___here____) because it's real, and people identify with real.
Ultimately, to get BACK ON TRACK, it was the time I spent hiding, or pretending I was something I WASNT that I wish I had back.
Holy Shit what a rant...I'm shutting up now! hahahah less
It's funny, but becoming a mother helped boost my confidence in myself and in just about everything else I'm involved in. Once I came to terms with the fact that people will either love me or hate me; I became okay with myself AND with my choice of activities and my career. The reasons some people dislike me are the very same reasons others embrace me. If you're important to me then I care about what YOU think.
When I started writing many years ago I was always scared my candidness would affect my 'real world' relationships (both business and personal) in a negative light, but the fact that I've remained true to myself has gained me more respect (and new clients) than I would have ever imagined. I've never lost anyone because they found out I write about dildos or relationships...Maybe a few rolling eyeballs here and there, but whatever! haha In fact, it's the ones who may have a problem with what I do that I DON'T want to have to deal with anyways!
I think everyone is drawn here, well #1 - because of free sex and great discounts, but once you're in here you become a part of a community of likeminded individuals who are 'sexually real'. Whether you have a pseudonym or not, you're buying products, you're talking about your experiences, you're giving advice, and we hear you! While me may not agree with everything you say, or we have different personality or sexual preferences, we all have curiousity in common.
No one wants a fake, as people get older they learn to appreciate a person who cuts the bullshit and gives it to them straight. They'll take us bitching about losing g-spot orgasms due to vibe failure before they'll read *another* train wreck of an interview about (___insert___dumb celebrity___here____) because it's real, and people identify with real.
Ultimately, to get BACK ON TRACK, it was the time I spent hiding, or pretending I was something I WASNT that I wish I had back.
Holy Shit what a rant...I'm shutting up now! hahahah less
09/20/2009
I'm a tutor/teacher...so much as I'd like my identity not to be secret I'm just not in a profession where that really works!
10/15/2009
I am out to some and not to others. My day job is too conservative for me to be sharing anything like that. But, my adult family is aware of what I do and generally anyone I start dating is told sooner rather than later about what I do and who I am, sexually. So, I guess, as time goes by, I am more open about it, except where it would be in appropriate (at work, with the kids).
10/16/2009
My full-time career is a CPA, but I'm by no means the stereotypical accountant. I do have three clients that know me well, but clients normally expect me to be conservative and stable, so that is the image I have to portray. I have also been a Wiccan High Priestess for 10 years.
10/16/2009
Master and I are both parents (I am a stay at home mom, and He works full-time). It's very hard for me to hide anything, cause I have a huge mouth! Reviewing sex toys is the least of my freakishness! Honestly, not a whole lot of people know, but it's not because i hide it, it's probably because they're still trying to just figure out what isn't quite right about me or my relationship with Master. Lol.
10/20/2009
I am a behavior trainer by day :o)....IE work with kids that are on the autism spectrum. Some close family know I review...Like Cousins I am very close with. That's about it ;o) like to have some secrets.
10/21/2009
Random Thought: This thread just made think about how funny it would be to go into one of those shady sex toy shops, wearing a trench-coat, big sunglasses, and a fedora. I wouldn't be able to stop laughing if I was out dressed that way. Oh yeah... and a mustache (if you don't already have one!).
11/10/2009
I grad'd college and entered the "real" world for a couple of years until the bottom dropped out of everything in MI. I tried going back to school, but it was too expensive.
I work at home now. It pays the bills, but that's it. Right now I'm just floating along, trying to get back on my feet, while my gf does her college thing. We both plan on getting the heck out of this dying state asap.
I work at home now. It pays the bills, but that's it. Right now I'm just floating along, trying to get back on my feet, while my gf does her college thing. We both plan on getting the heck out of this dying state asap.
11/16/2009
I;m a Political Science and Women's Studies major - I hope the strong feminist in me will allow me to remain true to myself and not get discouraged by the future political scientist in me. I know I have to uphold some sort or appearance that lets people know that I am...well not insane. This shall be a challenge!
But I am also the president of a group on my campus called Gender Issues and we are holding a condom-sculpting contest and giving away a sex toy basket (and will be thanking EF for supplying some great beginner toys) as a prize - so I have a good start with not being "normal"
But I am also the president of a group on my campus called Gender Issues and we are holding a condom-sculpting contest and giving away a sex toy basket (and will be thanking EF for supplying some great beginner toys) as a prize - so I have a good start with not being "normal"
11/16/2009
I'm a superhero.
Actually, I'm all kinds of things. I'm a musician, an office worker at a big cultural institution (which is a REALLY cool job), a freelance translator, and a babysitter. And, you know, whatever else comes my way. I've lived and worked all over the world, I speak a number of different languages (some fluently, some not), and I like to bake things.
I'm moderately "out" about this sex toy stuff... all of my friends know about it, though I don't really feel the need to tell my family or coworkers. I don't think they'd want to know.
Actually, I'm all kinds of things. I'm a musician, an office worker at a big cultural institution (which is a REALLY cool job), a freelance translator, and a babysitter. And, you know, whatever else comes my way. I've lived and worked all over the world, I speak a number of different languages (some fluently, some not), and I like to bake things.
I'm moderately "out" about this sex toy stuff... all of my friends know about it, though I don't really feel the need to tell my family or coworkers. I don't think they'd want to know.
11/16/2009
I'm in school to be a pharmacist (year 5 out of 6). I'm "out" to my friends. I'm wondering if in the future I'll have to be more incognito about it because of my profession.
12/13/2009
Sex addict by night, giant geek by day. Sophomore with hopes of graduating early; major in Accounting, minor in Computer science. The last time I had to choose between a party with some friends and waiting in line for a new gadget, it wasn't a choice. That iPhone was mine! (Until I learned just how much the total cost was. By the next month that iPhone was the first guy's I could pawn it off on to save money.)
My "secret" love for sex toys isn't too secret. A friend once walked in on me using a fleshlight. (awkward conversation that started with "are you fucking a flashlight?"). It's pretty much common knowledge that I enjoy sex toys, though the particulars are thankfully my own secrets still.
Actually it's kind of funny. I try not to link my real name to anything online that could be found by a company later in life. I know how easy it is to find personal information with a google search, I'd rather not have prospective employers knowing that I once went on a spree and ordered 14 sex toys within a week. However if they wanted the info, all they'd have to do is call up a friend of mine and ask some pointed questions
My "secret" love for sex toys isn't too secret. A friend once walked in on me using a fleshlight. (awkward conversation that started with "are you fucking a flashlight?"). It's pretty much common knowledge that I enjoy sex toys, though the particulars are thankfully my own secrets still.
Actually it's kind of funny. I try not to link my real name to anything online that could be found by a company later in life. I know how easy it is to find personal information with a google search, I'd rather not have prospective employers knowing that I once went on a spree and ordered 14 sex toys within a week. However if they wanted the info, all they'd have to do is call up a friend of mine and ask some pointed questions
12/16/2009
Me? Mostly a student. A lot of my BDSM friends know about my BDSM habits and reviewing sex toys, but my family and vanilla friends do not.
12/16/2009
Something about this thread bothers me. We assume too often that vanilla looking people are not may-be as interesting as some in this community. And really is there anything wrong with being discrete or not as “open” about your private life? Isn’t that why they call it private? Look at Raven (aka Merinus) I’m assuming this is her picture. She looks like she would be a normal average everyday person, right? O.K. so she buys sex toys and is a Wiccan High Priestess. Does this make her, as she stated, any less “stable” or “conservative”? So she knows her clients may not be o.k. with this so she presents herself as vanilla. This is what we all do and what makes it fun is figuring out who isn’t really as vanilla as we may think. As an executive working in a very conservative business, an active republication, an activist, a mom and wife, I need to present myself in a way that is seen as “acceptable”. I hate to burst your bubbles but having a sex toy box with vibes and even better a butt plug and openly discussing this is not seen as “acceptable” out here in this world. I am one of a few that would be more than happy to have Raven as my CPA, if she were good, even knowing all this about her. What we are is what we are and there is no secret identity just me being discrete.
12/17/2009
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I'm not sure I understand what your beef is. Is it some people are open about reviewing sex toys? Is it that people are revealing a part of their vanilla identities? I'm not sure what bubble you're trying to burst.
Originally posted by
Heather
Something about this thread bothers me. We assume too often that vanilla looking people are not may-be as interesting as some in this community. And really is there anything wrong with being discrete or not as “open” about your private life? Isn’t
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Something about this thread bothers me. We assume too often that vanilla looking people are not may-be as interesting as some in this community. And really is there anything wrong with being discrete or not as “open” about your private life? Isn’t that why they call it private? Look at Raven (aka Merinus) I’m assuming this is her picture. She looks like she would be a normal average everyday person, right? O.K. so she buys sex toys and is a Wiccan High Priestess. Does this make her, as she stated, any less “stable” or “conservative”? So she knows her clients may not be o.k. with this so she presents herself as vanilla. This is what we all do and what makes it fun is figuring out who isn’t really as vanilla as we may think. As an executive working in a very conservative business, an active republication, an activist, a mom and wife, I need to present myself in a way that is seen as “acceptable”. I hate to burst your bubbles but having a sex toy box with vibes and even better a butt plug and openly discussing this is not seen as “acceptable” out here in this world. I am one of a few that would be more than happy to have Raven as my CPA, if she were good, even knowing all this about her. What we are is what we are and there is no secret identity just me being discrete.
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12/17/2009
I'm not 100% clear either
12/17/2009
I think it was just supposed to a fun thread about "Who are you in real life?" I'm not sure what the hype is about either.
12/17/2009
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Not really a beef, no hype, no big deal just a thought that crossed my mind after reading the thread. It seems funny to me how we put ourselves and others into little boxes and think we just stay there. Yes I think the idea of the poll was great and fun. It was very interesting and just made me think. As you said in your post besides being a superhero you are many things to many people including yourself. We all have layers... that's all no big deal.
Originally posted by
EffinSara
I'm not sure I understand what your beef is. Is it some people are open about reviewing sex toys? Is it that people are revealing a part of their vanilla identities? I'm not sure what bubble you're trying to burst.
12/18/2009
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I obviously got a kick out of this post. And I get a kick out of sitting behind my desk discussing people's taxes and financial situations, knowing that if most of them had any idea what I do in private, they would be out the door in a heartbeat. It's like living a double life. LOL. Sometimes I have to wonder how non-vanilla some of them might be, as well.
Originally posted by
Heather
Something about this thread bothers me. We assume too often that vanilla looking people are not may-be as interesting as some in this community. And really is there anything wrong with being discrete or not as “open” about your private life? Isn’t
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more
Something about this thread bothers me. We assume too often that vanilla looking people are not may-be as interesting as some in this community. And really is there anything wrong with being discrete or not as “open” about your private life? Isn’t that why they call it private? Look at Raven (aka Merinus) I’m assuming this is her picture. She looks like she would be a normal average everyday person, right? O.K. so she buys sex toys and is a Wiccan High Priestess. Does this make her, as she stated, any less “stable” or “conservative”? So she knows her clients may not be o.k. with this so she presents herself as vanilla. This is what we all do and what makes it fun is figuring out who isn’t really as vanilla as we may think. As an executive working in a very conservative business, an active republication, an activist, a mom and wife, I need to present myself in a way that is seen as “acceptable”. I hate to burst your bubbles but having a sex toy box with vibes and even better a butt plug and openly discussing this is not seen as “acceptable” out here in this world. I am one of a few that would be more than happy to have Raven as my CPA, if she were good, even knowing all this about her. What we are is what we are and there is no secret identity just me being discrete.
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12/29/2009
I'm a comic book artist. Well a free lance artist that wants to be a full time comic artist. I spend more time at the drafting trying to get a pose right then having fun in the bed. It surprise people when I tell them what I'm into hehe.
01/01/2010
I am "out" as well it's just easier for me. I prefer to be honest about my life with people though I will admit it has cost me quite a lot, it still feels better. I was called a liar by my parents all my life so I just feel awful if I try to hide. 'Course then again I don't have much to lose and I don't fear family services poking their noses in.
01/09/2010
I'd like to 'come out' about my experiences and such, but since I am going into administrative assisting, I'm having to tone down a lot of stuff that has my name on it so I look 'acceptable enough' for a prospective employer. I still show my personality, but it's more intellectual humor rather than base rants about my childish ex-husband or my awe over discovering how wonderful sex can really be.
Sad, really.
Sad, really.
01/10/2010