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Beck Beck
Been in an abusive relationship? Could be violence, emotional, or anything else. Voting will be private. When I was 16 I dated this one guy Jesse he would throw things around whenever we got into a fight, and he would yell at me. He never hit me, but I could tell he waited to. Later I found out that he was dating this other girl I went to school with after we broke up. He use to tell her while they was having sex how fat she was, and other nasty things. Seems like this guy was just a real jerk.
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No
55  (51%)
Other
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Total votes: 107
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07/29/2011
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Elnoa Elnoa
A few, when I was young and naive.
07/29/2011
The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
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Originally posted by Elnoa
A few, when I was young and naive.
I'm glad I've never been in an abusive relationship, and I'm sorry for those who have!
07/29/2011
Elnoa Elnoa
I think it's all in the attitude. I had the presence of mind to end the relationships once I realized there was a problem, and I didn't let it ruin my perception of men or what a relationship should be.
07/29/2011
Chilipepper Chilipepper
My marriage was an emotionally abusive relationship where he held me emotional hostage for years - it got to the point in which he moved us out in the middle of nowhere Montana to isolate me from my family. My decisions were tainted by 'how will he take it?' and 'what would it do to him?'; never 'this is killing my soul'.

It backfired. Living with just him made me realize what was going on. I divorced him and never looked back.
07/29/2011
PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
I've been very lucky with my relationships, and I feel for those who haven't been so lucky.
07/29/2011
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
no and i thank my lucky stars everyday. i would never wish that on any man or woman
07/30/2011
MaryExy MaryExy
My sister's last boyfriend ended up going off of his meds because she felt like he was more "there" without them. Then he ended up becoming a drunk and getting into fights with her all the time. First it was just throwing stuff, then aiming it at her, then using his fists. Personally, though, the most abuse I've gotten is a guy telling me I should wear red lipstick because it's hotter than wearing no makeup.
07/30/2011
LostBoy988 LostBoy988
Thankfully not yet
07/30/2011
thebest thebest
yes
07/30/2011
kellyg kellyg
Yes, I have, when I was younger (in my younger teens, I am now 26)
07/31/2011
emiliaa emiliaa
I had a sex partner who started treating me like shit after a while. It did some serious emotional damage even though I neevr really had feelings beyond friendship for him. :/
08/02/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
No!
A guy won't last long around here if there's even a hint of violence on his behalf. I won't tolerate that!
08/02/2011
sktb0007 sktb0007
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
Been in an abusive relationship? Could be violence, emotional, or anything else. Voting will be private. When I was 16 I dated this one guy Jesse he would throw things around whenever we got into a fight, and he would yell at me. He never hit me, but ... More
emotionally abusive yes
08/02/2011
tickle me pink tickle me pink
Thankfully I haven't, and I consider myself very lucky. I've had a handful of friends who were, though. It was terrible to watch them go through it, but they were able to get out and as far as I know they're all in healthy long term relationships now.
08/02/2011
eeep eeep
I've been in an emotionally abusive relationship once, tried to make things work a bit and get him some help (as he started using drugs which was why it started), but left when an argument got bad enough that I thought he was about to hit me once. I wouldn't have tolerated any of it, but we had a kid together, and I was hoping he could get clean and get himself together. As it was, I didn't stick around very long after that shit started, as it quickly became clear he didn't want to get clean.
11/24/2011
poetprincess poetprincess
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Originally posted by Beck
Been in an abusive relationship? Could be violence, emotional, or anything else. Voting will be private. When I was 16 I dated this one guy Jesse he would throw things around whenever we got into a fight, and he would yell at me. He never hit me, but ... More
Yes I stayed with my kids dad for almost nine years, through all the abuse and I did it because I thought we should be together for the sake of the kids. It wasn't till he beat me up one night while I was pregnant and I ended up in the hospital that made me get rid of him..
12/05/2011
HannahPanda HannahPanda
Too many to count. It's a shame that anyone has to say yes to that, but it happens and sometimes we're just too afraid or don't know how to stop it. I got out of mine and I hope more men and women realize the signs of abuse and learn to put a stop to it before it gets so far it's inescapeable.
12/05/2011
LoveTies LoveTies
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Originally posted by Beck
Been in an abusive relationship? Could be violence, emotional, or anything else. Voting will be private. When I was 16 I dated this one guy Jesse he would throw things around whenever we got into a fight, and he would yell at me. He never hit me, but ... More
Yes, I have been in abusive relationships. Physical, and emotional.
01/04/2012
jedent jedent
i was in an abusive relationship for three years in high school. mostly verbal and mental, but one day i got stuck with a butterfly knife and i knew it was just too much for me.

now, i'm glad for the experience in the sense that i learned how to sniff those bastards out quick. not that anyone ever listens when i tell them they're with an abuser.
01/04/2012
Hallmar82 Hallmar82
Our relationship was rather unhealthy for a while when she was not being faithful, but it's an emotional hurt, not physical. I image it would be very hard for me. My cousin went through an abusive relationship that he had to call off due to her psychological problems. He really liked her but couldn't live with her.
01/04/2012
Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
nope, and I hope I never will be in one.
01/04/2012
Beck Beck
All these stories sound awful. Hugs to everyone!
01/04/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
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Originally posted by poetprincess
Yes I stayed with my kids dad for almost nine years, through all the abuse and I did it because I thought we should be together for the sake of the kids. It wasn't till he beat me up one night while I was pregnant and I ended up in the hospital ... More
OMG that's horrible. I'm glad you got rid of him, and that you and your kids are safe now.
01/05/2012
31 Flavors 31 Flavors
I dated a girl whom I let manipulate me and then she stalked me. That's close enough in my book.
06/04/2012
Dixiemomma Dixiemomma
Yes and i got myself out and wont allow it to happen again.....
06/04/2012
digit88 digit88
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Originally posted by Beck
Been in an abusive relationship? Could be violence, emotional, or anything else. Voting will be private. When I was 16 I dated this one guy Jesse he would throw things around whenever we got into a fight, and he would yell at me. He never hit me, but ... More
haven't
06/04/2012
Modern^Spank^Anthem Modern^Spank^Anthem
not one of my choosing
06/04/2012
mistre$$ mistre$$
Maybe. I say this, because I'm not sure how I feel about it, especially because it ended so recently. I think I may have found myself in a few emotionally abusive situations, and now in retrospect, I'm able to better put them into perspective.
06/04/2012
thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
I'm not really sure anymore... I know many people have been in way worse situations and I feel weird calling it abusive, but my ex would tell me what I could and couldn't wear, get upset when I wore anything revealing, and tell me that dressing that way made it harder for him to love me. It wasn't until I got into a better relationship that I realized the contrast between situations, how controlling he'd been and how horrible he'd made me feel about myself.
06/06/2012
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