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How open about sex were your parents
I was never told about anything. It was never talked about and I wish it was more open. The only time it was even close to being talked about was when there was a rumor of someone my gma heard about and her saying bad things about them. Maybe the scandalous person's parents weren't very open either.
07/20/2011
My parents were pretty conservative about sex. My dad never talked about it. My mom was a "wait until you're married" type of person. Because of their attitudes, I didn't bother to even ask questions about sex or related matters while growing up. I was an avid reader, so I would just look up answers in encyclopedias and other literary sources. My mom threw a fit when she found out I was having sex with my boyfriend at age 16. I was already taking oral contraceptives for ovarian cysts (I was still a virgin when I started taking them and taking them didn't influence my decision to have sex at all). My mom took away my pills! She thought they were basically giving me license to have sex. That was pretty dumb on her part, because I continued to have sex. We used condoms, but I still had a couple of near misses.
07/20/2011
My mother was always very open about sex the pros the cons the ways everything so I was pretty well informed when I first had sex. When bf and I were together we regularly stayed at each others houses in the same bed even before we had sex for the first time. Mom never out right told me NOT to have sex she always told me to be sure I was ready to be safe about it and if I needed condoms or birth control to come to her and she would help.
07/20/2011
Highly discouraged, though my mum did take an afternoon off to tell us girls about condoms and how to use them, and she even showed us a female condom while she was at it.
I stole it and deformed it until it kinda looked like a sock. That got me yelled at (I didn't know it was so expensive and that my mum was planning to keep it to re-demonstrate if it was needed). I guess I was too young to find the idea of sex very interesting... as in something to actually do; it was mostly intelectual curiosity then.
Other than that, I got several "talks" about sex growing up. The latest was, I think, a couple of weeks ago, on the subject of women who don't insist their partners wear condoms.
Some of the talks were initiated by me or my sisters, some were from my mum.
Not as positive as you might think; when I was fifteen I timidly approached my mum with a hypothetical question about what she would do if one of her daughters turned out to be a lesbian... the gist: she was repulsed by even the idea, and said so in very graphic terms. Funnily enough, part of that speech included that she might be able to accept a trans, but not a lesbian (as weird as that sounds. She understands gender dysphoria, but can't grasp the concept of people being attracted to the same sex).
Needless to say, I never got far enough to tell her I actually fancied girls as well as boys. She still doesn't know. -_-
I stole it and deformed it until it kinda looked like a sock. That got me yelled at (I didn't know it was so expensive and that my mum was planning to keep it to re-demonstrate if it was needed). I guess I was too young to find the idea of sex very interesting... as in something to actually do; it was mostly intelectual curiosity then.
Other than that, I got several "talks" about sex growing up. The latest was, I think, a couple of weeks ago, on the subject of women who don't insist their partners wear condoms.
Some of the talks were initiated by me or my sisters, some were from my mum.
Not as positive as you might think; when I was fifteen I timidly approached my mum with a hypothetical question about what she would do if one of her daughters turned out to be a lesbian... the gist: she was repulsed by even the idea, and said so in very graphic terms. Funnily enough, part of that speech included that she might be able to accept a trans, but not a lesbian (as weird as that sounds. She understands gender dysphoria, but can't grasp the concept of people being attracted to the same sex).
Needless to say, I never got far enough to tell her I actually fancied girls as well as boys. She still doesn't know. -_-
07/21/2011
My mother never expected me or my sister to wait until marriage and actually discouraged that idea. If the only person I ever shared my body with was a husband, I know I would be curious and my mom recognized that. However, she did not encourage promiscuous sex and made it very how important safe sex is. Because we were informed, it was completely our responsibility if either of us were pregnant. I am very grateful for how realistically she raised me and, in the future, really hope to have that same sort of relationship with my children.
07/21/2011
I started really young, before my parents even really had a chance to get to me with the official sex talk. I was really open though, and sat my mom down when I was 14 to inform her that I wasn't a virgin. So, they knew I was having sex but they clearly didn't approve of it. That said, they weren't stupid so they knew it wouldn't work to outright forbid me. We just kept the conversation really open and reasonable - they made me think really hard about what I would do in the case of an unplanned pregnancy and learn to take the risks seriously. I think they handled it great.
07/21/2011
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No kidding. I knew my family was NOT "stupid" about it, but my parents never had any "talks" with me about anything. One day, however (when I'm in college...not high school), my mom calls up from the laundry room in the basement...."I know these HOTEL towels are great for washing your car, honey, but we have PLENTY of them now, can you PLEASE stop bringing home new ones?" WHAT COULD I SAY!!!????
Originally posted by
Trillian
when you were in High School?
A sheepish "okay mom". Ha, Ha.
07/23/2011
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Oh MY...that is something. The fact you are HERE, on this site, says YOU took a different, and I bet FAR more healthy course.
Originally posted by
Ivy Wilde
It was discussed, but only in a negative way. As in: It's disgusting. I don't know why anyone would want to do that. Etc...
In case you were wondering... Yes, I was adopted.
In case you were wondering... Yes, I was adopted.
07/23/2011
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A recent study (who knows how real those are, however) said that there was MORE sexual promiscuity and drug use in "Catholic parochial school attendees" then in non religious private school kids. I wonder if that is true...but it sure makes for some interesting discussions.
Originally posted by
newlady
It just was never discussed: raised catholic & attended catholic school.
(but I still think I turned out okay! lol)
(but I still think I turned out okay! lol)
07/23/2011
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