What do you think is the worst way to tell someone you want to breakup with them

Adam02viper Adam02viper
So i think breaking up with some one through a email or text message is just wrong, even though it might be easier on you to do it that way. So in your opinion how would you not want someone to break up with you, or would you not want to break up with someone that way. Also comment on what you think would be the hardest way to break up with someone.
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Over the phone
Rhazya , Antipova , Beck , wrmbreze , Undecided
5
Text Message
girl next door , Adam02viper , BeautiFullFigured , Lady Marmelade , Valentinka , slynch , darthkitt3n , pinkcupcakes , Lio , Darling Jen , SexyTabby , LikeSunshineDust , Stephanie Marie , Pleasure Piratess , Waterfall , sbon , sixfootsex , Gunsmoke , null , Alyjazz , toxie m , *HisMrs* , Shellz31 , nsfsf , Rainbow Boy , REDRUM , potstickers , LavenderSkies , Pixel , shelly8791 , Yoda , ❦Angel Of Music❦ , Mell , Scarlette , GravyCakes , Lady Venus , Bunnycups , kendra30752 , Rossie , Judas Iscars , MamaBear , Virgulino , MaryExy , kinksters , Dusk , Akira , ToyGurl , ~KillerQueen~ , deletedacct , CAKES , sweetiejo , ZenaidaMacroura , angel142stx , thebest , Kitty Grub , PiratePrincess , lanky , beachluv51800 , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , Antipova , Beck , Kitka , Wide Awake Daydream , voenne , wrmbreze , Ilovelingerie , LusciousLollypop , bayosgirl , GONE! , LennaKieran , caligaliber , humblepie , SilverMinxxx , gsfanatic , brooketacular , mistre$$ , Undecided , TheirPet , ninja250 , SMichelle , dirtythoughts:) , meezerosity , MaeGal , justme23
84
E-mail
Adam02viper , Lady Marmelade , Valentinka , darthkitt3n , SexyTabby , LikeSunshineDust , Stephanie Marie , Pleasure Piratess , sbon , Gunsmoke , ~LaUr3n~ , *HisMrs* , Shellz31 , Rainbow Boy , REDRUM , shelly8791 , ❦Angel Of Music❦ , Mell , GravyCakes , Lady Venus , Bunnycups , kendra30752 , Rossie , MamaBear , MaryExy , ToyGurl , deletedacct , sweetiejo , ZenaidaMacroura , thebest , Kitty Grub , SuperSarah116 , lanky , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , Beck , Kitka , Wide Awake Daydream , wrmbreze , bayosgirl , gsfanatic , mistre$$ , Undecided , Upyourreviews , meezerosity
44
Get someone else to do it for you
Adam02viper , BeautiFullFigured , Lady Marmelade , Valentinka , darthkitt3n , Remigirl , Lio , Darling Jen , SexyTabby , LikeSunshineDust , Stephanie Marie , Pleasure Piratess , sbon , Rarity , sixfootsex , That Guy , CSEA , Gunsmoke , teeny <3 , null , hive83 , jfree , Alyjazz , toxie m , *HisMrs* , Shellz31 , nsfsf , Rainbow Boy , DeliciousSurprise , sexyintexas , REDRUM , potstickers , LavenderSkies , Pixel , BadassFatass , lovebugg , ❦Angel Of Music❦ , Mell , Scarlette , GravyCakes , Lady Venus , Bunnycups , Crystal1 , Rossie , Judas Iscars , MaryExy , kinksters , Dusk , Rachel Nunez , Yebby , P'Gell , Taylor , ToyGurl , deletedacct , Rhazya , ZenaidaMacroura , DTV88 , angel142stx , thebest , Kitty Grub , guard083 , SuperSarah116 , PiratePrincess , lanky , lilmamma , Sunshineamine , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , JessCee , Antipova , Beck , Kitka , Wide Awake Daydream , voenne , wrmbreze , Ilovelingerie , LusciousLollypop , Hibangel , bayosgirl , GONE! , LennaKieran , caligaliber , humblepie , SilverMinxxx , gsfanatic , mistre$$ , Undecided , nanamondoute , roskat , booboo111926 , SMichelle , dirtythoughts:) , meezerosity , MaeGal
93
Letter/Note
Lady Marmelade , Valentinka , Lio , sbon , Gunsmoke , Shellz31 , ❦Angel Of Music❦ , GravyCakes , Lady Venus , kendra30752 , Judas Iscars , MaryExy , Kitty Grub , Beck , Kitka , wrmbreze , PropertyOfPotter , Undecided
18
In person
Moein , Eden C. , SuperSarah116 , voenne , eroticmutt
5
Ignore them and hope they get the message
BeautiFullFigured , Lady Marmelade , Valentinka , Kissaki , Chilipepper , Jimbo Jones , darthkitt3n , pinkcupcakes , Lio , Darling Jen , LikeSunshineDust , Stephanie Marie , Pleasure Piratess , Kindred , Waterfall , sbon , Rarity , CSEA , Gunsmoke , Coralbell , null , jfree , MissBre , Alyjazz , toxie m , *HisMrs* , Shellz31 , nsfsf , Rainbow Boy , DeliciousSurprise , sexyintexas , REDRUM , Persephone's Addiction , potstickers , Xavier7 , LavenderSkies , jakjak , Pixel , Ruru , lovebugg , Totogrl , ❦Angel Of Music❦ , Nathan von Minden , Eden C. , SerenityRed , Sohotdinosaur , Mr.RightNow , jaimijacklin , Mell , Solar Ray , GravyCakes , Lady Venus , froggiemoma , Bunnycups , Crystal1 , maebey , kendra30752 , Rossie , Judas Iscars , indiglo , MamaBear , Virgulino , MaryExy , kinksters , Dusk , Rachel Nunez , kelaaa33wish , Sex'и'Violence , BBW Talks Toys , Anjulie , padmeamidala , P'Gell , Pablo F Lleras , Owl Identified , ToyGurl , ~KillerQueen~ , deletedacct , Rhazya , ZenaidaMacroura , angel142stx , thebest , js250 , Kitty Grub , ToyingCouple , guard083 , Bignuf , ThoughtsAblaze , SuperSarah116 , PiratePrincess , Lucky21 , lanky , Rockin' , lilmamma , beachluv51800 , Apirka , Sunshineamine , Incendiaire , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , Squeaky , JessCee , Antipova , Beck , HugsAndBites , Kitka , voenne , wrmbreze , XYCopperheadSly , Ilovelingerie , snuggly , LusciousLollypop , Hibangel , thisisadeletedaccount , Stinkytofu10 , bayosgirl , Sangsara , rockblenny , friendswithfangs , GONE! , pasdechat , caligaliber , humblepie , SilverMinxxx , nosrslylol , gsfanatic , brooketacular , mistre$$ , Undecided , xMila , nanamondoute , roskat , booboo111926 , SMichelle , dirtythoughts:) , meezerosity , MaeGal , remember.me , hem , FallFire
138
Other
Remigirl , ToyTimeTim , null , Airen Wolf , DeliciousSurprise , cobiffle , ToyGurl , daniel and frances , Ryuson , Hibangel , ViVix , mistre$$
12
Total votes: 399 (173 voters)
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02/21/2011
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Moein Moein
I am always been frank and clear with others, but using a loong talking way and giving examples about what I want to tell him/her.

By this way I braek up with a good memories and calm way.

The worst thing will be Ignorring him.
02/21/2011
Chilipepper Chilipepper
The way guys dump me has always been ignoring me, and it hurts like hell. It's a special sort of sadism to think "I'll wash my guilt of having to deal with their feelings by completely avoiding them and hope they get the hint that way. I don't care if they think the relationship is still going and I'm just busy. I'll ignore their messages and let them make fools of themselves."

At least when I told my husband our marriage was over after nine years, I TOLD him IN PERSON and explained WHY. He said he had been expecting me to pack my bags and leave in the middle of the night since the sixth year of marriage. I told him only immature cowards do that sort of thing.
02/21/2011
Remigirl Remigirl
I had a boyfriend who called my friends phone once and she didn't answer so he left a message. It was to say that he wanted to break up with me and asking if she could tell me. Real classy!
02/21/2011
Stephanie Marie Stephanie Marie
Yeah a guy I was with had his new female do it for him! Ugh pathetic.
02/21/2011
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Call me old fashion, but if someone is breaking up with me, I hope they give me the courtesy to do it in person. Seems only right.

After that "Get someone else to do it for you" seems the worst way a person could do it, that is just so wrong!
02/21/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
I've been left via AIM instant message before. Kinda shitty, but I think I preferred it over having been in person because even tho we didn't really get along anymore and I didn't really want to be in the relationship anymore, I couldn't handle watching him cry over it and at least this way, it was over and done with. Another breakup happened over the phone, and was settled out in person.

Sometimes leaving people in person just doesn't work. My husband has an ex that he left a whole bunch of times, and she would always guilt him back into a relationship with her. He finally left her for good by finding all of her stuff that he had, packing it all into her car, and trailering it to her school. When she called him the next morning wondering why her car was in her parking lot, he told her that it was finally over and this time it was sticking. It wasn't until she had a new boyfriend that she acknowledged anywhere really that she wasn't with him anymore.

I do agree that you should give someone the courtesy of breaking up in person, especially if there's quite a bit of history there. But if they refuse to acknowledge it, there's not much else you can do besides stay in a relationship you don't really want to be in.
02/21/2011
Rarity Rarity
Quote:
Originally posted by Stephanie Marie
Yeah a guy I was with had his new female do it for him! Ugh pathetic.
That is actually pretty bad.
02/21/2011
sbon sbon
All of them except in person are pretty terrible. Though, if you're with someone who can't break up with you in person, that's probably a sign anyway.
02/21/2011
CSEA CSEA
Quote:
Originally posted by Adam02viper
So i think breaking up with some one through a email or text message is just wrong, even though it might be easier on you to do it that way. So in your opinion how would you not want someone to break up with you, or would you not want to break up ... More
Jeez, get someone else to do it? And Ignore? I can't ever picture myself doing that.
02/21/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
There are 1,000 bad ways to break up - but only one good way; face to face.

'Man up' and be honest.
02/21/2011
hive83 hive83
Quote:
Originally posted by Adam02viper
So i think breaking up with some one through a email or text message is just wrong, even though it might be easier on you to do it that way. So in your opinion how would you not want someone to break up with you, or would you not want to break up ... More
I hope most would do it face to face.
02/21/2011
jfree jfree
OP, this sounds like you're mostly inferring meatspace couples/people who date offline. I've done all my dating online so I didn't get to do the noble thing of breaking up with them in person (most recent ex lives in England. I live in Texas. I am not dropping $2000 to break up with someone in a foreign country I've never been to.)

Pretty much, any but ignoring/getting someone else to do it is fine with me. Yeah, it hurts, but I'd rather be told directly than have to play a guessing game when I'm already in emotional distress. I generally offer the same back and do it formally/directly because I'm not putting someone through the same bad feelings I'm feeling.
02/21/2011
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Adam02viper
So i think breaking up with some one through a email or text message is just wrong, even though it might be easier on you to do it that way. So in your opinion how would you not want someone to break up with you, or would you not want to break up ... More
All of the above would be my answer unless it is an abusive relationship where you just need to get out and worry about the niceties later when you are safe.
02/21/2011
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
I chose email for a number of reasons. It depends on why you are breaking up and who's fault it is. If the person you are breaking up with did something horrible, having someone do it for you or ignoring them can be acceptable if they really should never have a right to talk to you again. Email is pretty bad. It's worse than texting because text goes to a phone which is likely attached to the person and will more likely get an immediate response. Email is even more cowardly.
02/21/2011
toxie m toxie m
In person is always the best way. The more impersonal you get about it (text, ignoring, having someone else do it) the worse the way it is.
02/21/2011
Alyjazz Alyjazz
I think getting someone else to do it is the worst. I had a friend in high school who looooved to deliver the "bad news". I don't know how many times I heard her asking if she could do it when she found out someone was getting ready to end things with their other.

I suppose the best ways would be in person or over the phone, but getting dumped or having to dump someone suck no matter which way it comes. Personally I'd prefer not to be dumped in person because then if I happened to break down there's no one to witness it.
02/21/2011
DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
A few awful ways:
-Getting someone else to do it for you
-Ignore them and hope they 'get it'
-tell them you want to break up with them while you're in bed with them.
02/22/2011
sexyintexas sexyintexas
Quote:
Originally posted by Adam02viper
So i think breaking up with some one through a email or text message is just wrong, even though it might be easier on you to do it that way. So in your opinion how would you not want someone to break up with you, or would you not want to break up ... More
Just grow some nuts and tell them
02/22/2011
Jobthingy Jobthingy
I know a girl who found out that her guy broke up with her because his fb relationship status went to single and then within a day it changed to with someone else. (The evil side of me found this to be rather amusing because they are both idiots)
02/22/2011
potstickers potstickers
I've actually had to break up with someone over a text message once because he wasn't answering his phone ever or checking messages from me online. Boy was he sad that he had talked to me only once a month once I broke up with him!
02/22/2011
Xavier7 Xavier7
Quote:
Originally posted by Adam02viper
So i think breaking up with some one through a email or text message is just wrong, even though it might be easier on you to do it that way. So in your opinion how would you not want someone to break up with you, or would you not want to break up ... More
I think ignoring them is the worst, and cruellest way.
02/22/2011
Pixel Pixel
Text, ignoring, or having someone else do it for them is the worst ways to be dumped. Urgh. It's just cruel.
02/23/2011
Pixel Pixel
Blast, double post, sorry!
02/23/2011
BadassFatass BadassFatass
Having someone else do it for you is terrible. I could never do that.
02/24/2011
Nathan von Minden Nathan von Minden
Quote:
Originally posted by Moein
I am always been frank and clear with others, but using a loong talking way and giving examples about what I want to tell him/her.

By this way I braek up with a good memories and calm way.

The worst thing will be Ignorring him.
I completely agree. It would just make me wonder for ages what happened, and drive me insane.
02/26/2011
Eden C. Eden C.
In person is the hardest. I know it's the proper way to do so, because if you are breaking someone's heart, you deserve to see their reaction.

I just remember in high school when this girl broke up with me. Her fingers reeked of nail polish remover because she'd led the new girl paint her fingernails. She started to have sex with me (yes, after ending it), then stopped in the middle, said she felt nothing, and left. Good times.
02/26/2011
Eden C. Eden C.
Actually, I think the worst way to break up with someone would be indirect, public, and ridiculous.

Examples: TV Commercial, public speech, etc.
02/27/2011
Mr.RightNow Mr.RightNow
on valentines day
03/02/2011
Mell Mell
I had to dump one of my exes on facebook by changing my status because I knew if we talked I'd take it back (as I had before) but that is definitely the worst way, to break up without letting them know!
03/11/2011
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