So i think breaking up with some one through a email or text message is just wrong, even though it might be easier on you to do it that way. So in your opinion how would you not want someone to break up with you, or would you not want to break up with someone that way. Also comment on what you think would be the hardest way to break up with someone.
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What do you think is the worst way to tell someone you want to breakup with them
The way guys dump me has always been ignoring me, and it hurts like hell. It's a special sort of sadism to think "I'll wash my guilt of having to deal with their feelings by completely avoiding them and hope they get the hint that way. I don't care if they think the relationship is still going and I'm just busy. I'll ignore their messages and let them make fools of themselves."
At least when I told my husband our marriage was over after nine years, I TOLD him IN PERSON and explained WHY. He said he had been expecting me to pack my bags and leave in the middle of the night since the sixth year of marriage. I told him only immature cowards do that sort of thing.
At least when I told my husband our marriage was over after nine years, I TOLD him IN PERSON and explained WHY. He said he had been expecting me to pack my bags and leave in the middle of the night since the sixth year of marriage. I told him only immature cowards do that sort of thing.
02/21/2011
I've been left via AIM instant message before. Kinda shitty, but I think I preferred it over having been in person because even tho we didn't really get along anymore and I didn't really want to be in the relationship anymore, I couldn't handle watching him cry over it and at least this way, it was over and done with. Another breakup happened over the phone, and was settled out in person.
Sometimes leaving people in person just doesn't work. My husband has an ex that he left a whole bunch of times, and she would always guilt him back into a relationship with her. He finally left her for good by finding all of her stuff that he had, packing it all into her car, and trailering it to her school. When she called him the next morning wondering why her car was in her parking lot, he told her that it was finally over and this time it was sticking. It wasn't until she had a new boyfriend that she acknowledged anywhere really that she wasn't with him anymore.
I do agree that you should give someone the courtesy of breaking up in person, especially if there's quite a bit of history there. But if they refuse to acknowledge it, there's not much else you can do besides stay in a relationship you don't really want to be in.
Sometimes leaving people in person just doesn't work. My husband has an ex that he left a whole bunch of times, and she would always guilt him back into a relationship with her. He finally left her for good by finding all of her stuff that he had, packing it all into her car, and trailering it to her school. When she called him the next morning wondering why her car was in her parking lot, he told her that it was finally over and this time it was sticking. It wasn't until she had a new boyfriend that she acknowledged anywhere really that she wasn't with him anymore.
I do agree that you should give someone the courtesy of breaking up in person, especially if there's quite a bit of history there. But if they refuse to acknowledge it, there's not much else you can do besides stay in a relationship you don't really want to be in.
02/21/2011
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Jeez, get someone else to do it? And Ignore? I can't ever picture myself doing that.
Originally posted by
Adam02viper
So i think breaking up with some one through a email or text message is just wrong, even though it might be easier on you to do it that way. So in your opinion how would you not want someone to break up with you, or would you not want to break up
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So i think breaking up with some one through a email or text message is just wrong, even though it might be easier on you to do it that way. So in your opinion how would you not want someone to break up with you, or would you not want to break up with someone that way. Also comment on what you think would be the hardest way to break up with someone.
02/21/2011
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I hope most would do it face to face.
Originally posted by
Adam02viper
So i think breaking up with some one through a email or text message is just wrong, even though it might be easier on you to do it that way. So in your opinion how would you not want someone to break up with you, or would you not want to break up
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So i think breaking up with some one through a email or text message is just wrong, even though it might be easier on you to do it that way. So in your opinion how would you not want someone to break up with you, or would you not want to break up with someone that way. Also comment on what you think would be the hardest way to break up with someone.
02/21/2011
OP, this sounds like you're mostly inferring meatspace couples/people who date offline. I've done all my dating online so I didn't get to do the noble thing of breaking up with them in person (most recent ex lives in England. I live in Texas. I am not dropping $2000 to break up with someone in a foreign country I've never been to.)
Pretty much, any but ignoring/getting someone else to do it is fine with me. Yeah, it hurts, but I'd rather be told directly than have to play a guessing game when I'm already in emotional distress. I generally offer the same back and do it formally/directly because I'm not putting someone through the same bad feelings I'm feeling.
Pretty much, any but ignoring/getting someone else to do it is fine with me. Yeah, it hurts, but I'd rather be told directly than have to play a guessing game when I'm already in emotional distress. I generally offer the same back and do it formally/directly because I'm not putting someone through the same bad feelings I'm feeling.
02/21/2011
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All of the above would be my answer unless it is an abusive relationship where you just need to get out and worry about the niceties later when you are safe.
Originally posted by
Adam02viper
So i think breaking up with some one through a email or text message is just wrong, even though it might be easier on you to do it that way. So in your opinion how would you not want someone to break up with you, or would you not want to break up
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So i think breaking up with some one through a email or text message is just wrong, even though it might be easier on you to do it that way. So in your opinion how would you not want someone to break up with you, or would you not want to break up with someone that way. Also comment on what you think would be the hardest way to break up with someone.
02/21/2011
I chose email for a number of reasons. It depends on why you are breaking up and who's fault it is. If the person you are breaking up with did something horrible, having someone do it for you or ignoring them can be acceptable if they really should never have a right to talk to you again. Email is pretty bad. It's worse than texting because text goes to a phone which is likely attached to the person and will more likely get an immediate response. Email is even more cowardly.
02/21/2011
I think getting someone else to do it is the worst. I had a friend in high school who looooved to deliver the "bad news". I don't know how many times I heard her asking if she could do it when she found out someone was getting ready to end things with their other.
I suppose the best ways would be in person or over the phone, but getting dumped or having to dump someone suck no matter which way it comes. Personally I'd prefer not to be dumped in person because then if I happened to break down there's no one to witness it.
I suppose the best ways would be in person or over the phone, but getting dumped or having to dump someone suck no matter which way it comes. Personally I'd prefer not to be dumped in person because then if I happened to break down there's no one to witness it.
02/21/2011
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Just grow some nuts and tell them
Originally posted by
Adam02viper
So i think breaking up with some one through a email or text message is just wrong, even though it might be easier on you to do it that way. So in your opinion how would you not want someone to break up with you, or would you not want to break up
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So i think breaking up with some one through a email or text message is just wrong, even though it might be easier on you to do it that way. So in your opinion how would you not want someone to break up with you, or would you not want to break up with someone that way. Also comment on what you think would be the hardest way to break up with someone.
02/22/2011
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I think ignoring them is the worst, and cruellest way.
Originally posted by
Adam02viper
So i think breaking up with some one through a email or text message is just wrong, even though it might be easier on you to do it that way. So in your opinion how would you not want someone to break up with you, or would you not want to break up
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So i think breaking up with some one through a email or text message is just wrong, even though it might be easier on you to do it that way. So in your opinion how would you not want someone to break up with you, or would you not want to break up with someone that way. Also comment on what you think would be the hardest way to break up with someone.
02/22/2011
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I completely agree. It would just make me wonder for ages what happened, and drive me insane.
Originally posted by
Moein
I am always been frank and clear with others, but using a loong talking way and giving examples about what I want to tell him/her.
By this way I braek up with a good memories and calm way.
The worst thing will be Ignorring him.
By this way I braek up with a good memories and calm way.
The worst thing will be Ignorring him.
02/26/2011
In person is the hardest. I know it's the proper way to do so, because if you are breaking someone's heart, you deserve to see their reaction.
I just remember in high school when this girl broke up with me. Her fingers reeked of nail polish remover because she'd led the new girl paint her fingernails. She started to have sex with me (yes, after ending it), then stopped in the middle, said she felt nothing, and left. Good times.
I just remember in high school when this girl broke up with me. Her fingers reeked of nail polish remover because she'd led the new girl paint her fingernails. She started to have sex with me (yes, after ending it), then stopped in the middle, said she felt nothing, and left. Good times.
02/26/2011
