Who pays on a date?

kadelette kadelette
Just curious about who tends to pay on the dates you go on!
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I usually pay.
14
They usually pay.
6
Whoever asked the other person out on the date pays.
8
Both parties pay their half of the bill.
7
We alternate on who pays for each date.
23
Other (Explain in comments.)
3
Total votes: 61 (50 voters)
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11/26/2012
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ejrbrndps ejrbrndps
we usually take turns but now it really doesnt matter because we are married now
11/26/2012
no longer here no longer here
ok...we are married, not dating...but Mrs tells our girls that the guy always pays...we know it's old fashioned...but...well ...we feel that women (or girls) should be treated like ladies...spoiled...put on a pedestal...if he isn't going to pay for the date then is he really going to treat you right?

NOW...that is not to say that a date has to be out of his price range...but that is a show of responsibility and money savvy as well...but again, we view dates as interviews for potential mates.
11/26/2012
mjtheprincess mjtheprincess
We alternate paying. Although that is totally against everything my boyfriend believes, I like to pay sometimes. I make money too, but he pays most of the bills so I think it's only fair. If I get to the register first, I get to pay. haha
11/26/2012
MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
Whoever has more money at the time!
11/26/2012
Chilipepper Chilipepper
Despite my pride being stung, I'm strong-armed into letting him pay (he won't even let me look at the bill - he immediately snatches it and gets his wallet out). Thankfully I'm a cheap date, and any activity that requires money is usually his idea.

My mother told me that the guy is supposed to pay, end of story, but - face it - I'm at the tail end of Generation X and am Second Generation Women's Lib ... I've accepted my responsibility in pulling my own weight. I consider the guy paying to be Special rather than Expected.
11/26/2012
closed account closed account
the person who can afford it at the time.
11/26/2012
*Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
When I was with my ex I somehow always ended up paying the WHOLE bill even when it was his idea to go out because he was not good at keeping money. Just as soon as he got paid it was gone!!! Recently I went on 2 dates with a guy an he paid even after I said I would pay my half. I guess it really depends but usually the one who asks is the one who pays but I was also brought up men pay.
11/26/2012
no longer here no longer here
Quote:
Originally posted by Chilipepper
Despite my pride being stung, I'm strong-armed into letting him pay (he won't even let me look at the bill - he immediately snatches it and gets his wallet out). Thankfully I'm a cheap date, and any activity that requires money is usually ... More
While we see your point...shouldn't every date be "Special"? That is more our point.
11/26/2012
tortilla tortilla
if I ask then I pay
11/26/2012
amazon amazon
Usually I do
11/26/2012
Passion plum Passion plum
I'm married and I still make him pay.
11/26/2012
Chilipepper Chilipepper
Quote:
Originally posted by no longer here
While we see your point...shouldn't every date be "Special"? That is more our point.
I don't take it for granted (the expectation) that he should pay (like my mother who never even heard of "dutch" and would faint if the woman paid it all). Thereby, I appreciate his ability and willingness to do so more.
11/26/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
I do, but I have a steady job while she's still in school, so it makes sense
11/26/2012
RedKyuubi RedKyuubi
alternate
11/26/2012
no longer here no longer here
Quote:
Originally posted by Chilipepper
I don't take it for granted (the expectation) that he should pay (like my mother who never even heard of "dutch" and would faint if the woman paid it all). Thereby, I appreciate his ability and willingness to do so more.
Fair enough...we've heard of it...and we aren't old enough to be your mother...just see things different.
11/26/2012
Lizard Lizard
Whoever asked the other person out.
11/26/2012
null null
I try to alternate or go halvsies with dates.
11/27/2012
butts butts
I prefer going halvsies, I think it's the fairest regardless of who asked who out. I DEFINITELY don't think one person shouldn't have to pay because of their gender, that's just... sexist. :/ In our relationship, I've been the one who pays lately because my partner is having some hard financial trouble, but we usually go halvsies. I tend to be the one paying on dates though, somehow it usually ends up working that way.
11/27/2012
SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by kadelette
Just curious about who tends to pay on the dates you go on!
we dont have dates really
11/27/2012
BlooJay BlooJay
I usually pay.
11/27/2012
Chilipepper Chilipepper
Quote:
Originally posted by no longer here
Fair enough...we've heard of it...and we aren't old enough to be your mother...just see things different.
I guess I should add that when I was previously married (for ten years), I always paid for everything because I had the steady job and he could barely hold onto one for more than three months. I still consider a guy releasing cash to be a miracle that should be deeply appreciated ... so, call it a habitual thought pattern created by circumstance.
11/27/2012
no longer here no longer here
Quote:
Originally posted by Chilipepper
I guess I should add that when I was previously married (for ten years), I always paid for everything because I had the steady job and he could barely hold onto one for more than three months. I still consider a guy releasing cash to be a miracle ... More
That just SUCKS! No woman should be treated like that! But we've read other posts of yours...that wasn't the only issue.

Oh, and we did not mean to imply that the guy paying should not be appreciated. It is still special and a treat in that sense. Odd...to expect something to happen yet still see it as special...but we never said it made sense.

Glad you have a guy who treats you great now! You deserve it!
11/27/2012
kadelette kadelette
I'm really enjoying reading your guys' responses and reasoning! Very interesting input.
11/28/2012
nova2014 nova2014
We switch off on activities, like I'll pay dinner and he'll pay movie one night and the next time he'll pay dinner and I'll pay golf
12/04/2012
Martiniman Martiniman
I'm the one pulling out the credit card, but since we're married it's all coming from the same place.
12/04/2012
gloomybear gloomybear
my bfs out of work so i usually pay
12/08/2012
KinkyNicki92 KinkyNicki92
we do this thing where whoever grabs the ticket first pays. He doesnt believe the woman should pay and i don't like him paying everytime we go out. or sometimes if do dinner and a movie, then i buy the movie tix and he pays for dinner or vice versa..
12/08/2012
MrWood MrWood
Quote:
Originally posted by amazon
Usually I do
I guess I'm an old fashioned kind of guy. I've always paid for dates. I've only had one gf that insisted on paying every once and a while. To b honest, it was a nice change, and I was very appreciative.
01/17/2013
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I've always felt that the person who asks should be the one who pays.
01/17/2013
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