What is the worst/best/funniest/mo st spiteful thing you've done (or seriously considered to do) after a break up?

scissormetimbers scissormetimbers
I'm generally not a spiteful person, but the few days/weeks following a break up I entertain some pretty terrible ideas even if I don't go through with them. I'd like to see what other people do/think about the subject.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Destroying gifts (I.E taking a Santoku to 5 years worth of stuffed animals..)
scissormetimbers , Sera , new southern girl , tigerkate , Xavier7 , ninaspinkturtle , KikiChrome , BadassFatass , GONE! , dirtythoughts:)
10
Throwing away/destroying his/her stuff
scissormetimbers , Sidewinder , Valyn , deltalima , Sera , new southern girl , Hannah Savage , onehotmomma , Lindz86 , Hallmar82 , Xavier7 , ninaspinkturtle , KikiChrome , Oxygen99 , link82 , WildeKnight
16
Vandalizing his/her car
Xavier7 , KikiChrome , LadieWithSwagg
3
Hacking his/her facebook or email
scissormetimbers , Sir , Love Buzz , Sera , Persephone's Addiction , Jenniae09 , Xavier7 , ninaspinkturtle , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , Undecided
10
Hooking up with his/her best friend or a relative
buzzvibe , Sidewinder , Tori Rebel , Sera , Madeira , Owl Identified , Trashley , Jenniae09 , LavenderSkies , Emma (Girl With Fire) , darthkitt3n , Xavier7 , ninaspinkturtle , KikiChrome , Undecided
15
Various forms of public or familial humiliation
Sir , Love Buzz , Jenniae09 , Xavier7 , KikiChrome , Undecided , GONE!
7
None of the above, because you're a sensible adult.
kck , fatesrelease , Jenna.J.Ross , El-Jaro , Midway through , Sammi , PassionQT , P'Gell , Miss B Haven , Envy , Lady Venus , Chilipepper , ToyingCouple , MuffysPinguLove , Alura Une , joja , sexysweetieshan , SexyySarah , Misfit Momma , ~LaUr3n~ , usmcwife99 , AVDisco , Pleasure Piratess , lunapixie , Airen Wolf , Viktor Vysheslav Malkin , mrs.mckrakn , butterflygirlxo , tigerkate , Selective Sensualist , DeliciousSurprise , chocoqueen , onehotmomma , Riccio , VieuxCarre , Taylor , Shellz31 , Vaccinium , BadgersRose , MaryExy , Antipova , kendra30752 , froggiemoma , bunny love , Brandi Rouxxx , PersonalAngel , slynch , Miss T , ghent529 , thisisadeletedaccount , potstickers , charleswifey
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Total votes: 113 (85 voters)
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07/29/2010
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Darling Jen Darling Jen
Other. I honestly have no idea what I would consider or do. I've not had a messy break up before. Just a little one that really didn't mean anything to me in high school. And the next person I was with I've been with for 8 years. Depending on the reason for a breakup, I think my mind would come up with some pretty bad stuff though. Just don't know if I would do them. But I would think about it.
07/29/2010
scissormetimbers scissormetimbers
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Originally posted by Darling Jen
Other. I honestly have no idea what I would consider or do. I've not had a messy break up before. Just a little one that really didn't mean anything to me in high school. And the next person I was with I've been with for 8 years. ... More
Yeah, the only thing I've actually done is destroy gifts or presents. I've thought about doing much, much worse though. Congrats on your 8 years though, that's awesome.
07/29/2010
kck kck
None of the above because I've never had a break up.
07/29/2010
Sir Sir
Gone on their accounts and publicly humiliated them.
07/29/2010
Darling Jen Darling Jen
Quote:
Originally posted by scissormetimbers
Yeah, the only thing I've actually done is destroy gifts or presents. I've thought about doing much, much worse though. Congrats on your 8 years though, that's awesome.
I would probably do at least that much too. But ya know, it's better to take the feelings out on the stuffed animals and other inanimate objects than an actual person.

And thank you! Me and my partner have overcome a whole lot to make it this far and it's so wonderful to have him.
07/29/2010
fatesrelease fatesrelease
I've never done anything revengeful. An ex is an ex for a reason. Don't need to make things worse then they already are.
07/29/2010
Jenna.J.Ross Jenna.J.Ross
Ive never tried to hurt or upset an ex... friends that have really betrayed me and I mean messed with my family I would publicly humiliate them if given the chance.
07/29/2010
Chilipepper Chilipepper
Being a sensible adult doesn't mean you don't THINK about doing something ...

Even though I wanted the divorce, my ex-husband was such a creep that stuff I thought about doing involved: going on his Facebook page and detailing how small his dick is for all his family to see, selling all of his stuff in storage on eBay (doubt I'll get 50 cents out of the lot), sending him all the porn I wrote during our celibate marriage, sending him pictures of me using my sex toys, slicing up all of his books in storage and sending them to him, making a voo-doo doll of him (and he does believe in voo-doo so it WOULD affect him), sending him our vows booklet with various nasty comments written in it, sending him all of his love letters and cards with the word 'LIES' stamped across them, buying him a moose head (because it's ugly, can't be used in a neutral decorating scheme, and too expensive to get rid of).

But I decided to show him that I'm living better without him in my life.
07/29/2010
kck kck
Quote:
Originally posted by Chilipepper
Being a sensible adult doesn't mean you don't THINK about doing something ...

Even though I wanted the divorce, my ex-husband was such a creep that stuff I thought about doing involved: going on his Facebook page and detailing how ... More
ROFL @ the moose head idea!!!!!!!!!!!!
07/29/2010
El-Jaro El-Jaro
Quote:
Originally posted by Chilipepper
Being a sensible adult doesn't mean you don't THINK about doing something ...

Even though I wanted the divorce, my ex-husband was such a creep that stuff I thought about doing involved: going on his Facebook page and detailing how ... More
Any Magic cards in there? I call dibs!

I've dated an ex's friend. It didn't end well either.
07/29/2010
Sammi Sammi
I don't remember ever doing anything awful, but I agree, sometimes you think about it
07/29/2010
Love Buzz Love Buzz
When I found out a guy I'd been seeing had a girlfriend I hacked into his email account (Note: never make your secret question something like my favourite sport if you are a cricket fanatic) and caused all kinds of dramas for them. Not my proudest moment, not my worst.

My worst was... well too mean to admit too
07/30/2010
Darling Jen Darling Jen
Quote:
Originally posted by Love Buzz
When I found out a guy I'd been seeing had a girlfriend I hacked into his email account (Note: never make your secret question something like my favourite sport if you are a cricket fanatic) and caused all kinds of dramas for them. Not my ... More
Oh but now I'm super curious!!!
07/30/2010
buzzvibe buzzvibe
I went a bit psycho when my first boyfriend dumped me. I was hurt and very immature. I gradually stole back all the gifts I'd given him, and in a moment of extremely poor judgement, I fooled around with his brother. So, there was no hope of getting back together with him after that.
07/30/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
When things go sour, I just walk away. I think some people, especially if they instigate a break up in a bad way WANT the attention of YOUR poor behavior. It makes them feel JUSTIFIED in breaking up with you in the first place, "Crazy bitch, destroyed my clothes and my car. Good thing I dumped her! Who knows what she would have done if I had stayed with her."

The best revenge is living well. Walk away, cry in private (or with a friend you know won't reveal your pain) and go on to someone BETTER!

Talking about, whining about, complaining about, or DOING something to an ex only makes the Ex feel better about their bad behavior.

I have just walked away and lived with it. In the long run, I was ALWAYS glad I did. I NEVER woke up a year later and thought, "Damn, I wish I had destroyed all his records and broke the windows on his car. Why didn't I do that?" NEVER regretted acting like an adult after a breakup.

But, I'm willing to be nearly everyone who acts like a coked up, crazed celebrity after a break up eventually regrets it.

Where does it get you, anyway?
07/30/2010
Liz2 Liz2
I have always initiated the break up so to be free again was great. I just packed his stuff up and left it where he could pick it up w/o me being there.
07/30/2010
Miss B Haven Miss B Haven
I have never really done anything spiteful despite having been hurt pretty bad buy some ex's. All I have done is cut them out of my life. I throw away all the things they have given/written me and delete them from online accounts and phone.

I did have one ex go psycho on me after a breakup. I had to take him to court because he was following me around town with a dead chicken. Yeah...I still don't know what he was trying to accomplish with that. I also found that he had broken into my home and was hiding in my bedroom closet, Creepy!
07/30/2010
Valyn Valyn
I've never actually destroyed an exs' stuff, but I have gotten rid of gifts and things.. Other than that, I haven't done anything spiteful.. one ex got me fired when I got a job in his office, though. FUN.
07/30/2010
scissormetimbers scissormetimbers
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Originally posted by Miss B Haven
I have never really done anything spiteful despite having been hurt pretty bad buy some ex's. All I have done is cut them out of my life. I throw away all the things they have given/written me and delete them from online accounts and ... More
That's hella creepy!

I've had one ex get out of hand like that, but not with a dead chicken. He would just harass/threaten me periodically. I'm glad you took him to court though. Sheesh
07/30/2010
scissormetimbers scissormetimbers
Quote:
Originally posted by Chilipepper
Being a sensible adult doesn't mean you don't THINK about doing something ...

Even though I wanted the divorce, my ex-husband was such a creep that stuff I thought about doing involved: going on his Facebook page and detailing how ... More
Hahaha! That's fantastic. with the moosehead. The facebook bit too. Though I think I would cry at the thought of slicing up books. Anyones books.
07/30/2010
Chilipepper Chilipepper
Quote:
Originally posted by scissormetimbers
Hahaha! That's fantastic. with the moosehead. The facebook bit too. Though I think I would cry at the thought of slicing up books. Anyones books.
Yeah, that's how angry I am. About 3/4 of our stuff in storage are books - both of ours.

Great intellectual friends, but lousy spouses.
07/30/2010
scissormetimbers scissormetimbers
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Originally posted by Chilipepper
Yeah, that's how angry I am. About 3/4 of our stuff in storage are books - both of ours.

Great intellectual friends, but lousy spouses.
That's a pattern I've noted with men in my experience, actually. So i figure I'll keep my books, cats and my toys and cut my losses.
07/30/2010
Alura Une Alura Une
I think spiteful actions can be tempting, but I really don't like when people act some of these things out. If it will make you feel better, ruin something that the person you are upset with gave you--something you know you won't need later. Other things can come back and haunt you. Be careful!
07/30/2010
joja joja
I am friends with all but one of my exes, and that one only because he didn't want to. I will sometimes get rid of things that remind me of the person (gifts, etc.), but not in a spiteful way. It just helps me to move on.
07/31/2010
Envy Envy
Worst i do is get rid of all pictures. Depending on how bad and what the breakup was over, i either store them away or I toss them/set them on fire in the fireplace.
07/31/2010
kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
Quote:
Originally posted by scissormetimbers
I'm generally not a spiteful person, but the few days/weeks following a break up I entertain some pretty terrible ideas even if I don't go through with them. I'd like to see what other people do/think about the subject.
i've actually never had a breakup I'm dating the first person I went out with since I was 19 and I'm 22 now..I'd have to say I would get a makeover and workout and get the hottest body ever and some new clothes and think of it as a revenge or something.
07/31/2010
SexyySarah SexyySarah
I'm not big about "getting back" at an ex, I'm done with it therefore I move on.
07/31/2010
kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
Quote:
Originally posted by scissormetimbers
I'm generally not a spiteful person, but the few days/weeks following a break up I entertain some pretty terrible ideas even if I don't go through with them. I'd like to see what other people do/think about the subject.
I'd make sure I was one hot piece of eye candy and feel like better than your ex better than your next. It makes more sense than eating comfort food and getting fat or getting lazy and depressed. The revenge body lol. I don't think its really hurting and no one could prove your getting back at your ex this way.You could say since the breakup you had more free time and found a hobby or something u enjoyed
07/31/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
The worst thing I have done is destroy a pic of an old girlfriend of My Man's. I do his laundry and thus am in his drawers, putting things away. I found the pic and told him about it, I said, "I don't mind if you keep it, but PLEASE put it where I won't run into it nearly every day, and I WON'T continue to look at it every day." I told him this about 4 or more times, and every time I would put his underwear away, that fucking picture would still be in the drawer. He sometimes takes forever to get around to things, but I was sick of looking at her, she was horrible to him, and so after several warnings, and being SICK of looking at it, I tore it up and threw it away. (HE was warned!)

That was about 20 years ago. He NEVER asked me what happened to it. Probably thought he lost it himself. Or knew what happened and didn't want to start anything.

It wasn't spiteful (although I probably didn't have to tear it up) I just made it clear "Keep your past discreet." and he didn't "get around to it."
07/31/2010
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