Do you ever get tempted to cheat?

lalapetitee lalapetitee
Lately I noticed my wondering eye. For some reason I notice attractive people more than before. Not sure if its due to my partner being around too much. Or maybe its our lack of communication
And connection. Anyone else have this problem?
11/23/2011
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T&A1987 T&A1987
noticing is normal, contemplating how you cheat is probably when it starts being, if not cheating, in the same time zone as cheating.
11/23/2011
Peggi Peggi
In the past I had. I really had been tempted. I probably would've been one of the few cases where it was acceptable based on how I was treated in the past. With who I have now, I would never ever even look at another man that way and be able to do it. Even when I think a guy is cute or hot or something, I'd never be able to see myself with them like that. Plus, I'm not the cheating type.
11/24/2011
lalapetitee lalapetitee
It's like im tempted but there is a voice that says dont. i wanna but i cant and i feel so bad cuz i love my partner but we have our issues too. i think its just that we have been together so long.
11/24/2011
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
You may want to be careful. There's nothing wrong with noticing someone, but when you start planning and other like activities, that's probably the point where you need to talk to your partner about what's going on.

If you feel like you have communication/ connection issues, talk about it! if you can, hire a therapist. see what you can do to rekindle your relationship and remember, be 100% honest. It might be somewhat painful, but it's better now than too late.

You don't want to reach that point where you do cheat and regret the whole thing. Try to avoid before it begins.
11/25/2011
BlackxxxRose BlackxxxRose
I only feel like this when we have communication problems and he's the same way. We had problems in the beginning were we both weren't getting what we needed emotionally out of the relationship and it made us want to stray, but we figured out what the problem was and now when this issue pops up we nip it in the butt before either of us does anything we'll regret.
11/25/2011
El-Jaro El-Jaro
Being tempted is normal, I think. Noticing is a good first step to avoiding "It just happened" scenarios.

I think being tempted to cheat is fine, as long as you don't follow through on it without making sure you're square with your current partner.
11/25/2011
oldman oldman
At your young age, looking around is a good idea, cheating is not, neither is staying with a partner until someone else comes along. If you are having issues, you need to sit down and talk about it even if it means ending the relationship. It depends how committed you both are and how willing you both are to STAY committed.
11/25/2011
PassionateLover2 PassionateLover2
Quote:
Originally posted by T&A1987
noticing is normal, contemplating how you cheat is probably when it starts being, if not cheating, in the same time zone as cheating.
I agree with you 100% It's normal; were only human. But those of us who are married should know better! For those singles, it's a matter of good judgement; be honest with yourself and communicate. When I took my wife to a restaurant to celebrate our anniversary, there was a group of girls (with really short gowns) who were celebrating Homecomming and I took notice of them as did my wife. We just chuckled at the moment and reflected upon how strong our bond is for each other!
11/25/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
No I don't..I'm in love!
11/26/2011
Nashville Nashville
My husband has been deployed for basically a year and a half. No matter how many men smile at me or flirt- I've never been tempted to cheat on him. There's a level of trust and respect involved in our relationship that I'd never even let the thought cross my mind.

Sure, I'm not dead- I see hot guys and think "damn" at times but I love my husband and no one time fling could ever compare to what he can offer me.
11/27/2011
Tangerine Tangerine
I'm not the type to have a wondering eye even when I'm single. There have been times when I was completely in love with the person I was with and couldnt even think of anyone else. Then there have been times when I have been not so satisfied in the relationship and have noticed other people. I think it happens from time to time. But noticing and acting are two different things. I think if you really start to notice and think about acting (seriously think about it) It's time to move on.
11/30/2011
oldman oldman
NOPE!
12/01/2011
sexydelphia sexydelphia
most people will notice someone else who is good looking. its when you think about having sex with that other person that it can lead people down the wrong path
12/01/2011
lalapetitee lalapetitee
Great points! Right now its still wondering but things are getting better.
12/06/2011
Tripod95 Tripod95
Quote:
Originally posted by lalapetitee
Lately I noticed my wondering eye. For some reason I notice attractive people more than before. Not sure if its due to my partner being around too much. Or maybe its our lack of communication
And connection. Anyone else have this problem?
Wondering eye isnt a problem. Acting on that eye is the problem.
12/06/2011
mastersonv mastersonv
Even if I did my fiance and I have an understanding where if it's just sex we have no issue if the other one does. However if there are other feelings it's best to walk away and not heed temptation!
12/12/2011
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by lalapetitee
Lately I noticed my wondering eye. For some reason I notice attractive people more than before. Not sure if its due to my partner being around too much. Or maybe its our lack of communication
And connection. Anyone else have this problem?
I have never been tempted to cheat physically but during times when Sigel and I weren't connecting emotionally or communicating I did cheat emotionally. My advice would be to attempt to reconnect with your partner or let him/her go then get some help figuring out where the disconnect hapened so you don't repeat the cycle.
12/12/2011
Ciao. Ciao.
I find people attractive all the time, but have not really had the urge to cheat too often. My partner and I have been together for almost 9 years at this point so I feel pretty good about where we're at. We are both good about communicating our needs and are both receptive to the possibility of opening up our relationship in the right situations.
12/12/2011
nova2014 nova2014
I've been with my guy for a little more than 3 years and I have never felt tempted to cheat, not even when things are going badly. I feel like I've never been tempted to cheat because I know how great my guy is and I never want to do anything to mess that up
03/22/2013
Mr. E Mr. E
I will notice and even playfully flirt with others, but I have no desire to cheat or be with anyone else. Zero!
03/22/2013
AmethystQueen AmethystQueen
Oh yeah. Especially when I consider just doing a play scene with no intercourse. I have waaaayyyy too much invested in us though so when it comes down to it, hubby's the only one ever for me.
03/22/2013
Septimus Septimus
Looking? Yes, all the time. Doing? No, never. I love my guy too much to ever want to hurt him. Even if we had some sort of agreement, I don't think I'd actually want to do anything, I'm the jealous type and I know I wouldn't like to see *him* with anyone else!
03/22/2013
kkizzee05 kkizzee05
Quote:
Originally posted by lalapetitee
Lately I noticed my wondering eye. For some reason I notice attractive people more than before. Not sure if its due to my partner being around too much. Or maybe its our lack of communication
And connection. Anyone else have this problem?
I've noticed cute people before, but never have I thought about cheating... It's just not who I am
03/22/2013
Munko Munko
Only once, right before we split up for a few months, a few years back. Things got really bad for us (turns out he was more or less cheating emotionally, without being aware of it at the time) I began to feel really lonely, he wasn't treating me well at all, and I did start to think about it. At that point is when I realized things were REALLY bad, and I was honest with him. I had no one in particular that I had thought of, just more of a "If this happens to other people, I could understand why they'd cheat" sort of thing. I told him flat out, exactly that. Things got worse from there for us, and we did eventually split up, like I said. I don't think it was a time together issue, it was a communication break down for us, and he had met a "friend" who had lead him a bit astray - rather than focusing on fixing us, he kind of just shut down and turned to her, mostly.

We ironed it all out though, and things have been good since, and I haven't even remotely had that feeling since, and I hope he hasn't, either.
03/26/2013
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