We aren't at a place where we can very openly talk about those type of things. We were for a little while, but things happened that made him close up a little bit. Now we don't have an easy flow of communication, so I don't.
I tell Master everything I am into! Sometimes, he is grossed out, or disgusted, or slightly interested, or very interested. Over time, some of the things which grossed him out initially become things that he loves, but I don't push it. He sometimes will tell me a year later or something "Oh, remember how you brought up _______? Well, now I am interested in it too!" I am lucky to have such an open guy. I know not everyone does.
I don't tell my boyfriend every fantasy. Sometimes I like to keep them just that- a fantasy! They are such good alone time fodder. I know we would have fun acting them out, but my fantasy allows me to make the scenes much bigger than in the bedroom. And I think some of them would overwhelm me if they were reality.
i have some fantasies i dont even like to admit to myself
Me, too. I've told my wife all of the ones I actually want to try. We've tried most of them. But some of the things that creep into my thoughts when I'm masturbating and send me over the edge are best left unsaid.