My boyfriend had been with two girls before me and even though he is my first and only, I am happy with his experience. I actually did not want a virgin to be my first because I wanted someone who would be experienced and know how to handle the situation. My first was a very sweet and romantic epic failure. I think if it had been BOTH our firsts.... stuff would have gone REALLY badly.
I have had way more sexual partners than I care to admit. My husband has only been with me. I wish he had been with more people before he met me. I feel a little guilty that I've had so much experience, but now that we're married, he's pretty much limited to me.
Oh I know that I could give him permission to sleep with others, but I am just not that secure. I would worry that he would fall in love with someone else. Plus I would worry about him getting a disease or getting someone pregnant.
The guy I just broke up with after 3 years would just get wasted and sleep with people, even friends' partners. Now I'm not one to judge by number, but I'm not comfortable with the way he went about it. I don't even know the full extent of it because I was always afraid to ask. I just hopelessly hope he never ACTUALLY cheated on me.
I know about all of his partners because we were friends for a long time before we got back together, and even though I might not like all of them I wouldn't change anything because the path that we both took with our exes brought us back together.
I was married previously so I have a past but my boyfriend was my best friend for six years before we got together and he WAS a very sexy 25 year old virgin (score) but no matter what his past I would love him just the same anyway.
I am my boyfriends first. And i know it bugs him that ive had a handful of guys before him. Because hell say a comment here and there about it. But it's like what do you want me to do build a time machine and virginize myself. I told him to go sleep with another girl and come back if it makes him feel better hahaha. I know he wont but whatever.
You are with them regardless but hypothetically or if you had to choose
I have been married to my husband for fourteen years. When we got together he was number 10 for me and I was number 6 for him. I have no issues with his number and he doesn't with mine - it's just a number. Once you get past 0-1 it really shouldn't matter - and be happy - they are with you now and that's what counts.
My boyfriend was very promiscuous in high school, and even his freshman year in college viewed sex with female friends as a pretty casual thing. His number doesn't top 20 thank goodness but it's double mine, and that makes me sort of uncomfortable. Playing Never Have I Ever with him is a nightmare for me I don't want him talking about it, and he doesn't really understand why no know it's irrational and probably a little crazy of me, but I'm just territorial.