Do you know someone who got married LARGELY because...

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Do you know someone who got married LARGELY because...

bayosgirl bayosgirl
....they lost their virginity to the person, or they felt guilty for having sex before marriage?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
No, I don't know anyone who did that
75  (88%)
Yes, I do know someone who did that and they are happily married
4  (5%)
Yes, I know someone who did that and they are unhappy or divorced
6  (7%)
Total votes: 85
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07/29/2011
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Kkay Kkay
Nope. The people I surround myself with tend to have similar views, though.
07/29/2011
bayosgirl bayosgirl
According to my mom she married my dad because of this. They turned out alright (i.e. haven't murdered each other.)
07/29/2011
Taylor Taylor
no but I know some people who got married largely so they would be "allowed" to have sex
07/29/2011
sarki sarki
No I don't know anyone who did that
07/29/2011
Caprieclipse Caprieclipse
dont marry just for a guilt trip!
07/29/2011
K101 K101
Don't know anyone who's done that. I certainly wouldn't. I would hate for my marriage to be based on guilt. I would just forgive myself (ask for forgiveness as well) and do my best to let it go. I don't like to dwell on the past and a person makes mistakes. They definitely shouldn't feel they are stuck having to marry someone only for that one reason. I think everyone deserves happiness.
07/29/2011
Ansley Ansley
No, I don't know anyone who would do such a thing. I know people who have abstained from sex until marriage after losing their virginity out of wedlock. I don't think virginity carries the weight it did fifty years ago, or even twenty years ago.
07/29/2011
toxie m toxie m
Nope. I've known people to marry for other bad reasons, but not for this one
07/29/2011
Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
I don't know anyone like that. However, I have known some people who have gotten marriage largely because of an unplanned pregnancy. Those relationships didn't last in most cases.
07/29/2011
Beck Beck
No I think this would be a stupid reason to marry anyone, you marry someone cause you want to not cause you lost it to them.
07/29/2011
Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
Everyone around me just enjoys sex for sex.
07/29/2011
froggiemoma froggiemoma
nope
07/29/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
If anyone I know did this, they didn't tell me about it. It is something I could see someone like my mother doing, however.

I know people from my mother's generation (born in the Depression or shortly after) who got married just to have sex. (My parents probably did this. They got divorced after 18 years in mostly misery.) Getting married for reasons other than being in love and being compatible, sexually and otherwise, usually end in divorce, from what I have seen.
07/29/2011
guard083 guard083
Never heard of that
07/29/2011
Coralbell Coralbell
No, but I do know someone who got married mainly because they wanted to have sex and didn't believe in sex before marriage.
07/29/2011
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
not off hand, but i may. i know too many foolish people who have gotten married for the sake of having sex... and then they were very miserable afterwards
08/02/2011
sunkissedJess sunkissedJess
I can't say that I do. I think that is being with someone for all the wrong reasons, though.
04/30/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
I've known people who did it, and sometimes it worked out, sometimes not. I've also known the marriage so we can have sex crowd.
05/02/2012
dragonn dragonn
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
....they lost their virginity to the person, or they felt guilty for having sex before marriage?
Nope. I know people more alongside the 'got pregnant, got married' side.
05/02/2012
SouthernBelle SouthernBelle
I know two people who got married within the past year for this reason. They aren't necessarily happy, but they aren't divorced yet either.
05/05/2012
booboo111926 booboo111926
nopee
06/14/2012
oneeyedoctopus oneeyedoctopus
My parents got married because my mom was pregnant with me. They've been happily married for 23 years.
06/17/2012
Love Obsessed Love Obsessed
No I don't know anyone who has done this.
06/17/2012
Sj83 Sj83
no I dont
06/17/2012
BlooJay BlooJay
I don't know anyone who has done that.
06/28/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
According to my mom she married my dad because of this. They turned out alright (i.e. haven't murdered each other.)
They are lucky.

My parents got married, for the most part, because they felt guilty to have sex at all, and thought marriage would alleviate the guilt in order to have sex. (It didn't, in my mother's case.) They lived for 18 years in misery. My mother nagging, guilt tripping and nickpicking my father to death, denying him sex, and him eventually (from what was obvious) obtaining his sex elsewhere.

It was a disaster. Once I heard her tell a friend she wasn't a virgin when she got married, which was the complete opposite of what I had always been told. But, the woman doesn't value the truth, so she lied to one of us. If she did have sex with my father before they were married, she probably pushed him into marriage to alleviate her guilt. It didn't work, neither did the marriage.
06/28/2012
Claire-Bear Claire-Bear
No. I'd feel really bad for that person too.
06/28/2012
lecanis lecanis
I've known quite a few of these people. Sadly, I don't think it worked out for any of them. A lot of them married while they were in high school or soon afterward, and found that things like different priorities and beliefs tore them apart as they matured.

This was especially true when one of the partners decided to go to college and the other didn't, actually. I've known a lot of people who married young because of a feeling that 'once they'd had sex, no one else would want them' and then once they had a little more education, realized they'd made a choice based off oppressive standards.
06/28/2012
TheirPet TheirPet
I don't know any of those people. Though I do know someone who got married because, "It seemed like something to do and I hadn't done it yet."
06/28/2012
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