What have your biggest obstacles been?

Zandrock Zandrock
In your relationship what have the been the hardest moments to over come? How did you get past them?
08/03/2012
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PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Trust and hurt. It's very difficult to put your trust in someone after they've lied to you, and it's even more difficult to heal when someone's emotionally hurt you. My husband tends to be a very angry person in general. He's been though a lot in his life and it's understandable, but it's been difficult to hear the negative things he's said to me, and still feel confident in our relationship. It takes time, it takes a load of forgiveness, and more patience than I can say. People aren't going to change overnight, so you can't expect change to be immediate. We're still figuring it all out. Some days are tougher than others, but we're working on it.
08/03/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Zandrock
In your relationship what have the been the hardest moments to over come? How did you get past them?
It's learning to "not sweat the small stuff". Learning to COMMUNICATE about the little, every day things. NOT getting mad, but communicating about WHO is doing the dishes tonight, rather then getting bent out of shape because the sink is full. It is the LITTLE stuff that can kill a relationship, and learning to ACCEPT that the other person is different and NOT SWEATING the small stuff that can make for a GREAT long term relationship.

That's my take, anyway.
08/03/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
Having our son took a toll on our relationship. Finding a balance between the carefree days before our son and the responsibilities we had was hard for us. Our sex life took a major downswing and some trust was broken. It took a lot of hard work to learn to communicate in a healthy way and get back to a good place.

We did couples therapy for a while. It helped somewhat, but it really took both of us working on our own issues to sort things out. We decided our relationship was worth it and made the changes we needed to. We're always a work in progress. Sometimes we slip up and yell at each other. We get past it and try to do better next time.
08/03/2012
XYCopperheadSly XYCopperheadSly
The difference in our sex drives and sexual desires. It got to the point where I was crying almost on a nightly basis because I was so sexually frustrated. We worked through it and now have an open marriage. And now we both have friends with benefits and I feel even closer to him because of how much he cares about my needs and all the stuff we can tell each other

In any relationship, you just have to keep in touch with each other's feelings and work towards the other's happiness just as much as your own.
08/03/2012
Cookie Monster Mike Cookie Monster Mike
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Originally posted by Zandrock
In your relationship what have the been the hardest moments to over come? How did you get past them?
For us, trust, honesty has never been an issue. For us, it seems more the smaller things in life have been harder for us. Living together for almost 4 years, trying to find the right balance so we don't get annoyed with each other etc. We are both the type of people where we love and care for each other, want to spend quality time together, but also need our space and alone time to do whatever we want from time to time.
08/03/2012
nova2014 nova2014
Probably when we broke up but got back together, we got through it by showing how this time would be different and it's been 2 years since then
01/30/2013
Inkkythesquid Inkkythesquid
i have severe panic disorder and i'm agoraphobic, plus we're long distance. we make it work though
01/30/2013
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