I have NO fantasies

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I have NO fantasies

SexyRayne SexyRayne
Is this normal??? i'd like your opinion
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Its normal dont worry
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61  (92%)
You should have at least one (ideas? Please!)
MeliPixie , virgomama616 , Teacookie , 31 Flavors
4  (6%)
WHATS WRONG WITH YOU?
Brandonn
1  (2%)
Total votes: 66
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02/07/2012
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Chirple Chirple
I guess it depends on what you call a "fantasy".

I think what one is will vary by person. The way I think of it, I don't really have any, just realistic ideas.

I don't know if it's the norm, but it seems healthy enough to me.
02/07/2012
Rossie Rossie
I don't have any neither, I'm too logical for that.
02/07/2012
Badass Badass
i love the bottom option, lol, something will come to you eventually, don't stress it.
02/07/2012
Brandonn Brandonn
I have Eden Fantasies
02/07/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
If you have a satisfying sex life and are able to have orgasms with no trouble, I wouldn't worry about it. Most people fantasize, but some don't. It's only a problem if you aren't being sexually satisfied and you aren't having orgasms.

I, myself, cannot orgasm without fantasies, but that's how my Love Map works. If yours works and works well without fantasy, then don't worry about it.

If you are having problems with orgasm or arousal, then perhaps you may want to look into how you become aroused and orgasm and look into new things.
02/07/2012
Chilipepper Chilipepper
It depends on the definition of "fantasies". I know of people who call it "thoughts" or "ideas" because they're not detailed and they're rather brief.

I usually wrote mine out, so I called them "stories" instead of fantasies.

At any rate, you're perfectly fine and it's how you're wired, don't stress about it.
02/07/2012
Zombirella Zombirella
I really dont either aside from things in those love movies like outside during a massive rainstorm or something like that. Nothing kinky or unrealistic for me.
02/07/2012
MeliPixie MeliPixie
Chirple is right, it completely depends on what you mean by "fantasy." Some people fantasize about being tied up, or raped by tentacles, or that they're a business man/woman doing whatever. That's not always the case, and not having something specific in mind is perfectly normal.

However I voted "You must have one" because I always thought everyone wanted a little something out of their sex life they've not done yet, even if it's just trying a new position. That could be a fantasy of sorts in and of itself.
02/07/2012
eroticmutt eroticmutt
If you mean that while you are masturbating, you just think about the feelings and what is going on instead of picturing and imagining sexy things, that IS normal, but it is not a very efficient way to have satisfying orgasms for most people.

Until the past few months, I didn't used to have fantasies either. It seemed like something I 'just didn't do' because it was not spontaneously happening. My partner knew I had trouble reaching orgasm and suggested I think of something sexy or imagine a fantasy scenario while I masturbated, and it worked amazingly well!!

I would have to put conscious effort into purposely thinking about something sexual, but once I got into the fantasy it would just come naturally. Now a few months later it is a habit, and I highly recommend trying it a few times, as it can be very helpful.

Don't know what to think about? Well is there any person (real or character) you always wanted to have sex with? Or maybe a scene you saw in a movie or porn that you would want to interact? Just think of that and see how it goes
02/07/2012
SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by SexyRayne
Is this normal??? i'd like your opinion
theres nothing wrong with that when you have one ull have one dont stress
02/07/2012
Antipova Antipova
Try phrasing it a different way---

"What turns you on?"

Do you have an answer for that question?

As far as I'm concerned, if you know your turn-ons, you have what people dub 'fantasies.'---they're just not all painstakingly sculpted-out or anything. But that's cool, whatever is working for you is good! But don't get caught up thinking that "fantasies" are something magic or different---it's just a different way of describing turn-ons, for some people.
02/08/2012
PassionateLover2 PassionateLover2
Quote:
Originally posted by Chilipepper
It depends on the definition of "fantasies". I know of people who call it "thoughts" or "ideas" because they're not detailed and they're rather brief.

I usually wrote mine out, so I called them ...
I have to agree in part. It may also depend on whether or not a fantasy originates in a dream or while you are conscious. While I am awake, I sometimes fantasize when I see a beautiful woman (I am quite visual); if that is defined as "thoughts", well, I would call that having a fantasy. In other circumstances, I may have a fantasy in my dreams which may be a result of a recent acted-out experience. Whatever the definition, I think if you experience a mind-originating sexual moment and see it as a story, I would call it a fantasy! So, if you do not experience a fantasy, that is not unusual.
02/08/2012
El-Jaro El-Jaro
Quote:
Originally posted by Chilipepper
It depends on the definition of "fantasies". I know of people who call it "thoughts" or "ideas" because they're not detailed and they're rather brief.

I usually wrote mine out, so I called them ...
I echo the Chilipepper
02/08/2012
freda freda
Quote:
Originally posted by SexyRayne
Is this normal??? i'd like your opinion
i dont ethier
02/08/2012
Puss in Boots Puss in Boots
I don't either, unless you count Misha Collins. Mmmm.
02/10/2012
Eliyahu Eliyahu
I didn't either, for the longest time. Not even sure if what I have going now would be called fantasies, or just things I want to do to my wife.
02/11/2012
virgomama616 virgomama616
I dont really have fantasies, exactly. I would say that anything on my to-try list could count though
02/11/2012
Teacookie Teacookie
I agree on the to try list and there are short lived fantasies of a duration of a few seconds while you figure out what to do.
02/11/2012
FemmeFlo FemmeFlo
Every person is different. I'd be interested to know how you're defining a "fantasy" though.
02/11/2012
Curiouscat Curiouscat
It's not a problem. Normal. You might get one at some point or not.
02/11/2012
Mihoshi4301 Mihoshi4301
I don't think it's a problem.
02/11/2012
Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
So long as it's not causing you any kind of stress or hindering your sexuality in any way, I'd say you're perfectly fine.
02/12/2012
sweetnlow4u sweetnlow4u
I don't really have fantasies either....just want to please my man!
02/15/2012
Istanbull Istanbull
My wife is the same way. She never thinks about sex, no fantasies, no daydreams, no imagination.
05/10/2012
GONE! GONE!
Quote:
Originally posted by Chilipepper
It depends on the definition of "fantasies". I know of people who call it "thoughts" or "ideas" because they're not detailed and they're rather brief.

I usually wrote mine out, so I called them ...
Mine are basically just thoughts and ideas like you described and I've never thought of it as abnormal. I don't have the patience for anything long and detailed.
05/10/2012
vanilla&chocolate vanilla&chocolate
Some people have lots, others have none - anything goes!
05/10/2012
All His All His
Everyones brain works differently. This means your normal is different from my normal. Its just how your mind works
05/10/2012
Love Obsessed Love Obsessed
I don't particularly have fantasies either just things that I wouldn't mind doing.When I masturbate I don't really fantasize either and I didn't think that was normal but,it must be.
05/10/2012
Sangsara Sangsara
I love reading them but I don't usually create my own - not against it just haven't gone there - and I don't think that they have to be visual. I let my mind wander once when I was younger (and drunk) lept right over the boundaries- bad decision and I paid dearly. Now I just focus on sensation
05/10/2012
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