Rape Fantasies

Stnjbe1021 Stnjbe1021
I know that people like to have some kink and are into bondage, but do you ever have rape fantasies? Do you think they are wrong?
11/20/2010
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Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by Stnjbe1021
I know that people like to have some kink and are into bondage, but do you ever have rape fantasies? Do you think they are wrong?
I do and I definitely don't.
I have read a bunch on this, many psychologists agree that the rape fantasy is just a scenario in which you can approach and experience things that would normally be considered taboo but with no underlying guilt. You are unlikely to feel guilty for doing something you are uncomfortable approaching in real life if it is forced on you. Alternately, it is a desire to let go of control in sexual situations. You have no control if you are forced.

However most who experience rape fantasies would still run from a real rapist.
11/21/2010
Stnjbe1021 Stnjbe1021
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
I do and I definitely don't.
I have read a bunch on this, many psychologists agree that the rape fantasy is just a scenario in which you can approach and experience things that would normally be considered taboo but with no underlying guilt. ... More
I agree. I do also...I just wondered if maybe I was the only one! lol
11/21/2010
Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by Stnjbe1021
I agree. I do also...I just wondered if maybe I was the only one! lol
No way they are a fav of mine. I do sometimes feel guilty though, like I am making light of a really horrific thing that happens to people. I can't help it, it still turns me on.
11/21/2010
Stnjbe1021 Stnjbe1021
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
No way they are a fav of mine. I do sometimes feel guilty though, like I am making light of a really horrific thing that happens to people. I can't help it, it still turns me on.
Yeah....guilty is def a feeling afterwards, and I know my husband thinks I'm crazy, but it is a turn on for me...couldn't explain why, but hey at least it's considered somewhat normal.
11/21/2010
KinkyLadii KinkyLadii
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Originally posted by Stnjbe1021
I know that people like to have some kink and are into bondage, but do you ever have rape fantasies? Do you think they are wrong?
What would you consider a rape fantasy?
11/21/2010
ToyGeek ToyGeek
I've read a ton on the psychology of rape fantasy, because it's often a subject of fandom squabbles, and I mod a fandom message board. Rape fantasies are about freedom from responsibility, while rape is a brutal crime, so the built-in paradox of it causes all sorts of friction when the subject is discussed.
11/21/2010
Trashley Trashley
I love rape fantasy! I'm such a businesswoman and so in control and so manipulating that when I get into bed, I just want to let go. It's the hottest thing to me to be vulnerable like that.. plus, I like the fear and pain and all the endorphins and release that comes with and the esteem that comes from being so irresistible that I'm forced to cum by this dude or chick.. Is that sick? Whatever, fuck it I love it :]
11/21/2010
Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by Trashley
I love rape fantasy! I'm such a businesswoman and so in control and so manipulating that when I get into bed, I just want to let go. It's the hottest thing to me to be vulnerable like that.. plus, I like the fear and pain and all the ... More
exactly.
11/21/2010
Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
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Originally posted by Stnjbe1021
I know that people like to have some kink and are into bondage, but do you ever have rape fantasies? Do you think they are wrong?
If you like it, love it, and no one is being harmed, go for it!
11/21/2010
sexyeri sexyeri
As a woman that was molested when I was little...I don't think anyone is making light of the horrific that has happened to me and others.
11/23/2010
asdfjkl; asdfjkl;
as long as its just role play...
11/27/2010
UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
My guy loves to roll play rape fantasies. At first I thought it was strange and it made me a little uneasy, but over the years I've come to very much enjoy them. I initiate them myself on occasion. As long is it's just roll play and you have boundaries then there shouldn't be any problem.
12/02/2010
Tuesday Tuesday
I'm a fan of rape fantasies also. I hear that being overpowered and taken by force is a top female fantasy.
12/02/2010
Eden C. Eden C.
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Originally posted by Stnjbe1021
I know that people like to have some kink and are into bondage, but do you ever have rape fantasies? Do you think they are wrong?
I have rape fantasies, but since they are my fantasies, I am still choosing the person, the position, and all the details. I want a rape roleplay scenario, but I do not want to actually be raped. I think that people who have rape fantasies are turned on by the force involved. Anyone acting on these fantasies should have a pre-negotiated safety word to ensure an enjoyable experience.
02/22/2011
TheSinDoll TheSinDoll
I love rape play. I often have rape fantasies. It does have a ton to do with the loss of control (my biggest fetish).
02/22/2011
Red Riding Hood Red Riding Hood
Never tried it, although I have some werewolf attack fantasies that involve rape... I think if it's acted out between people who consent it, it's not that strange. I think there's a need to be desired that is fulfilled 100 fold in this act.
02/22/2011
zeebot zeebot
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
I do and I definitely don't.
I have read a bunch on this, many psychologists agree that the rape fantasy is just a scenario in which you can approach and experience things that would normally be considered taboo but with no underlying guilt. ... More
Interesting, thanks for posting!
02/23/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
I've done a ton of research on it as well, since I too thought I was odd/had to feel guilty/ashamed/etc afterwards. I have had this ravishment fantasy since I was 14/15.I do not believe ravishment play is something to feel guilty over because it's consentual and simply loving the complete loss of control. REAL rape is different and horrible.
Please embrace your kink, you have nothing to worry about.
02/23/2011
Linga Linga
I've actually had rape fantasies for a long time, I remember catching a glimpse as a teen of that move where Jodie Foster gets raped on the pinball machine and it turned me on. Now I don't agree with a girl being raped or a guy being raped for that matter (yes it does happen) but rape play is a huge turn on for me.
02/23/2011
Poohbear5 Poohbear5
I will admit to having rape fantasies. And yes, I do feel the guilt about thinking about it cuz it is realistically is a horrible situation. However im extremely turned on by the aggressiveness and the force of it.
06/25/2011
Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
I do have rape fantasies, but if anyone actually tried to force themselves on me I'd whip them in the crotch with a maglite!

I like to think of it this way: some people have a lot of fun watching horror movies, right? But that doesn't mean they'd want to be in that same situation themselves. So rape fantasies are kind of like that.
06/29/2011
Bonesdance Bonesdance
I recently watched a Louis C.K. standup special (on Netflix instant watch, fyi) that had an absolutely hilarious bit about a woman with a rape fantasy/fetish. I literally laughed until I cried.

To answer the question, my wife occasionally likes to be dominated, but I wouldn't say we go so far as to act out an actual rape scenario - pretty much the same principle, though.
06/30/2011
Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
I don't have a problem with them. I know my wife, and most of the women I've known have all been pretty into consensual non-consent.
06/30/2011
Errant Venture Errant Venture
I don't have a problem with them, but they're not for me. Though I might give it a try if asked.
07/01/2011
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
personally i think they're kind of disturbing. but as long as someone doesn't act on them, they're fine with me
07/02/2011
irishlove irishlove
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Originally posted by Stnjbe1021
I know that people like to have some kink and are into bondage, but do you ever have rape fantasies? Do you think they are wrong?
I do but I don't act on them. We tried once but it ended badly. I have had bad experiences as child with adults so I feel like these fantasies are a reflection on what happened. The one time we tried it I cried because I really felt like it was happening and started to feel anger towards him. Personally for me, I feel it's not healthy due to my past. For other people, I think it's a perfectly fine fantasy to attempt...WITH a partner as role play, not actually going out and harming someone.
07/02/2011
CandE CandE
I defintely have rape fantasies myself. Mine usually involves being kidnapped in public and held for ransom as some criminal takes advantage of me (usually as a slave). I think its actually more common then people let on, Im sure however that both men and women have some equal hold in this fantasy. I think as long as they are boundaries and the obvious nature of consent, then people should play to whatever turns them on.
04/16/2012
hyacinthgirl hyacinthgirl
I rather emphatically do not have them, but I think I understand them. I was raped by my first intimate partner, several times over the course of our relationship. I don't think most people with rape fantasies are really going for the having the person you love ignore your pleas to stop and force you to do things you don't want to do.

I'll admit, I got a little tingly reading (and watching) the infamous staircase scene in 'Gone With the Wind', and I think that sort of ravishment born of intense love and intense passion, which you are driven to respond to, is more what most people have in mind (this is based on my totally non-scientific polling of friends). Ayn Rand referred to this same type of scenario as 'rape by engraved invitation', and that seems to be pretty much what it is - carefully constructed so that the receiving partner is getting as much pleasure as possible in a primal, but not malicious, way.
04/16/2012
gloomybear gloomybear
i do fantisize about being the victim but i like the idea of being out of control and yes sometimes i fell like im messed up because it turns me on
04/17/2012
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