Do you have children living in your home with you? If so, does it make it difficult to find a time to have sex?

captainsgirl captainsgirl
are they always in bed on time and sound sleepers or do they share a bed with you and you never have alone time. what do you do?
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yes kids-doesn't affect my sex life
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yes kids-makes it difficult(please explain)
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no kids
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26  (40%)
Total votes: 65
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01/16/2013
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captainsgirl captainsgirl
We have a 7 and 4 year old that love to share a bed with mommy and stay up late.lol. therefore we always have to have sex in the early morning and quick.
01/16/2013
Ansley Ansley
No kids. Do you ever drop the kids off with a relative and spend the weekend in bed?
01/16/2013
SneakersAndPearls SneakersAndPearls
Only one of my kids co-slept with us, and he made the choice at around 6 mos that he liked his crib better. They are now both elementary school age and have strictly enforced bedtimes. Yes we bribe them to go to bed on time. Don't judge.
01/16/2013
Becky Lee Becky Lee
i have 4 kids and it make it so hard to find time for sex cause by the time i get the all to sleep and get ready to do anything one of them wakes up and then as soon as i get that one to sleep and another wakes up then after a while you just are to tried.
01/16/2013
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I have three daughters; 6.5 years, 4 years, and 20 months. They always have the same bedtime routine, and are always in bed around the same time each night. If you make it a habit to always do the same thing 30 minutes to an hour before bed and start having a wind down plan, it makes things a lot easier. My girls know that they pick up, go potty/brush teeth, get on pj's, get into bed, Mommy reads a book, their music gets turned on, and hugs and kisses are given. Period. This is what happens EVERY night. If you start having a pattern, kids know what to expect and are less likely to break away from it. Once the pattern is established, it's a whole lot easier to find time for yourselves.

My kids are in bed BY 7:30pm, giving my husband and I time to watch a movie, play a game, take a shower together, or spend personal time in the bedroom together. We don't ever have an issue with getting that time in.
01/16/2013
captainsgirl captainsgirl
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Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
I have three daughters; 6.5 years, 4 years, and 20 months. They always have the same bedtime routine, and are always in bed around the same time each night. If you make it a habit to always do the same thing 30 minutes to an hour before bed and ... More
yes we have had a strict bedtime routine since they were born. however, the past 6 months they have both decided to fight sleep and sneak into my bed.
01/16/2013
captainsgirl captainsgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by Ansley
No kids. Do you ever drop the kids off with a relative and spend the weekend in bed?
ya right i wish.
01/16/2013
padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by captainsgirl
are they always in bed on time and sound sleepers or do they share a bed with you and you never have alone time. what do you do?
I have two kids and it has affected our sex life in some ways. We've learned to make time for us though. We have date nights or try to have a quickie in the mornings. They are 11 and 17 so they have their own beds so that isn't an issue for us.
01/16/2013
srexom srexom
none yet.
01/16/2013
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
We have an adult daughter who lives with us. Generally speaking its not an issue - but occasionally her coming and goings can interfere with timing.
01/16/2013
Nora Nora
Our child is only 3 months old and sleeps in our room right now, so finding time and space to have sex can be tricky.
01/16/2013
P'Gell P'Gell
My Man and I have three kids, I'm not going to say that they make it "difficult" nor am I going to say they don't effect our sex life.

When you decide to have children (and it's a big decision) your entire life changes. The way you eat, the way you sleep, whether you work or where and how you work, where you live and of course your sex life changes.

Our babies shared our bed, but we would gently put them in the cradle or crib, after they were sound asleep when we wanted to have sex. We taught our children very young (as soon as they could walk) that you knock when coming up to a closed door (we never lock doors in our house) Our children always (usually) knocked before coming into our room. We also, once they were old enough, once they understood, would let them know when we didn't want to be disturbed "unless there is blood or fire" at certain times. Yes, kids know their parents have sex. They don't need the details, but they do need to be respectful of "Mama and Papa Time."

Our youngest is 13, and our middle child is in Grad School and still lives with us (the oldest one is moved out) and sometimes we still have to quiet down, when the kids stay up later than we do. We also have a new rule that they are not to use the spare bedroom (used to be our nursery and is right across the hall from our room) after Mama and Papa go to bed. (It makes me nervous, as the room is so close to ours, I don't want them hearing, and I can't relax when they are in there. They are 8 other rooms to hang out in.)

Like with everything else, you adapt.
01/16/2013
Terri69 Terri69
No kids
01/16/2013
Munko Munko
I have an almost one year old who I stay home with. I won't say SHE directly affects our sex life, but the change of having a kiddo around full time has definitely changed a lot of aspects of our lives. She goes to bed easily and sleeps good - I just struggle to make time for ME and my hubby once she's in bed. Often at the end of the day I just want to curl up away from the world and have 5 minutes to myself! This is very unlike me pre-baby (I generally pestered hubby for sex night and day) so we're trying to get back into the swing of things and find some sort of normal again. It's getting better as she gets older for sure!
01/26/2013
Nova146 Nova146
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Originally posted by captainsgirl
are they always in bed on time and sound sleepers or do they share a bed with you and you never have alone time. what do you do?
When we have a new baby, sex is less frequent, in part because baby shares our room. But also I just don't want it much. But I make sure to put baby in another room so we can have sex sometimes. DH is good at telling me when it's time. Usually, baby wakes up after a while and comes back to our room, once we're done with sex. Once they are in their own room, they sleep well
02/04/2013
LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
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Originally posted by Ansley
No kids. Do you ever drop the kids off with a relative and spend the weekend in bed?
I feel liek this is something I will do al the time when J and I have kids. My parents will love getting to spend time with them and spoil them anyways
03/10/2013
earthmama earthmama
My ex husband always wanted our daughter in the room with us. Made it difficult when we were together, or maybe not difficult but awkward. Not as much fun. Now that I'm single, I'm still struggling to break my daughter out of the habit of wanting to sleep with mommy, or waking up in the middle of the night and freaking out if I'm not in her room, etc, so that someday perhaps I can have fun with a human! She's 4.5 years old, so it's way past time! Meanwhile, getting her to sleep before I pass out so I can sneak to my room and have some Mommy time with a vibrator... priceless!
03/10/2013
MontereyJak MontereyJak
We always make time for our sexual fun. Even though we have 3 kids, a spouse and 2 grandkids living with us right now. One thing we wish we had was more privacy for our playmates to come over for a "sleepover", someday that wish will come true. So for now we'll just keep playing elsewhere, hotels, etc.
03/13/2013
Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by captainsgirl
are they always in bed on time and sound sleepers or do they share a bed with you and you never have alone time. what do you do?
Kids just mean there needs to be more planning.
03/14/2013
RonLee RonLee
We can be loud, and my GF is uncomfortable thinking that my live at home barely adult son may hear us.
03/14/2013
Msmueller Msmueller
Quote:
Originally posted by captainsgirl
are they always in bed on time and sound sleepers or do they share a bed with you and you never have alone time. what do you do?
I have three (ages 6,3, and 11mos). Its difficult in the sense that our rooms are all together at one end of the house, the walls are paper thin and my kids have learned how to pick the lock on my bedroom door... so I'm constantly terrified they'll wake up or walk in.
03/15/2013
Trysexual Trysexual
NO kids, but having 3 dogs and 2 cats can be distracting.
04/12/2013
LilVBWifey LilVBWifey
Yes we have 2 small children, I find that it really screws with my sex life lol! At night I am too tired so we have a lot of nooners because the kids are at daycare during the day!
04/12/2013
Kitka Kitka
We have a 9 year old who never co-slept with us so we don't have to worry about him wanting to share our bed. He's a pretty sound sleeper too and listens to music while sleeping so we can pretty much have sex whenever as long as he's not awake or if he's over at someone else's house for a while.
04/12/2013
Oriental husband and wife Oriental husband and wife
Definitely easier to have sex when no kids home. No worries of anyone hearing us, walking in or asking what is going on. When youngest one wanted me to stay with her, he had to wait for me to come back to bed. Also don't have to worry if they hear the sounds from the adult movie we might be watching.
04/14/2013
sunkissedJess sunkissedJess
No kids here.
04/15/2013
TJtheMadHatter TJtheMadHatter
Things can get a little hectic with our 2 1/2 year old son. It seems like his bedtime is getting later and later (my husband gets home late and wants to spend time with him). So with my son running amok, it does conflict with our sex life.
04/15/2013
Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
We have a kid, and it affects our sex life. It's no secret by now that I have a lot of hangups. Well, I have a hard time having sex with someone (anyone) else in the house, even if they're sound asleep in another room with the door closed. I still know they're there, and I have a hard time getting aroused because of it. We try to have some time together when he's at the babysitter's whenever we can.
04/15/2013
showgirl showgirl
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Originally posted by captainsgirl
are they always in bed on time and sound sleepers or do they share a bed with you and you never have alone time. what do you do?
If kids get in the way have the baby sitter come over and go on a adult drive or go to a motel...
if sex is important find time it might be hard but its possible
04/15/2013
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