Wondering what the men out there like to hear from their partners before during or after sex thats a turn on.... and from the women what do you say if anything...Im on the shy side so Ive always been curious...
I was never a fan before, I thought it was ridiculous too. But my partner loves giving and receiving dirty talk so I just got over the embarrassment and tried for it. I actually grew to like it when confronted with the fact that my partner was getting off more with it.
Usually, I just describe what I'm going to do before doing it, or ask if they like what I'm doing in the most vulgar terms I can think of.
I am a reeeally verbal person, it's hard for me to NOT talk dirty in bed. However, I'm in a kinky and queer relationship, so I don't know how much of what I say would be comfy/useful to you. When in doubt, it's hard to go wrong with "yes, fuck me, please!" and similar enthusiastic begging. Reading erotica can also be a fun way tot come up with ideas.