So I just got out of a relationship and we are trying to be friends. I am looking at exploring some new things sexually, for instance BDSM, and my ex is really uncomfortable with me doing so at social events with another mutual, platonic, friend. I want to find a way for me to be happy and explore my desires with out hurting them, but I don't know how. And part of me want to think they are being completely unreasonable, but I'm scared about damaging the relationship after we were working so hard at being friends again. Where do I compromise and where do I stand up for what I want? I'm having a hard time finding the line.