Would you date someone that has a child/children from a previous relationship?

sexygoddess sexygoddess
Probably not..
Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
Sure could. I have kids of my own so it works both ways.
The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
I'm engaged and I wouldn't love my fiancee any less if she had any kids.
That Man from Mars That Man from Mars
I dated a girl who had a child, just before my current relationship. I love kids, and to me it's just an added bonus.
CarmenGore262 CarmenGore262
Originally posted by Kimbertrees
Would you date someone that has a child/children from a previous relationship?
of course
Ryuson Ryuson
I think it really depends! If I am absolutely crazy about them, of course! Would I prefer they didn't? Well yeah!
Callisto Callisto
Originally posted by Kimbertrees
Would you date someone that has a child/children from a previous relationship?
My answer used to be No but it turned into Yes recently because all the men out there my age or older generally have at least one kid. Very common in Texas.
kellyg kellyg
I am currently seeing someone that had a child with their ex. I am perfectly fine with it but I do admit, it makes things tough..not necessarily the child, more like the drama that comes along with the ex. Sigh.
Kinkypixie Kinkypixie
No I would not. Im still in college and I would rather not have to worry about another student having a kid or two.
Miss Nessa Miss Nessa
Megan Ward Megan Ward
Originally posted by Adriana Ravenlust
I agree with this.
i agree with both
bayosgirl bayosgirl
I did, and married him, and now realize it was a bad decision because I resent the fact that he had kids with someone else, and the financial responsibility to take care of them. Oyy.
Wildchild Wildchild
Originally posted by Kimbertrees
Would you date someone that has a child/children from a previous relationship?
My wife has children from a previous relationship. We also have two children from our relationship. In the beginning, I really didn't want anything to do with the other children. Over time it changed, I realized how my selfishness was hurting her emotionally. The father of these children was a real "winner". The kids live with his mother because they interefere with his life. As it turns out, the kids like me and treat me with more respect than there own father.

The one thing I will admit to, but ashamed of was that when our children were born, I was afraid that the other children would take too much attention away from our children. I was wrong. My stepchildren love and adore my children. I felt like such a fool.
kendra30752 kendra30752
Yes. My partner does have a child with someone else. At first it was hard. No it was more than hard! His ex and him and a lot of problems, well she did with me. When we got together I done my best at being good to his daughter without pushing myself on her or just ignoring her. She was just a toddler and she wanted my attention. I was weird because I didn't want the mother to think I was trying to take her place at all. I'm totally against trying to take over the mommy role when it isn't your place. So I distanced myself some and the mother she just never did care for me. We never had problems with each other, but she just didn't like him being with another woman. After we'd been together for a year I accepted his daughter just like I accept my own. I treated her well and my family treated her just like our own. Then on Christmas eve she had it with us at my family's house and when her mother came to get her she pitched a fit and said she wanted to give me a hug. One hug turned into "please one more!" and eventually she said "I love you" to me. I didn't want to not say it back to a child who doesn't understand, but I didn't want to upset her mother and boy she was upset! Anyways she called later when we'd left for the smoky mountains to stay in a cabin and told us the child would never see us again because she said she loved me. Long story, but I don't mind children. I'm unable to havee them. My partner and I had 2 and lost them both and now we have my sister's kids and they are like our own to us, but we would like to see his more too.

In most situations I'd never be with someone who had children, but my partner and I've been together for 5 years and it's no issue anymore. Now I wouldn't ever do it again. It's exhausting emotionally and physically and requires a bit more thinking than with your own kids. It's hard to love a child like your own when they aren't your own.
daveysgirl daveysgirl
why not it is no big deal really.
Haiku Haiku
Several of my lovers have children from a previous or current relationship, as do I. Children absolutely complicate things though, and depending on your long term goals and hopes for the relationship, I can certainly see how it could be a deal breaker.
mcl272 mcl272
not interested! i would be if i was in that position (with kids needing a partner) but i'm more than satisfied to be with somebody who doesn't. eventually we'll have kids of our own!
AndroAngel AndroAngel
Absolutely not, I'm childfree by choice. And I'm not likely to be looking for someone new anyway, I've found the man I intend to marry.
sarki sarki
Only if the child/children were adults now
Isreah Isreah
I have to say no. I am personally not currently ready to take care of a child. I do not trust myself to raise a child. It may sound shallow to reject someone simply because they have a child, but I am simply not ready for that.
mistressg mistressg
Oooh...I could not handle children right now, of my own or of someone else's.
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
other. right now, i would prefer not to, but i think if i was older, i wouldn't mind. i'm not mature enough to handle kids at this point in my life
mizzmilla mizzmilla
I wouldn't really mind.
MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
I am sep with two lovely children whom I love and adore. I am pretty much under the assumption that I will date someone who is in the same boat. Totally sucks, but somehow life has to go on. Everyone deserves happiness, and would want the same for my ex.
mudpie mudpie
Sure, but I would make sure it was really serious before meeting their kids. Just casually dating, it shouldn't make that big of a difference, and if you say no right away, you might be closing yourself off to someone really great.
allinonekid allinonekid
Yes. My advice though is don't try to force the kids into liking you. It'll just make them hate you.
GonetoLovehoney GonetoLovehoney
No, that would be a deal-breaker for me. I am childfree and wouldn't put up with someone's child(ren). When I start a relationship, the only focus is on us and our lives. Thankfully, my current relationship doesn't look like it'll end anytime soon and he's not too fond of actually having a child to take care of. He likes kids, but he likes being able to give them back and be alone with me.
KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
Sure, I've always known I'm destined to be a mother-type-figure or a mother anyway. =3
My life plan involves getting married and having/adopting children with a partner already.
So getting the children and the guy all in one go...why not? ^_^
Pinkshirt Pinkshirt
Nothing against them, just not looking for it.
Azule Azule
I agree that i would be ok with it for now, but I think later on in life it may be a bit of an issue.
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