I have an old-school Feeldoe and, while it's a quality product, it doesn't quite suit me. It's a bit too firm, a bit too long, and far too smooth. So I'd like something that's a bit softer, a bit shorter, and with a lot more texture. After digging around, it seems like the two best alternatives are the Realdoe and the Share XL. I like the realistic appearance of the Realdoe and it's reported to be a bit softer then its predecessor, but it looks to be just as long and the "veins" are low enough that they don't look like they'd add all that much texture. The Share XL is reported to be much softer, clearly has tons of texture with those ridges, and seems to be a touch shorter, but its rather abstract appearance puts me off (I can't imagine having much fun going down on it) and the top bulb might be a bit thick for my partner. So neither seems like a perfect fit, but either would be an improvement. Any thoughts or suggestions about which might be a better fit for us?