So I can't climax with just sex

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so ive never been able to orgasm with just sex and the review sounds amazing. Since i cant orgasm with sex im looking for something that can help. this sounds like a really good choice. I just wanted to know has anybody else not been able to orgasm with sex but then bought this and now they can?
10/20/2010
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Alegria Alegria
Do you mean does this toy teach you how to orgasm from sex? Probably not. It isn't shaped like a penis, and they feel absolutely nothing alike to me.

If any toy would help you orgasm during sex, it would be a clitoral stimulator. Siri is my personal favorite toy to use during sex.

You might also consider some kegel balls. The stronger your PC muscles, the easier it is to orgasm, and they more intense they become.
10/21/2010
Sera Sera
Wow, Alegria. That was excellent advice about the kegel exercises. I'll be using that myself!
10/21/2010
Kayla Kayla
I can't orgasm from sex alone (just like 75% of women, so it's not weird), and honestly a sex toy isn't going to teach you to orgasm just from sex. It just means you need clitoral stimulation for orgasm. It's possible it would provide g-spot pleasure though.
10/21/2010
Jenn (aka kissmykitty) Jenn (aka kissmykitty)
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Originally posted by socceras
so ive never been able to orgasm with just sex and the review sounds amazing. Since i cant orgasm with sex im looking for something that can help. this sounds like a really good choice. I just wanted to know has anybody else not been able to ... More
Welcome to the club. Most women can't. We need direct (or sometimes indirect) clitoral stimulation in order to have an orgasm.

I suggest masturbating before, during, or after sex. Use a vibe during sex to help with getting off.
10/21/2010
Envy Envy
Look into getting a bullet vibe or even a gspot vibe than can be handled during sex and use it on your clit. I say gspot vibe because the longer reach might be easier to handle and manipulate than a small bullet you might end up dropping with lubed up fingers.
10/21/2010
seaofneptune seaofneptune
I like using my Jimmyjane Iconic bullet or Lelo Nea during sex, they are small and unobtrusive. Some like the We-Vibe II because you can have both internal and external stimulation during intercourse.

Like others said, a lot of women can't orgasm with just penetration alone. It's way easier for me to get there when I have some type of clitoral stimulation as well. Also, the more worked up I am the easier it is for me to orgasm.

So like Jenn said, you can masturbate before or during, or even have your partner use a toy on you if you wish. My partner loves doing that.

If you want G-Spot stimulation, I have heard that the Bent Graduate is awesome for that. It will help you to learn about your G-spot and get used to that stimulation but not necessarily orgasm during sex. Unless you are able to get a g-spot orgasm from it.
10/21/2010
Liz2 Liz2
Like others, I can't usually orgasm by sex alone. I "need" an orgasm prior to penetration so prior to toys it twas either mine or my partners fingers.
I would suggest almost any clit vibe that can also be used as part of foreplay.
10/21/2010
Cori Cori
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Originally posted by Alegria
Do you mean does this toy teach you how to orgasm from sex? Probably not. It isn't shaped like a penis, and they feel absolutely nothing alike to me.

If any toy would help you orgasm during sex, it would be a clitoral stimulator. Siri is ... More
Thanks for the advice, I have the same problem.
06/13/2011
Vexed Vexed
About 70% of women can't climax without direct clitoral stimulation. The other women are still having orgasms that are clitoral centered. It's just that indirect stimulation is enough to send waves to their clit in some way.
06/27/2011
Beck Beck
Pocket rockets or bullets are my favorite for help in that department. They work great usually take one battery and are small so they are less intimidating to a man who may not be use to a women bringing out the toy box. And are easy to use when having intercourse. I would suggest to get one of those two and if its a bullet to me the ones with wires are a pain the wire comes lose and it stops working good luck!
07/08/2011
Kitt Katt Kitt Katt
I was not able to orgasm without clitoral stimulation until a few months ago when my husband introduced g-spot vibrator into our sex play. It took some practice, but now I can have g-spot orgasms from vibrators, my husband's fingers and PIV intercourse. I actually have a toy very similar to the one you are asking about and I do enjoy internal orgasms with it.
07/08/2011
Floral Floral
This is a great post. Frankly, I didn't even know it was possible for women to orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone. I guess that makes me one of the 70%... but I'm doing kegels thanks to Alegria!
07/10/2011
v23 v23
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Originally posted by Alegria
Do you mean does this toy teach you how to orgasm from sex? Probably not. It isn't shaped like a penis, and they feel absolutely nothing alike to me.

If any toy would help you orgasm during sex, it would be a clitoral stimulator. Siri is ... More
Awesome advice!
07/12/2011
Girly Girl Girly Girl
i always feel content, i am able to have an orgasm ,,, but when i want more,, for me an egg vibrator is ok ,, but everyone it´s different if this toy get´s you excited then you should try it if you like the glass texture and the g spoting is very nice ,, but it´s up to you,,, to try ,, it seen like a nice toy i suggest you to put it on your next order,, i hope this helps
08/27/2011
Callisto Callisto
Quote:
Originally posted by Alegria
Do you mean does this toy teach you how to orgasm from sex? Probably not. It isn't shaped like a penis, and they feel absolutely nothing alike to me.

If any toy would help you orgasm during sex, it would be a clitoral stimulator. Siri is ... More
..and with this post. I want kegel balls
08/31/2011
Eucaly Eucaly
Learning how to orgasm from internal stimulation alone with a toy might help you learn how to orgasm with internal stimulation alone with a penis, but don't expect it to. There is a good chance that it won't help that way and that you'll still need clit stim.
09/07/2011
PunkyB PunkyB
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Originally posted by Callisto
..and with this post. I want kegel balls
I got some... They are great!!
09/14/2011
Love Perpetua Love Perpetua
A lot of women aren't able to orgasm from penetrative sex alone; it is perfectly normal. It's been suggested, but kegel exercises are a good way to get more pleasure from sex, you can try clenching and unclenching while he is inside you, and the stronger your kegel muscles are, the better it can feel! You can also get a small vibrator to use during penetration, that way you can have a clitoral orgasm while he is inside you.
09/15/2011
Brandonn Brandonn
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Originally posted by socceras
so ive never been able to orgasm with just sex and the review sounds amazing. Since i cant orgasm with sex im looking for something that can help. this sounds like a really good choice. I just wanted to know has anybody else not been able to ... More
You would be better off starting with a vibrator.
02/12/2012
Boobs and Lubes Boobs and Lubes
We have a similar issue, reverse missionary solved the issue for us.
02/14/2012
greed greed
Quote:
Originally posted by socceras
so ive never been able to orgasm with just sex and the review sounds amazing. Since i cant orgasm with sex im looking for something that can help. this sounds like a really good choice. I just wanted to know has anybody else not been able to ... More
sex is hard, practice and try different things.

I ordered one of those, its looks fun.
02/14/2012
socceras socceras
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Originally posted by Liz2
Like others, I can't usually orgasm by sex alone. I "need" an orgasm prior to penetration so prior to toys it twas either mine or my partners fingers.
I would suggest almost any clit vibe that can also be used as part of foreplay.
I am going to try this.
02/14/2012
CaptainAngel CaptainAngel
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Originally posted by Boobs and Lubes
We have a similar issue, reverse missionary solved the issue for us.
What is reverse missionary??
04/13/2012
socceras socceras
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Originally posted by Sera
Wow, Alegria. That was excellent advice about the kegel exercises. I'll be using that myself!
I will b doing the kegel exercises. I have the kegel exerciser I just forget to use it lol.
04/13/2012
pix pix
I'm not sure a toy could teach you to climax with just sex, In fact personally sometimes I am disappointed by sex because it can't bring me to climax like my vibrator could
04/13/2012
travelnurse travelnurse
good recipe for orgasm, just found out last evening. I was wearing my uno for aprox 2 hours (while my brakes were being worked) I also walked around the grocery store with it in. Later in the evening my husband I decided to play, wearing my beginner anal beads my husband used the reflections hope glass vibrator on me while performing clitoral stimulation. I orgasm-ed so powerfully that I was sobbing (this is not normal for me) when we then put the vibrator away. My husband and I had intercourse doggy style and I continued to have several more orgasms. I would like to contribute the great evening to the combinations of the toys. My husband and I have been together for 15 plus years and we haven't had an episode this good for a while no other conditions were different besides the use of the toys. Plus I was dead tired when this occurred which is pretty much my normal
06/28/2012
Vadim50 Vadim50
I suggest masturbating before, during, or after sex
08/07/2012
pixylove101 pixylove101
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Originally posted by socceras
so ive never been able to orgasm with just sex and the review sounds amazing. Since i cant orgasm with sex im looking for something that can help. this sounds like a really good choice. I just wanted to know has anybody else not been able to ... More
I can't orgasm with just sex either. Glad to hear someone else is like me. I though I was weird.
08/26/2012
Bethy Cassatt Bethy Cassatt
There's the We-vibe, and other such couple toys that can help assist/add more feeling to your sexual encounters. I imagine your partner(s) might want to still help in this process, so talk to them about what you want to do about this. They probably want to help drive you crazy.
08/26/2012
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