I think Lelo's Mia is a great first toy. It can be used during intercourse on her clit or you could tease her with it a little or use it on her nipples while you're going down on her. It's little and non threatening and very cute and feminine. It's rechargeable via USB port. At about $60 it's a little pricey but not bad. Save some EF points and it's really reasonable for a high quality toy, Lelo is a luxury brand and has a 1 year warranty where they replace it if it malfunctions or breaks and a 10 year guarantee where if it has a problem within 10 years of purchase you get $50 off any toy in their line. If she's never masturbated before, I think it would be a really non-intimidating introduction to mastur. Plus the size and shape make it really easy to handle. Je Joue's Mimi is supposed to be really good to use during partner sex, but it's a little more expensive. But I've heard many women say their partners gave them one and they love it.