Does it get better or Bitter

Butterkups Butterkups
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How does sex seem to be getting for those over 50? Does it bet better or do you get bitter?
02/06/2009
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Mamastoys Mamastoys
First of all, I'm not quiet there but hubby is over 50. I can say that for us, it is definitely BETTER!! Hubby had triple by-pass surgery several years ago and it made us realize that time is precious. Our kids are grown and have left the house, we don't have to worry about getting pregnant, and having been married almost 25 years, we can relax and enjoy every experience together. We've learned a lot about toys, lubes, and other areas that we have never explored. We're comfortable with each other, know each others faults, and are learning new likes for each of us. Everyone bitches about hormones but for me, this has been the best hormonal ride of my life! Hubby can tell when they kick in and he knows he can have whatever he wants! Check back with me a couple of years when I hit 50 and see how things are going then!
02/23/2009
Tuesday Tuesday
I'm 50 and I agree that its better for all the reasons Mamastoys mentions plus the fact that by age 50 you're much more assertive about asking for what you want. The sensation is every bit as intense. Having the kids out of the house, no pregnancy worries and the resources to buy whatever supplies we want are icing on the cake.
02/23/2009
Tuesday Tuesday
I should add that I do have friends my age who don't care about sex anymore. But that's definitely not me. They're not bitter though.
02/23/2009
Fun Lover Fun Lover
Tuesday has it rite. We are 54 and sex is as good as ever sometimes you may need a little help (Cialis). Often times I feel like a newlywed again except for now we don't have all of the worries we had when we were younger. Sex is like a fine wine it gets better with age.
02/23/2009
Mamastoys Mamastoys
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Originally posted by Fun Lover
Tuesday has it rite. We are 54 and sex is as good as ever sometimes you may need a little help (Cialis). Often times I feel like a newlywed again except for now we don't have all of the worries we had when we were younger. Sex is like a fine wine ... More
Hubby had to have a little help too (Viagra) until his heart surgery but since then, he has done everything on his own. Guess when they opened those arteries to his heart, got the blood flowing everywhere! no complaints from me!! ) Things had slowed down prior to his surgery so health issues can interfere.
02/24/2009
Destri Destri
'Better' doesn't even come close to describing it! I am well over 50, with a younger husband, and the sex is amazing! I have online friends who are in their 70's who say they are having more sex than ever. Age doesn't matter... younger people can have problems too... it is all a state of mind.
02/27/2009
Victoria Victoria
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Originally posted by Mamastoys
Hubby had to have a little help too (Viagra) until his heart surgery but since then, he has done everything on his own. Guess when they opened those arteries to his heart, got the blood flowing everywhere! no complaints from me!! ) Things had ... More
Wow, I wonder if this is typical with heart surgery!
02/27/2009
Mamastoys Mamastoys
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Originally posted by Victoria
Wow, I wonder if this is typical with heart surgery!
I think it is pretty common with heart patients. I've even read where ED is now considered as much a risk factor for heart disease as high blood pressure, diabetes, and high cholesterol. When the blood isn't flowing through the heart, it's not going anywhere else either. And if it's not flowing, overall energy level will drop.
02/28/2009
palmmom palmmom
We are in our mid 60s and I can vouch that it is better than ever, even though he needs Levitra or Cialis! We both are having lots of fun trying out toys at this age, something we never even thought of before. Oddly enough, we keeping getting more liberated as the years go on (42 of them!).
03/19/2009
Dragon Dragon
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Originally posted by Mamastoys
I think it is pretty common with heart patients. I've even read where ED is now considered as much a risk factor for heart disease as high blood pressure, diabetes, and high cholesterol. When the blood isn't flowing through the heart, ... More
Oh that's just thrilling to hear...
03/19/2009
Mamastoys Mamastoys
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Originally posted by Dragon
Oh that's just thrilling to hear...
but if you see these symptoms, you know to get it checked out. and get things fixed!
03/20/2009
Sammi Sammi
We're not 50 yet, but sex has just been getting better and better as we've grown together. We've been together 25 years (18 of them married), and it's better than when we were first together.
03/20/2009
Liz2 Liz2
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Originally posted by Sammi
We're not 50 yet, but sex has just been getting better and better as we've grown together. We've been together 25 years (18 of them married), and it's better than when we were first together.
Wow! Great to know....congrats!
03/20/2009
Josmoseph Josmoseph
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Originally posted by Butterkups
How does sex seem to be getting for those over 50? Does it bet better or do you get bitter?
Better and better
05/08/2009
Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
Michele isn't quite 50 yet, but I am, and it's only gotten better and better since my early 40s. With the house to ourselves, there's nothing to hide, and we have time for each other that we never had before. If we forget to lock our bedroom door or have that X-rated movie turned up a little too loud, so what? The whole house can be included in the "playground" now, and Michele's more adventurous than she ever was in our 20s or 30s even. We have much more time for each other. I've got a lot less stress from work at this age, and thus can hold an erection much longer, which makes me more confidant, which makes performance in general more enjoyable for both of us. It's just an endless cycle, with everything going uphill.
06/23/2009
WildKimA WildKimA
It is MUCH better!

Kim, who is writing a blog about sex at 59.
09/03/2009
Trophyhusband Trophyhusband
I agree with what others have said about comfort and familiarity with a long term partner. However, I'm 54 and my wife is 50, and as her monthly menstrual flow becomes shorter and weaker so does her sex drive. A friend who is four years older than I told me that the same thing happened to her at my wife's age but that once menopause was over her sex drive came back. Time will tell whether that proves to also be the case with my wife; in the interim I feel unappreciated and undesired.
11/16/2009
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Butterkups
How does sex seem to be getting for those over 50? Does it bet better or do you get bitter?
I'd be lying if I didn't say that I long for the 20 & 30 something days of getting hard and staying hard - as long as I wanted - as many times as I wanted. But if learn from your experiences, keep active and adapt to your new circumstances - it can definitely be better. After 20 years my wife and I have more and more rewarding sex than we did back then.

The old adage - I wish I knew then, what I know now applies! If I could use my learned creativity with youthful virility - that would have been awesome!

Bottom line is I love the way it is and work hard every day to make it better - no bitterness here!
11/16/2009
Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
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Originally posted by Trophyhusband
I agree with what others have said about comfort and familiarity with a long term partner. However, I'm 54 and my wife is 50, and as her monthly menstrual flow becomes shorter and weaker so does her sex drive. A friend who is four years older ... More
Menopause can do seriously crazy things to a woman's body, and it's extremely common for them to lose their drive. It has nothing to do with the woman consciously losing interest or thinking that her partner is undesirable, it's just biological. I've been told that it's similar to when a man is in a sexual situation but just can't get an erection no matter what his partner does for him.
I personally can't verify that fact though, because I'm the opposite.
Menopausal hormones can swing the other way too, making the woman a virtual nympho which, while that might sound awesome at first to a man, can have problems of its own. It's affected me this way, and there has been a time or two when my hubby has gotten tired and said he wasn't sure if I actually loved him anymore or if I just want him for sex. Either way menopause is a time that's difficult for all couples to deal with.
11/16/2009
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Alan & Michele
Menopause can do seriously crazy things to a woman's body, and it's extremely common for them to lose their drive. It has nothing to do with the woman consciously losing interest or thinking that her partner is undesirable, it's just ... More
Very interesting - my 'better-half' is firmly in the perimenopausal stage and was beginning to exhibit some symptoms that interfered with our love life. after all it's hard to be romantic when you didn't get any sleep due to night-sweats.

She went to a doctor who diagnosed her with estrogen dominance - one key symptom is sensitive/overly sensitive breasts. He prescribed a progesterone cream that she applies for about 20 days per month. It was like magic - re-balancing her hormones has eliminated the adverse symptoms - and we're back to business as usuall - in fact I would say even better than before!
11/16/2009
Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Very interesting - my 'better-half' is firmly in the perimenopausal stage and was beginning to exhibit some symptoms that interfered with our love life. after all it's hard to be romantic when you didn't get any sleep due to ... More
I've been on a natural progesterone cream for about a year now (same reason as your wife), and it *does* take care of most of the symptoms nicely. Except for the extra increased sex drive
11/16/2009
NuMe NuMe
Gunsmoke,
I take natural progesterone as well. And it does work wonders. Plus, like Michele said, it really increases the sex drive.

Michele,
I think, at times, my husband thinks I only want him for his body too.
11/16/2009
Destri Destri
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Originally posted by Butterkups
How does sex seem to be getting for those over 50? Does it bet better or do you get bitter?
At 60, post-menpausal, I can only say that the sex is FANTASTIC!
11/17/2009
NuMe NuMe
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Originally posted by Destri
At 60, post-menpausal, I can only say that the sex is FANTASTIC!
That's good to know! I'm 50 and mine just kicked back in earlier this year. But I've wondered about after menopause.
11/17/2009
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I was tempted to start a new thread on this - but opted to add to this one instead.

At 55 I work hard to keep up with my 44 year old bride. We've always had a pretty good time in bed - but there's no doubt that she's experiencing a renascence of sort. Ex.

Friday night she had 3 of her wettest orgasms ever - then expecting Saturday to be a bit tamer - she went wild with 3 more! First with her favorite glass wand - with no vibe at all, then an extended vaginal orgasm with the Tiger dildo (FunFactory) driven in as deeply as it would go - then a long cowgirl ride driving me as deeply as she can take it!

She's ready to send my son off to college so she can finally let loose - stifling the screams that she want to let loose is cramping her style!

No doubt things are still getting BETTER with age!!!!
12/14/2009
fishkiller fishkiller
At 65, and 64 soon to be 65, I can only attest to how things are with us. She had some issues with dryness, and after several years finally went to a gynecologist, got some hormone patches, to replace the pills that were not working. Once these started working she was more willing to have vaginal sex. I had to start levitra, and after some exprimenting, dividing the pills to smaller amounts, have enjoyed the "help". I have had congested arteries for some time and it makes sense that all my arteries are partially blocked. Levitra just opens things up, and the blood can flow, everywhere. The smaller doses have eliminated the head aches, when the pills start to wear off. I take about 5mg per session, and that works for me.
With the new toys, lubes, and an openess to talk, asking for what you want, sex is, for us, better than it was when we were twenty somethings. Her favorite pet now is the "rabbit", and we have a small herd in the dresser. We have experimented with several different types of sex, that years ago would have seemed kinky......I like kinky today! She likes kinky today! I guess we have evolved to kinky old people. But it is our bedroom, and we make the rules. Sex is all the better for us, but there is a rule for old men, "once a king always a king, but once a knight is enough".
01/05/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Victoria
Wow, I wonder if this is typical with heart surgery!
They say the need for Viagra or another aide is the first visible sign of heart disease - scary!!!!!!!!
01/05/2010
Envy Envy
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Originally posted by fishkiller
At 65, and 64 soon to be 65, I can only attest to how things are with us. She had some issues with dryness, and after several years finally went to a gynecologist, got some hormone patches, to replace the pills that were not working. Once these ... More
Funny, my dad has a Danish ashtray thing that says that in his room. I never understood what it meant until recently, and I don't have to read the Danish under the English phrase to understand now, lol.

As for age thing, my dad is 55 and his gf tells me he hardly wants it, saying he's 'too old.' Then again I was also told he was never much into it, even at a younger age. I guess he's never had much a high drive or just doesn't care. Says a lot about him, since he's so lazy and selfish.

As for grandparents, I never saw them hug, or kiss, or even say I love you, they just did things out of duty, and I doubt they kept anything going. I think after her hysderectomy in her 40s or so, my grandma quit it, as did my grandpa. I don't ask, though, sex is a taboo subject.
01/05/2010
00 00
I can only speak for myself and my husband concerning this and may not be what others over 50 feel. For us, having been married 28+ years and being over 50, sex is better now, hotter now, more exciting now, more liberating now and more fun now. With age comes a sense of being freed from a lot of social restrictions...people expect you will start to just "speak your mind" and thus, you can! People start to expect that you will maybe go through some "second childhood" crap and thus it is not out of the realm of possibility to see couples my age acting like horny teenagers, holding hands everywhere they go and kissing in public. With age comes a lot of experience and knowledge about your own body, if you have been smart enough to explore yourself and learn about your physicality, and with that experience and knowledge, you know what works and what doesn't for yourself and your partner. No worries about birth control anymore and that can be liberating for some people. Also for many, at this age you have more disposable income available that can often be put towards things like romantic getaways which can help enhance the relationship.

Granted, for some people, this age brings new challenges, such as the fact that for some men it takes longer to either get an erection or to ejaculate. For women, menopause sometimes causes problems. This is why it is vital to have an open and honest line of communication with your sex partner as well as your doctor. Most problems can be tackled or helped if not entirely resolved with the proper medical care. Fortunately for my husband and myself, we haven't had any health problems that would stop or limit sexual encounters yet and hopefully will not in the future either. But I have personally found that staying physically active and being PRO-good health, having regular sexual outlets, whether with someone or alone (you know the expression--use it or lose it!)all go a long way in maintaining a good sex life.

Of course, this is all just my opinion and reality.Happy sex everyone.
03/18/2010
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