Does it get better or Bitter

First of all, I'm not quiet there but hubby is over 50. I can say that for us, it is definitely BETTER!! Hubby had triple by-pass surgery several years ago and it made us realize that time is precious. Our kids are grown and have left the house, we don't have to worry about getting pregnant, and having been married almost 25 years, we can relax and enjoy every experience together. We've learned a lot about toys, lubes, and other areas that we have never explored. We're comfortable with each other, know each others faults, and are learning new likes for each of us. Everyone bitches about hormones but for me, this has been the best hormonal ride of my life! Hubby can tell when they kick in and he knows he can have whatever he wants! Check back with me a couple of years when I hit 50 and see how things are going then!

I'm 50 and I agree that its better for all the reasons Mamastoys mentions plus the fact that by age 50 you're much more assertive about asking for what you want. The sensation is every bit as intense. Having the kids out of the house, no pregnancy worries and the resources to buy whatever supplies we want are icing on the cake.

I should add that I do have friends my age who don't care about sex anymore. But that's definitely not me. They're not bitter though.

Tuesday has it rite. We are 54 and sex is as good as ever sometimes you may need a little help (Cialis). Often times I feel like a newlywed again except for now we don't have all of the worries we had when we were younger. Sex is like a fine wine it gets better with age.

'Better' doesn't even come close to describing it! I am well over 50, with a younger husband, and the sex is amazing! I have online friends who are in their 70's who say they are having more sex than ever. Age doesn't matter... younger people can have problems too... it is all a state of mind.

We are in our mid 60s and I can vouch that it is better than ever, even though he needs Levitra or Cialis! We both are having lots of fun trying out toys at this age, something we never even thought of before. Oddly enough, we keeping getting more liberated as the years go on (42 of them!).

Michele isn't quite 50 yet, but I am, and it's only gotten better and better since my early 40s. With the house to ourselves, there's nothing to hide, and we have time for each other that we never had before. If we forget to lock our bedroom door or have that X-rated movie turned up a little too loud, so what? The whole house can be included in the "playground" now, and Michele's more adventurous than she ever was in our 20s or 30s even. We have much more time for each other. I've got a lot less stress from work at this age, and thus can hold an erection much longer, which makes me more confidant, which makes performance in general more enjoyable for both of us. It's just an endless cycle, with everything going uphill.

It is MUCH better!

Kim, who is writing a blog about sex at 59.

I agree with what others have said about comfort and familiarity with a long term partner. However, I'm 54 and my wife is 50, and as her monthly menstrual flow becomes shorter and weaker so does her sex drive. A friend who is four years older than I told me that the same thing happened to her at my wife's age but that once menopause was over her sex drive came back. Time will tell whether that proves to also be the case with my wife; in the interim I feel unappreciated and undesired.

Gunsmoke,
I take natural progesterone as well. And it does work wonders. Plus, like Michele said, it really increases the sex drive.

Michele,
I think, at times, my husband thinks I only want him for his body too.

I was tempted to start a new thread on this - but opted to add to this one instead.

At 55 I work hard to keep up with my 44 year old bride. We've always had a pretty good time in bed - but there's no doubt that she's experiencing a renascence of sort. Ex.

Friday night she had 3 of her wettest orgasms ever - then expecting Saturday to be a bit tamer - she went wild with 3 more! First with her favorite glass wand - with no vibe at all, then an extended vaginal orgasm with the Tiger dildo (FunFactory) driven in as deeply as it would go - then a long cowgirl ride driving me as deeply as she can take it!

She's ready to send my son off to college so she can finally let loose - stifling the screams that she want to let loose is cramping her style!

No doubt things are still getting BETTER with age!!!!

At 65, and 64 soon to be 65, I can only attest to how things are with us. She had some issues with dryness, and after several years finally went to a gynecologist, got some hormone patches, to replace the pills that were not working. Once these started working she was more willing to have vaginal sex. I had to start levitra, and after some exprimenting, dividing the pills to smaller amounts, have enjoyed the "help". I have had congested arteries for some time and it makes sense that all my arteries are partially blocked. Levitra just opens things up, and the blood can flow, everywhere. The smaller doses have eliminated the head aches, when the pills start to wear off. I take about 5mg per session, and that works for me.
With the new toys, lubes, and an openess to talk, asking for what you want, sex is, for us, better than it was when we were twenty somethings. Her favorite pet now is the "rabbit", and we have a small herd in the dresser. We have experimented with several different types of sex, that years ago would have seemed kinky......I like kinky today! She likes kinky today! I guess we have evolved to kinky old people. But it is our bedroom, and we make the rules. Sex is all the better for us, but there is a rule for old men, "once a king always a king, but once a knight is enough".

I can only speak for myself and my husband concerning this and may not be what others over 50 feel. For us, having been married 28+ years and being over 50, sex is better now, hotter now, more exciting now, more liberating now and more fun now. With age comes a sense of being freed from a lot of social restrictions...people expect you will start to just "speak your mind" and thus, you can! People start to expect that you will maybe go through some "second childhood" crap and thus it is not out of the realm of possibility to see couples my age acting like horny teenagers, holding hands everywhere they go and kissing in public. With age comes a lot of experience and knowledge about your own body, if you have been smart enough to explore yourself and learn about your physicality, and with that experience and knowledge, you know what works and what doesn't for yourself and your partner. No worries about birth control anymore and that can be liberating for some people. Also for many, at this age you have more disposable income available that can often be put towards things like romantic getaways which can help enhance the relationship.

Granted, for some people, this age brings new challenges, such as the fact that for some men it takes longer to either get an erection or to ejaculate. For women, menopause sometimes causes problems. This is why it is vital to have an open and honest line of communication with your sex partner as well as your doctor. Most problems can be tackled or helped if not entirely resolved with the proper medical care. Fortunately for my husband and myself, we haven't had any health problems that would stop or limit sexual encounters yet and hopefully will not in the future either. But I have personally found that staying physically active and being PRO-good health, having regular sexual outlets, whether with someone or alone (you know the expression--use it or lose it!)all go a long way in maintaining a good sex life.

Of course, this is all just my opinion and reality.Happy sex everyone.