What's the biggest age gap you've experienced with a partner?
Mental/emotional maturity should be more important than chronological age. I was married to a man ten years older than me (we met when I was 21 and he was 31), and in the decade we had been together, he had not grown in ANY way - he was mentally the same man I married when we separated (me at 32 and him at 42). He was POLITELY described by family and friends as 'childish', 'immature', 'passive-aggressive', and 'juvenile'. (Yes, these were the polite ways he was described; the impolite ways would have me banned for excessive profanity.)
So, yeah. Age doesn't matter - emotional maturity does. And it doesn't necessarily come with age, either.
So, yeah. Age doesn't matter - emotional maturity does. And it doesn't necessarily come with age, either.
08/23/2010
I've got 11 years on my bride and work very hard to stay in shape to please her. I never dated younger until I met my wife. I was 34 - she was 23 - but we were so compatible it never really mattered. With this much of a difference there is a risk of me preceding her by some years - we'll see.
Here's to many more years of wedded bliss
Here's to many more years of wedded bliss
08/23/2010
I've never dated a man over 30. Ever. And I'm 38. Well actually I lie - my bf will be turning 30 this year so he's all grown up and stuff. I certainly didn't plan it this way - I just don't seem to get hit on by guys my age or older - it's always the 20-somethings. Well I get hit on by older gay guys a lot, but it's usually because they want a baby.
08/23/2010
I made a guess at 15+ years, but it could have been 20 or more. I never did know how old he was for sure. I dated a professor I had in college (after I finished two of his courses, I wasn't legally "his student" anymore) and he was around 20 or so years older than I was. It didn't last long. I was in my late teens and simply wasn't mature enough for him. He had a PhD (two actually) and a house, and bills to pay, and a full time job and was writing a book, and doing research, and all I did was my college work, a part time job for some money and PARTY! (OK, I had one research project in the works, but it was diddly compared to the very seriously taken, peer reviewed published work he did regularly.) He said I had enough brains for him, but not enough intent. Whatever that meant.
My Man is a bit older than I am, but not as old as this man was. Now that I think about it, now, this other man would be in his 60s! It never occurred to me before......
My Man is a bit older than I am, but not as old as this man was. Now that I think about it, now, this other man would be in his 60s! It never occurred to me before......
08/24/2010
My current partner is 21 years older than me (exactly twice my age this year).
Do I like it? No. But I love him. Our age difference didn't stop me from wanting to be with him, obviously, because he doesn't act his age whatsoever. Sometimes I feel like I might as well be dating someone YOUNGER than me.
We've been together for a little over two years. We've had a lot of problems, a lot of arguments and very little trust. Our age difference is becoming an issue as I am going back to school, along with other things. His birthday is the hardest time of the year for me. We'll see how it goes.
Would I do it again? No.
Do I like it? No. But I love him. Our age difference didn't stop me from wanting to be with him, obviously, because he doesn't act his age whatsoever. Sometimes I feel like I might as well be dating someone YOUNGER than me.
We've been together for a little over two years. We've had a lot of problems, a lot of arguments and very little trust. Our age difference is becoming an issue as I am going back to school, along with other things. His birthday is the hardest time of the year for me. We'll see how it goes.
Would I do it again? No.
08/24/2010
21 years for me - and it's going really well. Granted, I don't catch his references to Watergate, but he doesn't get my references to Fraggle Rock, so I think we're even. Most of the time, the age difference is inconsequential because the reason we're together is not because of shared pop culture references but because of everything else.
When everything else just clicks, I'd be a fool to let this go just because of age.
It's almost a family tradition, relationships with big age differences - my dad is 16 years older than my mom, one brother is 18 years older than his wife. It's not that I set out to date an older man - but he just smelled so right... lol
When everything else just clicks, I'd be a fool to let this go just because of age.
It's almost a family tradition, relationships with big age differences - my dad is 16 years older than my mom, one brother is 18 years older than his wife. It's not that I set out to date an older man - but he just smelled so right... lol
08/29/2010
I normally attract younger men. The largest gap was 21 years. He was 19 and not very mature, so that ended quickly.
My husband is 16 1/2 years younger than me, but we get along wonderfully. We don't argue...we'll occasionally get irritated with each other, but it never lasts longer than a few minutes because we talk about everything. It probably helps that we were friends first before we entered into a relationship.
My husband is 16 1/2 years younger than me, but we get along wonderfully. We don't argue...we'll occasionally get irritated with each other, but it never lasts longer than a few minutes because we talk about everything. It probably helps that we were friends first before we entered into a relationship.
09/06/2010
