PLEASE HELP! Small Bump Found in Boyfriend's Anus

MeliPixie MeliPixie
Hi everyone, I have a very serious subject to discuss with you. My boyfriend and I enjoy engaging in pegging and other woman-on-top sort of activities about once a week, and usually it's all fun and games, laughter, pleasure, you get the gist. But last night something really scary happened. As usual, I lubed up my finger and slipped it inside him to start preparing him for... bigger things to come, and was startled to find something.

Just inside him by maybe an inch, just below the surface my finger was touching, was a very small, hard, almost ball-shaped bump. It could not possibly have even been a quarter inch wide, and was on the wall of his insides nearest his scrotum (anterior? posterior? not sure, the wall that faces the prostate). I don't think it was ON his prostate, because his is actually further in than the average man's, I need to insert my whole finger to find it. And it definitely was NOT there two weeks ago (he wanted it so bad last week he didn't give me time to play with my hands, just strap on and go).

I did what I thought was right. I paused what we were doing, gave it a good feel, and gently let him know what I found. I was prepared to be supportive in any way he needed. To my surprise, all I got was, "Eh. *shrug* Maybe I have butt cancer." And he wiggled his bum at me to continue.

So I smacked his butt and stopped his wiggling, sat back and cleared my head for a sec, and expressed worry about continuing. He said he wasn't worried at all and begged me to continue. Eventually I managed to get that little bump out of my mind and enjoy myself.

But when I woke up this morning, I couldn't help but wonder if it was okay. I mean, I fucked him pretty hard. And he had a bump in there. I wanted nothing more than to feel and see if it was still there. I know down there, very small bumps can come and go with no harm done. But I'm a huge worrier.

I need some advice. I have no clue what to do. He has no health insurance, and a hospital bill from February of LAST year that is still being paid off because we have little spare money. I know a few things that it COULD be, like a pollup (spell checker says that's misspelled), or a cyst, or a pimple, or stress from a rough bowel movement, all things that are not very threatening. But my brain won't let go of the possibility that it could be something... worse. I'm scared.

What should I do? I don't want to be a nag. Would it be bad to wait a week and see if it's there the next time we play before I bring it up again?

Any help anyone can offer will be appreciated. Thanks for listening, everyone, and sorry for the long post.

-Pixie
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
I have a suggestion as to what it could be...
JG24FanUK , Two Grand
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One week couldn't hurt, go ahead and wait.
Ciao. , DeliciousSurprise , sexystuffeve , padmeamidala
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Perhaps bring it up again sooner. This could be serious,
Do not wait. Talk to him about it again tonight.
I have something else to say too.
ToyTimeTim , Bignuf
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Total votes: 8 (8 voters)
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ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
I would check it in a couple of days to see if it is getting any bigger or smaller. Like you say it could be a cyst, pimple or stress from a rough bowel movement but it could be something more serious. Polyps are usually found in the colon but it does say they can be found elsewhere. Check it every couple days for any change, If it changes or gets bigger it would best to have it checked out. Better safe than sorry.
05/08/2012
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
I would check it in a couple of days to see if it is getting any bigger or smaller. Like you say it could be a cyst, pimple or stress from a rough bowel movement but it could be something more serious. Polyps are usually found in the colon but it ... More
Right-o. You can make more money, you can't make another him.
05/08/2012
MeliPixie MeliPixie
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Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
I would check it in a couple of days to see if it is getting any bigger or smaller. Like you say it could be a cyst, pimple or stress from a rough bowel movement but it could be something more serious. Polyps are usually found in the colon but it ... More
Thanks Tim. I wonder how he'll take having his girl play doctor. He's not really a fan of medical personnel, and honestly, neither am I ^^;; Thank for the article, I was clearly misspelling it and having a hard time coming up with anything legitimate.
05/08/2012
MeliPixie MeliPixie
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Originally posted by Ansley
Right-o. You can make more money, you can't make another him.
That's true. Now to convince him he's irreplaceable, that'll be a feat in and of itself.
05/08/2012
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by MeliPixie
Thanks Tim. I wonder how he'll take having his girl play doctor. He's not really a fan of medical personnel, and honestly, neither am I ^^;; Thank for the article, I was clearly misspelling it and having a hard time coming up with anything ... More
No problem. I also did a few Google searches and found pretty much what I advise; keep an eye, finger in this case, on it and see a Dr if it stays or gets bigger. I hate Dr's too, but I would rather have a strange finger in my ass than cancer or something like that.
05/08/2012
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by MeliPixie
That's true. Now to convince him he's irreplaceable, that'll be a feat in and of itself.
Drug 'em and drag 'em if you must.
05/08/2012
MeliPixie MeliPixie
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Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
No problem. I also did a few Google searches and found pretty much what I advise; keep an eye, finger in this case, on it and see a Dr if it stays or gets bigger. I hate Dr's too, but I would rather have a strange finger in my ass than cancer or ... More
Haha, thanks for making me laugh (the strange finger comment). The biggest problem is, what doctor to see? He doesn't have a GP, he doesn't get regular checkups, and I'm not even sure he's up on all his inoculations, vaccines and whatnot. He's gonna be 30 this year, no doctor no money and no insurance. Who can we go to?
05/08/2012
MeliPixie MeliPixie
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Originally posted by Ansley
Drug 'em and drag 'em if you must.
That won't be possible... I can't drive. It crossed my mind though.
05/08/2012
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by MeliPixie
Haha, thanks for making me laugh (the strange finger comment). The biggest problem is, what doctor to see? He doesn't have a GP, he doesn't get regular checkups, and I'm not even sure he's up on all his inoculations, vaccines and ... More
Your county health department. It's sliding scale and as long as he can prove he's below the Federal poverty line for last year, he'll get the help he needs. (He just needs his history from the Department of Labor.)
05/08/2012
MeliPixie MeliPixie
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Originally posted by Ansley
Your county health department. It's sliding scale and as long as he can prove he's below the Federal poverty line for last year, he'll get the help he needs. (He just needs his history from the Department of Labor.)
I'm not sure he IS below the poverty line, honestly. He's the general manager of the restaurant he works at, we have a townhouse we pay over $1,000 a month for... No way he could qualify, right? There's just not a lot of money to spare after bills, is all.
05/08/2012
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by Ansley
Your county health department. It's sliding scale and as long as he can prove he's below the Federal poverty line for last year, he'll get the help he needs. (He just needs his history from the Department of Labor.)
There you go.
05/08/2012
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by MeliPixie
I'm not sure he IS below the poverty line, honestly. He's the general manager of the restaurant he works at, we have a townhouse we pay over $1,000 a month for... No way he could qualify, right? There's just not a lot of money to spare ... More
Nope, you would not qualify. But, it's a hell of a lot cheaper than going to a GP and you can make payments. If there's anything major going on he'd be able to qualify for medicaid depending on the severity of the situation.
05/08/2012
MeliPixie MeliPixie
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Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
There you go.
I'm not sure how they can help though, we are not impoverished. All our money is just tied up in bills right now.
05/08/2012
MeliPixie MeliPixie
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Originally posted by Ansley
Nope, you would not qualify. But, it's a hell of a lot cheaper than going to a GP and you can make payments. If there's anything major going on he'd be able to qualify for medicaid depending on the severity of the situation.
Okay. So, we live in Tompkins County. I'm looking at the TCHD website and I'm just getting more and more confused. Who do I talk to about getting coverage for this kind of thing?

EDIT: I mean like, which department to turn to. I'm lost.
05/08/2012
ejrbrndps ejrbrndps
GO TO THE DOCTOR!
05/08/2012
MeliPixie MeliPixie
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Originally posted by ejrbrndps
GO TO THE DOCTOR!
Hah yeah, trying to figure out which doctor and how to afford it. And how to make him go, ya know?
05/08/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
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Originally posted by MeliPixie
Hah yeah, trying to figure out which doctor and how to afford it. And how to make him go, ya know?
Have you looked into Medicaid? Or sometimes hospital networks have a "charity care" program that also applies to doctor's visits. I do think you should have him seen by a doc ASAP. It probably is nothing serious, but it COULD be, and it's worth a check to possibly save his life.
05/08/2012
MeliPixie MeliPixie
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Originally posted by bayosgirl
Have you looked into Medicaid? Or sometimes hospital networks have a "charity care" program that also applies to doctor's visits. I do think you should have him seen by a doc ASAP. It probably is nothing serious, but it COULD be, and ... More
Unfortunately he makes too much to qualify for public health insurance. The next big challenge will be finding time to go to the doctor... He works 6-7 days a week and refuses to ask for a day off if he's not well.
05/08/2012
MeliPixie MeliPixie
I plan on taking a "look" at it tonight, if he's feeling up to it. In case anyone wants to know.
05/10/2012
Ciao. Ciao.
My feeling on the matter would be wait a week, especially because of the health insurance situation. If he was fully insured it might be a different story.

But if it doesn't seem to be going away, or seems painful, or is causing other issues definitely worth having it checked out. It could just be an odd bump, polyp, cyst, or something else. Chances are it's not cancerous, but if it's not going away it should be checked on.
05/10/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
Keep us informed.
05/10/2012
sexystuffeve sexystuffeve
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Originally posted by MeliPixie
Hi everyone, I have a very serious subject to discuss with you. My boyfriend and I enjoy engaging in pegging and other woman-on-top sort of activities about once a week, and usually it's all fun and games, laughter, pleasure, you get the gist. ... More
You could probably wait a little while, but if you are really worried, you could always take him to get it checked out, it couldn't be that expensive just to see could it?
05/10/2012
MeliPixie MeliPixie
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Originally posted by unfulfilled
Keep us informed.
Indeed I shall, thanks.
05/10/2012
Beck Beck
You can usually go to an ER. If you check out the back of the billing they can usually work out a payment plan that you qualify for. Sometimes you qualify for it all to be completely covered.
05/10/2012
MeliPixie MeliPixie
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Originally posted by sexystuffeve
You could probably wait a little while, but if you are really worried, you could always take him to get it checked out, it couldn't be that expensive just to see could it?
You would be surprised how much a doctor will charge to stick his finger in a guy's ass. If my boyfriend had a GP and insurance, it would probably be different. A routine checkup, or so boyfriend says, involves a prostate check in that very manner. He could just schedule a checkup and pay the minimum co-pay. Know what I mean?
05/10/2012
MeliPixie MeliPixie
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Originally posted by Beck
You can usually go to an ER. If you check out the back of the billing they can usually work out a payment plan that you qualify for. Sometimes you qualify for it all to be completely covered.
Hah, not where we live. Last year, he contracted H1N1 (swine flu) and almost died of dehydration and malnutrition before he would go to the hospital. In the ER, they gave him fluids via IV, X-rayed his chest, gave him a tetnis (tetanus?) booster because he didn't know when his last one was, and had him pee in a cup, which was still sitting on the counter untested when we finally left. Over a year, three thousand dollars and a huge hit to his credit report later, he still owes them money and they were unwilling to work out a plan.
05/10/2012
xOhxSoxScandalousx xOhxSoxScandalousx
Oh wow that sounds scary. Try going to a free clinic.
05/10/2012
Beck Beck
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Originally posted by MeliPixie
Hah, not where we live. Last year, he contracted H1N1 (swine flu) and almost died of dehydration and malnutrition before he would go to the hospital. In the ER, they gave him fluids via IV, X-rayed his chest, gave him a tetnis (tetanus?) booster ... More
Sounds like he really needs to look into private health insurance.
05/10/2012
MeliPixie MeliPixie
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Originally posted by xOhxSoxScandalousx
Oh wow that sounds scary. Try going to a free clinic.
I'm in the process of looking for one, but where we are, there are a lot of homeless, and at our clinics, the homeless and impoverished take precedence over people like us who just don't have insurance and aren't in any trouble.
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