Do you think there's a "too high" of a number of sexual partners?

TexasBrat TexasBrat
Is there such a thing in your opinion, as TOO MANY lovers? If so, what is that number? If you were attracted to someone, and you found out they'd gone past your acceptable number of lovers, would you break it off with them?
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Yes, there is such a thing as TOO MANY lovers. And that number, IMHO is......
32  (46%)
No, there's no such number.
30  (43%)
Uhhhhh......
7  (10%)
Total votes: 69
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02/02/2013
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FLIPxMODE FLIPxMODE
i don't really think theres too many
02/02/2013
CountryPrincess CountryPrincess
Yes i think there can be too many, that number is different for everyone, I think my mans was 35 and I was taken aback by it (then again I've been told I'm very old fashioned) It's just to each their own.... I wish he hadn't had so many partners but I love him and it's something I've come to cope with or more like just not think about LOL
02/02/2013
comatose-kitty comatose-kitty
I think if you go over a certain amount yes.
02/02/2013
Flower1 Flower1
i think so
02/02/2013
Nurse Katie Nurse Katie
Quote:
Originally posted by TexasBrat
Is there such a thing in your opinion, as TOO MANY lovers? If so, what is that number? If you were attracted to someone, and you found out they'd gone past your acceptable number of lovers, would you break it off with them?
Nope. I love the fact that my husbands been with so many women before me. It's made him very good at pleasing me
02/02/2013
gsfanatic gsfanatic
I'd say it's more a matter of the choices you've made with your partners that would be a better sign of whether they'd be a good partner than quantity
02/02/2013
Avant-garde Avant-garde
yes lol
02/02/2013
jr2012 jr2012
I always do a bit of math when learning about other people's sexual partners.....assuming they started at 17 (just an average), and figuring out how many per year!

So obviously, any number that works out to more than, say, 12 per year would definitely be too many in my opinion
02/03/2013
deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by TexasBrat
Is there such a thing in your opinion, as TOO MANY lovers? If so, what is that number? If you were attracted to someone, and you found out they'd gone past your acceptable number of lovers, would you break it off with them?
I think it's relative. I don't have a number personally.
02/03/2013
js250 js250
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Originally posted by deltalima
I think it's relative. I don't have a number personally.
I feel that it is up to the individual to determine what their own 'too many' is--not a partner. The partner was not there throughout that area of the persons life......
02/03/2013
XYCopperheadSly XYCopperheadSly
It's a personal thing. I don't think it can be "too high".
02/03/2013
ImaGodiva ImaGodiva
Nope. Whatever is acceptable to the individual person. If someone thinks a potential partner has too many previous sex partners, there are probably some fundamental differences between them that go beyond that issue alone.
02/03/2013
Cowgirl-Cutie Cowgirl-Cutie
I think it can be sometimes but being safe is more important.
02/03/2013
KissTheSkyBaby KissTheSkyBaby
I don't have a number but I can't stress my importance on trust in sexual realtionships enough. I have to trust my partner to be as honest about sexual history and health as I am and that's more likely if they aren't worried about feeling judged by me.
02/03/2013
bratcat bratcat
"too many" is such a subjective thing, because to some people more than 1-5 people is too many while others think 1-50 is too many. There is honestly no such thing. there is no such thing as being or being "loose" either. I do think people should be aware and take measures in safe sex if the plan on sleeping with multiple partners and new partners, but there is no reason to shame or be ashamed of the amount of people one has had sexual relations with.
so in short, no i dont think there is such thing as "too high" a number.
02/03/2013
sillylilkitten sillylilkitten
It's only too many if the person having sex with all these people thinks it's too many. Otherwise, it's not any of our place to judge.
02/03/2013
bog bog
Quote:
Originally posted by TexasBrat
Is there such a thing in your opinion, as TOO MANY lovers? If so, what is that number? If you were attracted to someone, and you found out they'd gone past your acceptable number of lovers, would you break it off with them?
Interesting question! In theory, there is no such thing as too many...
02/03/2013
Rory Rory
I'm not sure but I think I've reached my limit - I'm still on my first lover!!
02/03/2013
Nickki Hard Nickki Hard
No I don't think so. My number has been higher then many of the guys I have been with.
02/03/2013
Zombirella Zombirella
Yes, I do. But I'll keep the details of my opinion to myself because I don't want to offend anyone here .
02/03/2013
kitty1949 kitty1949
Yes, I do, but I can't give a general number to blanket everyone.
02/03/2013
Terri69 Terri69
Yes, there can be too many
02/03/2013
novanilla novanilla
I don't know. I'm not sure. I feel like if someone told me they had had sex with 50 people, I'd be turned off, but at the same time, if the person told me they were a sex worker before, I wouldn't care.
02/03/2013
Rosen Rot Rosen Rot
Hmmmm....
I would not date someone who was just doing it for 'the numbers'.
02/03/2013
purpledesert purpledesert
No, as long as you aren't making some sort of competition out of quantity, are safe and responsible about it.
02/04/2013
JennSenn JennSenn
Quote:
Originally posted by jr2012
I always do a bit of math when learning about other people's sexual partners.....assuming they started at 17 (just an average), and figuring out how many per year!

So obviously, any number that works out to more than, say, 12 per year ... More
Haha! I like this method!

Personally I think if you're getting in the thousands or even hundreds you may want to reevaluate some things. XD

Generally, it really depends on the person and such.
02/04/2013
Inkkythesquid Inkkythesquid
i think theres a limit
02/04/2013
aluminummm aluminummm
Nope. Fuck slut shaming.
02/04/2013
evie.amor evie.amor
Quote:
Originally posted by Rosen Rot
Hmmmm....
I would not date someone who was just doing it for 'the numbers'.
I agree, I feel it would be unlikely to meet someone who had serious, meaningful relationships with 50+ people. Even 30+ would be difficult at around my age. While I don't expect anyone to strictly have sex with someone that they've developed a relationship with, I don't like the "numbers game" and would be turned off by someone who'd had a large number of insignificant others. That being said I subscribe to don't ask, don't tell. I don't want or need to know that sort of thing about the person I'm with.
02/05/2013
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