Would you have sex with a new partner that confided in you they had an STI (other than HIV)?

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Would you have sex with a new partner that confided in you they had an STI (other than HIV)?

Femme Mystique Femme Mystique
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Originally posted by bodymodboy
Medically, an infection is different from a disease. Infections are curable (most curable closer to when the symptoms started, later on it can get harder to kill the infection).
I am aware that medically the infection and disease are different; however, as far as I can tell, STI is still preferable.

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06/15/2009
~*SurrealisticFantasy*~ ~*SurrealisticFantasy*~
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Originally posted by Adriana Ravenlust
Perhaps Southeast MA just does things a little differently, then.
Quite possibly, I had never heard that method of terminology before either. As a biology major I've always been taught that they are more or less interchangeable terms, with a preference existing for the term STI. I asked my pathology professor and she concurred. I did some additional research on my own too, both through some texts and online, and couldn't find anything suggesting otherwise either... I bet it's a regional type thing, or maybe even a new method that the medical system within MA is trying to imploy. I thought for sure the trusty internet would have brought up at least one thing proposing that they are used for different diseases. *shrugs*
06/15/2009
~*SurrealisticFantasy*~ ~*SurrealisticFantasy*~
Quote:
Originally posted by bodymodboy
From what I learned in my classes, Nurse Anna explained that the term infection came about as a means for prognosis identification, and it also sounds a lot less intimidating that STD. It was also confusing on just having an STD list where some ...
It sounds like maybe this nurse began to implement this distinction to make it easier on her personal students, or maybe MA is trying to implement a new method that the rest of the coutry/world hasn't adopted (yet?). After some intense research, I couldn't find any information suggesting that this is the way that others are using the terms, but who knows, maybe someday. Although, I personally do not find this distinction to make very much sense and will probably always think of them fairly interchangeably...

Also, just for kicks, I looked up the definition for "infection" and "disease" in my medical dictionary and didn't find anything suggesting that in order for something to be considered an "infection" that it has to be curable. The proper medical definitions of these words suggest that the terms infection and disease are more-or-less interchangeable in this particular scenario, because these happen to be infectious diseases, making either term suitable or "correct".

Infection (noun):
1. Invasion by and multiplication of pathogenic microorganisms in a bodily part or tissue, which may produce subsequent tissue injury and progress to overt disease through a variety of cellular or toxic mechanisms.
2. An instance of being infected.
3. An agent or a contaminated substance responsible for one's becoming infected.
4. The pathological state resulting from having been infected.
5. An infectious disease.

Disease (noun):
A pathological condition of a body part, an organ, or a system resulting from various causes, such as infection, genetic defect, or environmental stress, and characterized by an identifiable group of signs or symptoms.
06/15/2009
Valyn Valyn
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Originally posted by Syntax
I'd have to say a firm 'no.' Here's why: if the STI was treatable, I'd see no reason to have sex until my infected partner was treated and cured, since it seems like common courtesy/common sense to do so. If the STI was ...
Agree
08/31/2009
ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by bodymodboy
Medically, an infection is different from a disease. Infections are curable (most curable closer to when the symptoms started, later on it can get harder to kill the infection).
Sometimes - we have much better luck killing bacterial infections, reasonable luck with parasites and fungi, but viruses are still hit-and-miss (and miss more than hit).

An easy way to remember the infection vs disease distinction is that infections cause disease, but the disease is the expression of something going wrong, or you could say it is whatever is happening in the body that screams "something is wrong here!!!" (a very lay way of saying it).
08/31/2009
deceased deceased
Sleep with someone who did not care enough about themselves to use protection? No. I know dozens of people who have had HIV and hepatitis for over a decade and look fantastic, work out at the gym, etc. Until we share current test results and are monogomous, no unprotected sex. Not on the wildest impulse.Not even treatable ones like chlamydia.
08/31/2009
Femme Mystique Femme Mystique
Quote:
Originally posted by deceased
Sleep with someone who did not care enough about themselves to use protection? No. I know dozens of people who have had HIV and hepatitis for over a decade and look fantastic, work out at the gym, etc. Until we share current test results and are ...
I don't think its about not caring. Many people have gotten an STI from a partner they've had for years, due to either a partner's infidelity, a false negative on tests, or contracting an STI that is not routinely checked for, such as herpes or HPV.
08/31/2009
Sephymuffins Sephymuffins
It really does depend, but honestly, I wouldn't at all. If the person was up front from the beginning then hey-- I'd respect them and possibly continue to be with them because they didn't lie. It'd take some thought and some talking over.
However, if they lied for weeks, even months about it (and god forbid I was ever intimate with the person without/with protection), I'd kick their ass to the curb. No questions, no nothing, they'd be gone.
09/25/2009
Kestrel Kestrel
Quote:
Originally posted by bodymodboy
I just want to point out that HIV is not an STI. Sexual Transmitted Infections (STI) are curable, such as some strands of HPV, Hepatitis C and B, Pubic Lice (crabs), Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, Herpes, Scabies, Trichomonasis, Yeast Infections, and ...
HPV and herpes are not curable.
12/25/2009
Owl Identified Owl Identified
If it were someone I were interested in then yes, I absolutely would. It would definitely effect the kinds of sex we'd have and the ways that we'd engage, but shit happens and it wouldn't stop me from pursuing a relationship. I know couples that have safely stayed together with one partner infected with something (herpes as an example) and the other partner never got it because they were vigilant about safe sex.
04/01/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Kestrel
HPV and herpes are not curable.
True, but HPV OFTEN goes away on it's own (yep, something the vaccine people don't want you to know) and very often Herpes "burns itself out" after years of outbreaks. (The virus is still there, and the person still has antibodies, but outbreaks either die down to barely noticeable or don't happen much if at all.)

There are also so many different varieties of HPV, and even with condoms, HPV can be transmitted, and that many people have it or have had it didn't know.

Add to this the fact that more than 80% of the population has antibodies to herpes by the age of 50, there's a lot more to it than just "being careful."

Some docs no longer make a distinction between "Herpes 1" and Herpes 2" as you can get either on or in either the mouth or the genitals, and the viruses are SO similar that the "1 and 2" distinctions really don't mean that much anymore. Herpes 1 tends to be bigger sores, herpes 2 tends to be smaller "rice shaped" or "pin head" shaped sores. Aside from that, you can get either on or in most mucous membranes and in someone with a healthy immune system, neither can do much damage. Although anyone who has a herpes sore on or near one's mouth should NEVER kiss an infant, although breastfeeding is fine, as long as there are no sores ON the nipple, and in over 20 years in Maternal Infant Health, I have yet to see a "Nipple Herpes" although ALL the textbooks talk about it. However, herpes on the female genitals during childbirth can actually be quite dangerous to the newborn baby, as they have undeveloped immune systems, and on rare occasions, when the stars line up poorly and Mom has an outbreak at the time of labor, a C Section needs to be done.
07/07/2010
fatesrelease fatesrelease
Unless they could easily go have it treated before we did it then no. I really love my body and would rather not have to worry about having an sti or std or whatever you want to call it.
07/08/2010
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Quote:
Originally posted by Kestrel
HPV and herpes are not curable.
HPV is not permanent disease. I had it when I got sexual assaulted and I don't have it anymore. Took one procedure and vaccinations. I'm free of it. Most people get rid of it on their own since most of the strains are non-cancerous. You don't even need to be sexually active to get it.

It would depend on the disease for me. I have never had a partner with an STI, but I always request tests with a new partner to prevent secrets of this type anyways.

There was a period of time a partner and I got tested and they thought he had something. This was at the point where we were getting serious and I considered having kids with this person one day which would finally mean unprotected sex. It turned out that the clinic was wrong but at the time I was faced with a decision. he was terrified to tell me and actually cried when I said that I would stay with him. I can't even imagine having to tell someone that. Thank god we got him double checked at a non-clinic and they cleared him. Put things into perspective though!
07/08/2010
Blinker Blinker
I wouldn't. I really wouldn't. I have bad health in my girl parts and wouldn't risk getting a disease or infection from anybody, no matter how much I liked them. Before I got into my current relationship, I grilled guys to death about their histories and actually inspected their genitals. And after each sex session I would get tested for everything.

Since I'm with my guy, I still get tested (but I think it's standard for a yearly physical) and he gets tested too. He is going to China for 10 months starting on August 27th and I will not let him touch me when he returns until I see hard copies proving he's clean from every STI, STD, and parasite.
07/08/2010
Lady Venus Lady Venus
no, i wouldn't.
07/16/2010
PassionQT PassionQT
First of all, it takes a lot of courage and integrity to tell a potential partner that you have an STD/STI. So I would hear them (M or F) out and would hope that they would tell me before we decide to become sexually active. If my partner contracted something because they have a habit of unprotected sex with everyone they date, then forget it. That is a reflection of their character that they don't care enough about their body or that of others. Until a monogamous couple tests negative for several months to a year on the main stuff (HIV may not show up immediately after exposure, it can take weeks to a couple months before result is positive) there shouldn't be any unprotected sex. But reality doesn't necessarily work that way.

Viruses like Herpes are just a fact of life, and a common one too. It can be transmitted sexually or even from innocent kissing of relatives (oral herpes), etc... Either way, if you contracted either type, it's with you for life, but it doesn't necessarily deserve a negative connotation either. Check out the statistics: Link. And next time you go get an STD test, realize that HERPES is not part of that panel. It is a separate test, and whether you have symptoms or not, the only way to find out is to be tested. Many doctors won't even order the test unless you have a visible outbreak! And plenty of people never do, so it continues to be transmitted. We all know the jokes associated with it, and really, it's not fair considering that "at least 80 percent of those with herpes are unaware they have it".

Monogamy is obviously the best way to go, also use protection, reduce partners, and educate yourself.
07/16/2010
Midway through Midway through
I'm going to say no... I'm a germaphobe, I couldn't handle it. It's nothing personal to the person. I'm sure it would be really hard for me to say no if I was in love with the person and it was an idea of a long term relationship, but I'd still in the end say no.
07/22/2010
Fanny Fanny
This is a super difficult question, and though it might seem selfish to say no, I'd really have to think about it.
08/25/2010
joja joja
It depends on both the person and the STI. I would definitely wait until anything treatable has gone away. But for untreatable STIs, it would take a lot to get me to consider it. I've known couples who have struggled with one having a disease and one not (including HIV). Some are less risky than others. Herpes, for instance, is extremely common and can be prevented from spreading with some care. However, any relationship in which I would consider sleeping with someone with it would require a lot of trust and a lot of commitment.
08/25/2010
Shellz31 Shellz31
I have to say no - I dont care what type it is, its simply not worth catching!
10/31/2010
mnc5051 mnc5051
Until I knew I would be in a long-term relationship with them I would use protection. otherwise once in a relationship i would be fine without using protection. I have been in this predicament.
11/07/2010
sbon sbon
Quote:
Originally posted by deceased
Sleep with someone who did not care enough about themselves to use protection? No. I know dozens of people who have had HIV and hepatitis for over a decade and look fantastic, work out at the gym, etc. Until we share current test results and are ...
I don't think it's right to assume that someone who has an STI/D doesn't care enough to use protection. There are some that can be transmitted even when you used protection, like herpes or HPV. Or, what is the person got the disease as a result of rape?
02/04/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by Femme Mystique
I am just curious about the general attitude toward STI's around here.
No.
03/18/2011
socceras socceras
if i was planing on marrying them than i would be ok with it. if i love them idc what they have
04/29/2011
sexygoddess sexygoddess
Nah.. I'll pass..
04/29/2011
froggiemoma froggiemoma
no i wouldnt
04/29/2011
Wondermom Wondermom
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Originally posted by Miss Cinnamon
A friend of mine had a girlfriend who only told him she had herpes nearly half a year after they'd started having sex. By then, they'd stopped using barrier method protection and were fluid-bonded. There had been a period of time where he was ...
WOW, that is unacceptable imo. I will only do protected sex until I physically see a "clean" STI report, and while it is embarassing, you shouldn't expose people to diseases and sometimes serious complications or death without their knowledge and acceptance. If someone wants to be unprotected with someone who has herpes or HIV that is their choice, but noone should take that choice from them.
05/02/2011
Miss Nessa Miss Nessa
NOOOOOOOOO!
06/14/2011
TboyTy TboyTy
I'll have to join in with the common sense consensus. If it's treatable, treat it. If not then no, It's just not worth it. Even with "safe sex" there is no 100% success rate.
06/20/2011
Kkay Kkay
Casual sex no, if it were a committed relationship maybe.
07/21/2011
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