I have 4 kids aged 16, 15, 13 and 7. I have had the "talk" with and offered condome to the two older and will as well soon with the 13 yr. old. What age do you think is age appropriate?
Teens and condoms..
I agree that puberty is a great time to do this! I told my kids that the availability of condoms and birth control pills did not mean I condoned sex, but that I loved them and wanted them to be safe. I maintained open lines of communication because I wanted them to come to me with any questions, concerns, ideas, and experiences. I also made sure they knew of alternate places to get free condoms and that there was a stash of condoms in the linen closet so that they could help themselves and/or throw out old condoms/ripped packages and always have newer ones available.
03/25/2011
My parents made sure to let me know that, while they didn't WANT me having sex, they would rather me know how to/be able to protect myself. I like that you're offering your kids condoms, it's a very responsible thing to do.
My parents also talked to me around 11-12, which was an interesting way to do it. That way when puberty hit, I didn't feel like everything I knew about my body was changing all at once. I felt prepared. I don't know how hard puberty hits guys, so I can't tell you whether knowing that early could help them. But with the whole period thing it was nice to know BEFORE it happened (and right at the beginning of the average age range for starting)
My parents also talked to me around 11-12, which was an interesting way to do it. That way when puberty hit, I didn't feel like everything I knew about my body was changing all at once. I felt prepared. I don't know how hard puberty hits guys, so I can't tell you whether knowing that early could help them. But with the whole period thing it was nice to know BEFORE it happened (and right at the beginning of the average age range for starting)
03/25/2011
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I like the privacy of the linen closet stash. Probably would make many teens more comfortable with getting condoms, no store trip or parental permission required.
Originally posted by
Awby
I agree that puberty is a great time to do this! I told my kids that the availability of condoms and birth control pills did not mean I condoned sex, but that I loved them and wanted them to be safe. I maintained open lines of communication because I
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I agree that puberty is a great time to do this! I told my kids that the availability of condoms and birth control pills did not mean I condoned sex, but that I loved them and wanted them to be safe. I maintained open lines of communication because I wanted them to come to me with any questions, concerns, ideas, and experiences. I also made sure they knew of alternate places to get free condoms and that there was a stash of condoms in the linen closet so that they could help themselves and/or throw out old condoms/ripped packages and always have newer ones available.
03/25/2011
Theoretically I wouldn't put an age limit on it, though I think telling kids under 8 about condoms would probably just be confusing. All I know is I already had a vast knowledge of sex and had been masturbating for many years before I got the talk at 14, and in the age of the internet this is pretty much the norm.
03/25/2011
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I'd teach them at any age, age appropriate things about sex.
Originally posted by
sexyintexas
I have 4 kids aged 16, 15, 13 and 7. I have had the "talk" with and offered condome to the two older and will as well soon with the 13 yr. old. What age do you think is age appropriate?
You know, toddlers - what private parts are, male & female, and how nobody should touch those except the doctor, etc.
Even little kids can learn... I'd definitely have "the talk" as they enter puberty, and maybe say if they ever need condoms that anyone can buy condoms at any age, and give them some..
03/27/2011
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We have done the same thing with our son.
Originally posted by
Awby
I agree that puberty is a great time to do this! I told my kids that the availability of condoms and birth control pills did not mean I condoned sex, but that I loved them and wanted them to be safe. I maintained open lines of communication because I
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I agree that puberty is a great time to do this! I told my kids that the availability of condoms and birth control pills did not mean I condoned sex, but that I loved them and wanted them to be safe. I maintained open lines of communication because I wanted them to come to me with any questions, concerns, ideas, and experiences. I also made sure they knew of alternate places to get free condoms and that there was a stash of condoms in the linen closet so that they could help themselves and/or throw out old condoms/ripped packages and always have newer ones available.
We keep a stash of condoms (we don't use them) for him. Recently, he told us not to freak out when we noticed a box of condoms missing. He gave them to a friend of his who is contemplating having sex with his girlfriend. He told his friend the same thing we told our son, "[We] I care about you. If and when you decide to have sex, be safe, be responsible and be respectful of yourself and of her, by using a condom."
We always tell him we will never ask. If the condom supply is running low, it will always be replenished, as long as he is living at home. I have taken him to all the grocery stores, as well as retail stores like Wal-mart, Target, etc. and have showed him what isle they are located in and he knows exactly how much they cost.
I told him he can ALWAYS ask the pharmacist if he can't find them. At first he said, "NO WAY!" that he would be embarrassed to have someone know. He was afraid that since we live in a small town, it would get back to us and put us in a weird spot. We told him, "If someone told-on-you, that you bought condoms, we would only have one reaction, "GOOD! Thank God!"
03/27/2011
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I do not know you or your children and, as a mother, you know that you communicate with each of your children differently but when I am a parent I would like to approach sex how my mother did with me. In first grade we had a very casual chat about boys and girls, how genitals work and how babies are born. As I got older my mom would just casually bring any sort of sex topic up and it was very easy to talk or ask questions. Throughout middle school and early high school she would rent books from the library and leave them in my room without saying anything and only asking if they needed to be renewed or returned. Other than always being honest about sex, this is probably one of the most helpful things she did to educate me and make me feel more comfortable with my body. However, she made it very clear that when I started having sex it was my responsibility to be safe which includes STDs, birth control, personal safety and all the other small problems that sexual relationships can bring. I'm not sure if that is what you were asking, but in my opinion (I'm not a mom, so this doesn't mean much,) start small at a young age and leave the topic open.
Originally posted by
sexyintexas
I have 4 kids aged 16, 15, 13 and 7. I have had the "talk" with and offered condome to the two older and will as well soon with the 13 yr. old. What age do you think is age appropriate?
04/08/2011
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I grew up in a very conservative community and it's good to know that other parents are taking a more comprehensive approach to educating their children about sex and the responsibilities it comes with. RedBoxBaby and Awby, thank you for being responsible parents who don't either ignore the topic or throw a condom their direction with no explanation or communication.
Originally posted by
Redboxbaby
We have done the same thing with our son.
We keep a stash of condoms (we don't use them) for him. Recently, he told us not to freak out when we noticed a box of condoms missing. He gave them to a friend of his who is contemplating having ...
We keep a stash of condoms (we don't use them) for him. Recently, he told us not to freak out when we noticed a box of condoms missing. He gave them to a friend of his who is contemplating having ...
We have done the same thing with our son.
We keep a stash of condoms (we don't use them) for him. Recently, he told us not to freak out when we noticed a box of condoms missing. He gave them to a friend of his who is contemplating having sex with his girlfriend. He told his friend the same thing we told our son, "[We] I care about you. If and when you decide to have sex, be safe, be responsible and be respectful of yourself and of her, by using a condom."
We always tell him we will never ask. If the condom supply is running low, it will always be replenished, as long as he is living at home. I have taken him to all the grocery stores, as well as retail stores like Wal-mart, Target, etc. and have showed him what isle they are located in and he knows exactly how much they cost.
I told him he can ALWAYS ask the pharmacist if he can't find them. At first he said, "NO WAY!" that he would be embarrassed to have someone know. He was afraid that since we live in a small town, it would get back to us and put us in a weird spot. We told him, "If someone told-on-you, that you bought condoms, we would only have one reaction, "GOOD! Thank God!"
We keep a stash of condoms (we don't use them) for him. Recently, he told us not to freak out when we noticed a box of condoms missing. He gave them to a friend of his who is contemplating having sex with his girlfriend. He told his friend the same thing we told our son, "[We] I care about you. If and when you decide to have sex, be safe, be responsible and be respectful of yourself and of her, by using a condom."
We always tell him we will never ask. If the condom supply is running low, it will always be replenished, as long as he is living at home. I have taken him to all the grocery stores, as well as retail stores like Wal-mart, Target, etc. and have showed him what isle they are located in and he knows exactly how much they cost.
I told him he can ALWAYS ask the pharmacist if he can't find them. At first he said, "NO WAY!" that he would be embarrassed to have someone know. He was afraid that since we live in a small town, it would get back to us and put us in a weird spot. We told him, "If someone told-on-you, that you bought condoms, we would only have one reaction, "GOOD! Thank God!"
04/08/2011
I said any age for the unpredictable situations in which you might need to. Life always brings something interesting to the table.
Otherwise right at the beginning of puberty and or teenage years. I wouldn't want my non-existent children to be having sex that young but if they're going to do it I want them to be safe.
Otherwise right at the beginning of puberty and or teenage years. I wouldn't want my non-existent children to be having sex that young but if they're going to do it I want them to be safe.
04/08/2011
I know in my hometown there have been a lot of girls pregnant at 12 the last few years. Yikes. My own son is still 5 so thank goodness I have awhile to formulate how I shall go about the talk and all but I plan on just judging when he is at a level where we can discuss it. I know my own brother is nearly 25 and has no interest in either sex. If my parents had been the type to talk birth control I can't imagine them sitting him down at 12 or 13. While it was several years after that age in which I had sex, I think that would have been an appropriate enough age to have that talk and to leave the window open to further discuss birth control later on if I wanted to go on it.
05/02/2011
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I voted any age because I personally know people of all ages who have been sexually active. I would have preferred to mark a "other age" box. I think it depends on ages some things come up. Some ages hear about sex but may not act on it until later. At any point I would want them to know I want them to be safe no matter what and they can come to me about it.
Originally posted by
sexyintexas
I have 4 kids aged 16, 15, 13 and 7. I have had the "talk" with and offered condome to the two older and will as well soon with the 13 yr. old. What age do you think is age appropriate?
06/13/2011
An ongoing and open discussion of sex is always best. Children, and I emphasize that word, are having sex much earlier now. The average age that children loose their virginity is alarming! This combined with the fact that young girls are becoming fertile at an earlier age necessitates the need for discussion of the topic of sex to start much earlier, and birth control to be available at a much younger age.
06/21/2011
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really, the younger they know about safe options, the better the chnces are they will think twice!
Originally posted by
sexyintexas
I have 4 kids aged 16, 15, 13 and 7. I have had the "talk" with and offered condome to the two older and will as well soon with the 13 yr. old. What age do you think is age appropriate?
08/06/2011
I would give him condoms already. Seriously you can not have a leash on your kid that well. Honestly what age did you do it? Your friends? Anyone else you know? Kids are having sex sooner and sooner. Besides what are you going to do have them sit on your lap in their desk at school. I knew plenty of people who had sex at school with school going on like normal. They are going to do it no matter how short you leash is. Your best bet is to give them all condoms and tell them be responsible.
10/03/2011
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