I use condoms, only because I want to wait to have a child for a while. I also take birth control, but my medications lower their effectiveness. My partner and I also both have cold sores. I got mine from my ex boyfriend, and my fiance got his from his mother. She still terrorizes him about it today. So when either of us get one, we refrain from oral sex so we don't end up with actualy herpes on our genitals.