yes i think it is important
Suicide... Do you think it is important to discuss it with your children?
08/27/2011
Mine is only 5 and, thankfully, I have not needed to discuss it with him. If I needed to, then I would. Otherwise, once he's older we will talk about it.
08/27/2011
I'm sure when I have kids, I'll talk to them about it when they get older.
08/28/2011
it can be a hard thing to deal with (i've attempted suicide once) and it would have meant the world to me to have someone to talk about what i was experiencing. i definitely will talk to my kids about it so they know what they can do to avoid doing something like that.
it's important to remember that someone who does commit suicide is not necessarily selfish, but they may have issues that they just may not be able to deal with. more than likely, they have thought about their families but feel they may not be able to go on. just like to state that
it's important to remember that someone who does commit suicide is not necessarily selfish, but they may have issues that they just may not be able to deal with. more than likely, they have thought about their families but feel they may not be able to go on. just like to state that
08/28/2011
I know I will talk to my kids about it at various stages as certain feelings and issues come up. My mom was always very frank with me while growing up, and when she was younger suffered suicidal thoughts and cut herself. Because of her past she wanted to make my brother and I know there are always other ways to deal with your issues and things will get better.
08/28/2011
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i have a 13 yr old and his friend tried it last year so i had to sit down and talk to him.it is something hard to discuss(i wouldve much rather explain sex than this to him).pressure from other kids at school is a difficult thing these days and i dont want him thinkn thats its ok.
Originally posted by
K101
Hi guys! Do you think it is important to discuss suicide and suicidal feelings with your teens or even younger children? I always have thought it was very important to discuss and to let kids know it will always get better. I remember being a teen
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Hi guys! Do you think it is important to discuss suicide and suicidal feelings with your teens or even younger children? I always have thought it was very important to discuss and to let kids know it will always get better. I remember being a teen (it was only 2 years ago!) but I remember how high school was and how a lot of times it did feel like it was "the end of the world" you know those strong emotions you get as a teen or even as an adult?
Well last year a boy in the kid's school did it. His parents came out to speak to the kids and told them to always remember things can change and gave them a very nice talk. The 11 year old who just started 6th grade this year, was talking about it with me tonight. The oldest is 13 and he knew the boy who did it. Anyways, tonight he asked me if I thought the boy went to hell and he felt so bad for the kid. He had a lot of questions and I answered them to the best of my ability. I told him that he was only a child and in my opinion, God more than likely did not hold him responsible.
I also made a point to tell him that things ALWAYS get better no matter what and that if something makes you feel terrible enough to consider suicide that I am always open to talk about it. I told him any feelings he may have in his coming years, I've probably had the same. It was a nice talk and I'm glad it was brought up again. I think it is so important to discuss it with our kids.
What do you think? How would you respond? Have you ever talked to yours about it?
Please do share anything you want to. *If this brings up any yucky feelings for any of you I apologize deeply. I do not intend to do that, but am very grateful for anyone else (parent or not) who would discuss the topic here.) less
Well last year a boy in the kid's school did it. His parents came out to speak to the kids and told them to always remember things can change and gave them a very nice talk. The 11 year old who just started 6th grade this year, was talking about it with me tonight. The oldest is 13 and he knew the boy who did it. Anyways, tonight he asked me if I thought the boy went to hell and he felt so bad for the kid. He had a lot of questions and I answered them to the best of my ability. I told him that he was only a child and in my opinion, God more than likely did not hold him responsible.
I also made a point to tell him that things ALWAYS get better no matter what and that if something makes you feel terrible enough to consider suicide that I am always open to talk about it. I told him any feelings he may have in his coming years, I've probably had the same. It was a nice talk and I'm glad it was brought up again. I think it is so important to discuss it with our kids.
What do you think? How would you respond? Have you ever talked to yours about it?
Please do share anything you want to. *If this brings up any yucky feelings for any of you I apologize deeply. I do not intend to do that, but am very grateful for anyone else (parent or not) who would discuss the topic here.) less
09/04/2011
Sure. Its a good call.
09/05/2011
My father is bi-polar, so he knows depression. I know depression too well, also. I remember once, when I was in the deep dark hole he said to me, "Never make a permanent decision about a temporary problem." It got through all the shit, and made sense.
I've told my kids, when they were depressed, the same thing. And left room for discussion. But, I think we need to wait for "Teachable Moments" to take these issues on. I don't want to just walk in on a kid doing homework or browsing the internet and start a discussion about something this deep. You have to wait until the time is right. Having raised 3 of my own kids, I've gotten pretty good at "Teachable Moments" and recognizing them. But, I still need work on it, like all parents.
I've told my kids, when they were depressed, the same thing. And left room for discussion. But, I think we need to wait for "Teachable Moments" to take these issues on. I don't want to just walk in on a kid doing homework or browsing the internet and start a discussion about something this deep. You have to wait until the time is right. Having raised 3 of my own kids, I've gotten pretty good at "Teachable Moments" and recognizing them. But, I still need work on it, like all parents.
09/09/2011
I definitely think it's an extremely important thing to address, but only when the timing is right.
09/14/2011
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It is really important to bring it up, especially when teens start going through puberty so they know how to help themselves and others around them. As someone who has had family and friends commit suicide knowledge is the greatest power against it. TELL THEM!! It can only help
Originally posted by
K101
Hi guys! Do you think it is important to discuss suicide and suicidal feelings with your teens or even younger children? I always have thought it was very important to discuss and to let kids know it will always get better. I remember being a teen
...
more
Hi guys! Do you think it is important to discuss suicide and suicidal feelings with your teens or even younger children? I always have thought it was very important to discuss and to let kids know it will always get better. I remember being a teen (it was only 2 years ago!) but I remember how high school was and how a lot of times it did feel like it was "the end of the world" you know those strong emotions you get as a teen or even as an adult?
Well last year a boy in the kid's school did it. His parents came out to speak to the kids and told them to always remember things can change and gave them a very nice talk. The 11 year old who just started 6th grade this year, was talking about it with me tonight. The oldest is 13 and he knew the boy who did it. Anyways, tonight he asked me if I thought the boy went to hell and he felt so bad for the kid. He had a lot of questions and I answered them to the best of my ability. I told him that he was only a child and in my opinion, God more than likely did not hold him responsible.
I also made a point to tell him that things ALWAYS get better no matter what and that if something makes you feel terrible enough to consider suicide that I am always open to talk about it. I told him any feelings he may have in his coming years, I've probably had the same. It was a nice talk and I'm glad it was brought up again. I think it is so important to discuss it with our kids.
What do you think? How would you respond? Have you ever talked to yours about it?
Please do share anything you want to. *If this brings up any yucky feelings for any of you I apologize deeply. I do not intend to do that, but am very grateful for anyone else (parent or not) who would discuss the topic here.) less
Well last year a boy in the kid's school did it. His parents came out to speak to the kids and told them to always remember things can change and gave them a very nice talk. The 11 year old who just started 6th grade this year, was talking about it with me tonight. The oldest is 13 and he knew the boy who did it. Anyways, tonight he asked me if I thought the boy went to hell and he felt so bad for the kid. He had a lot of questions and I answered them to the best of my ability. I told him that he was only a child and in my opinion, God more than likely did not hold him responsible.
I also made a point to tell him that things ALWAYS get better no matter what and that if something makes you feel terrible enough to consider suicide that I am always open to talk about it. I told him any feelings he may have in his coming years, I've probably had the same. It was a nice talk and I'm glad it was brought up again. I think it is so important to discuss it with our kids.
What do you think? How would you respond? Have you ever talked to yours about it?
Please do share anything you want to. *If this brings up any yucky feelings for any of you I apologize deeply. I do not intend to do that, but am very grateful for anyone else (parent or not) who would discuss the topic here.) less
04/23/2012
My family has an extensive history of depression, anxiety, addiction, etc. I've been suicidal before, and I would never ever want that for my future kids. I would be open and honest with them about it because it's probably something that they will likely have to deal with.
04/23/2012
Luckily, I've got some time to figure out just how I'd go about it, (since my oldest is only a young toddler) but I hope I handle it to the best of my capability when the time comes.
04/24/2012
Yes, I think when they start to see things in the media or in their own life related to it they need to know about it.
04/24/2012
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