Threesomes For Couples Who Want to Know More - guides to a better sex by Quiver - review by Dragon

The name is enticing. Threesomes for “couples” that want to know more. I’m part of a committed married couple. I’ve had and enjoyed several threesomes. I want to know more. I don’t know who this book is actually designed for, but it’s not me! After reading it, I have the feeling that it is really a very hip coffee table book for those that want to extend their fantasy knowledge of threesomes and show their friends how open they might be to the idea. That, and it reads a bit like one of the “pick up artists” books except for arranging a threesome. It looks stunning, but I’m not impressed.
Since, I’m judging a book by a cover let’s start with the facts. There are 160 pages, which are read in exactly 4 days. Gorgeous naked pictures of stunning, and ultra thin, sexy models on almost every page. There is basic text to read, but there are also “text chunks.” Either larger font, or blocks of text that are separate from the main text that are stand alone, easy to read and digest- it’s a nice feature and well designed. An example would be “So you’re going home with a couple… Here are some things to remember…”
There are eight chapters.
1. My story
2. How Threesomes Happen
3. You and your man are ready to roll
4. Girlfriends on the prowl
5. Being chosen by a couple
6. Enough woman for two men
7. Bringing another man home
8. Alternative lifestyles

The first two are basically an introduction. It’s well written and somewhat humorous “A lot of couples don’t talk about it because the boyfriend knows if he blabs about it to his friends his girlfriend will be furious with him, thus killing the chances of it ever happening again. And no man will ever spoil that party!” It makes the assumption that any threesome that involves two men usually happen with buddies. Each chapter has about a page to a half page to ensure you “talk first.” This is about as superficially covered as “set the rules. Talk about it first in fantasy, and see what you are both comfortable with.” It frequently mentions that many people set a “no kissing” rule. Ummm. Right.

The general format of each chapter is a discussion of the relationship between the two who are looking for a third, general good manners/rules, details about the best places to go and how to pick up your third, whose place to go back to, how to relax and get started, and good positions. Let’s compliment everybody equally, and rub everybody’s shoulders to get started!

Several things bothered me about this book. Some are minor- for the most part it’s written to a young audience – “girlfriends/boyfriends.” It rarely makes mention of longer term relationships or older couples. It is patronizing at times. “Smile and say you’re excited” or you will have instructed him how to behave so he won’t just whip it out. It has to point out that men should always behave like gentlemen and let women take the lead in the show. It has to separate the chapters about the couple choosing a woman or man. It also assumes that you're going back to you own home rather than offering a different option such a hotel.

This book does not discuss the feelings at all that can be involved when a relationship brings others into it. The superficial, "play nice, compliment everyone and pay attention to everyone so nobody gets left out" isn't enough. I was especially annoyed at one of the early sentences when she said that nobody she interviewed actually said that their relationship ended because of a threesome. The stories published indicate that a lot of the sexual stories were the equivalent of one night stands, and a couple indicated their feelings were hurt later.

I also felt that the book really assumed that most likely and desirable threesomes were going to be FFM. Couples looking for a woman. Two girlfriends that wanted to share a man. The section about a couple willing to bring a man into the relationship was tucked away in the back. Both of the sections with two men took a particular view on sex that the woman needed to take charge of both men to control the scene.

Having participated in threesomes, I felt that the entire scenarios given was basically nonsense. This includes pick-up, warm- up and the sexual positions. From my experience, there is always a certain unequal balance between two parties being attracted to each other. That's acceptable and hot. It is fully desirable- you just have to make sure that your primary partner is not feeling excluded. That happens because of the natural strength of your relationship. Threesome sex is incredibly hot, but I doubt if you are going to remember a handful of positions from a book. It just tends to happen as people move around. Different every time.

I still love the pictures in this book. This book left me with such a negative impression that I have not picked it up again. It really just seemed to trivialize the entire concept of threesomes for couples. I worry that this book will lead to emotional issues, and frustration, for couples that look at is an instruction manual instead of just a "pretty book"!