It's the start of a new year and no doubt you've made some resolutions. Perhaps they include things like losing weight or reading more books. Maybe you and your partner have made resolutions together, including making more time for your sex life. If that's the case, congratulations!

Whether you've been together six months or six years, we all know that time can take a toll on our sex life. Now that you've both made the commitment to one another to get back to normal, I'm sure you're wondering how to start. Take a deep breath and read on.

When trying to revamp your love life it's important to remember that there are no hard and fast rules. Take your time. Start slowly with a small step, like a bubble bath and a sensual massage. You don't have to be professionals to touch one another intimately and sensually. The connection you share is better than any experienced masseuse could ever hope for with a client. Use it to your advantage.

Don't try to fit it all into one night, maybe not even all in one weekend. Instead, make a date one night a week. One night to focus on one another, on your relationship, is really all you need to get back on track. Lock the doors, turn off the phone, and settle in with a bottle of your favorite wine and some soft music.

Take a page from the book and read it. Share it with your partner and discuss it. Sure, it may feel a little weird at first but not for long. The book can be a good starting point, but the finish line is up to the two of you. When you know one another well it's easy to know the best way to end your perfect romantic evening. Whether it's mutual masturbation or full on intercourse, don't let it be the focus.

Remember that the most important thing is the time you've spent together. It's an investment in your relationship, in your future as lovers. It's also a return on the investment you've already made in one another over time. Allow that to remain the focus.