Porn and Divorce

CRAZYSEXYONE CRAZYSEXYONE
Has anyone else ever felt like their partner porn is more important then yourself so much so that you just want to get away from it and file for divorce?
06/13/2012
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js250 js250
Never. Not even a few years ago when I did not watch porn at all. Porn and masturbation does not bother me and never has, and since I now enjoy watching it myself, well....

Masturbation is natural and healthy & porn is in the same category as sex toys--a fun addition to make your orgasm better.

When I did not watch porn, I had absolutely no problem with my husband buying, watching or downloading porn to watch by himself. I did not want to watch them because I was embarrassed that I might like it, comparing myself to the porn stars (unfavorably I might add), and figured my hubby was as well, thought that their bodies/looks were what he wanted, and was taught that only 'bad, immoral' women watched those 'dirty' movies-not 'good girls'. Not even the wild ones like I was back in the day, I have always had a serious personal moral streak. But to contradict that, I thought it was fine for men to watch them. Go figure.

I realized after finally watching a lighter one with my husband that he did not care about the person in the movie, was never going to meet, socialize with or fuck her and would not if he could--he would never be the last man in line after a herd. (Sorry to get crude.) I also realized it was a turn on--still felt bad but it made me think.

I watch horror movies, dramas, westerns and other movies. I do not terrorize people, rob banks, have high speed car chases, blow up buildings and people after I watch the movies. If I like the porn, it definitely does not mean I want to or am going to do the act!! And if it enhances our relationship, if I get really turned on, if it makes my orgasms better and if it opens up a deep, personal, intimate and amazingly close connection and conversation with me and my husband--who was I really depriving? Me. I gave it a chance, opened up my mind and now have the best communication. bond and sex life with my hubby!!!

My personal feelings have always been that if they are watching a movie, taking care of their own penis, then they are less likely to think about or find someone else to do it for them when I am not around or not in the mood.

How does your partner feel about your toys? You masturbating? Do you fantasize? Read romance novels that get a bit steamy? Get turned on by a sex scene in an R rated movie? Look at a man and think he is sexy? I do. But I don't want to have sex with, meet or anything else with whichever method I am using.

Sorry to preach or sound harsh, I do not mean this as a lecture at all. I am just answering the thread with what I wish someone would have told me years ago--just think of all the toys, sex and closeness hubby and I missed out on! I do understand-I have been on both sides of this coin, in a way. I just honestly preferred my husband to jack off to a movie than think about getting satisfied in other ways. Old fashioned, kind of with a twist. Effective--yep!!

Hugs--please message me if you have questions about any of what I said, want some advice from a porn convert(?) or need to vent. I will lecture you no more!! Promise. Again, big hugs--hope it gets better for you and you guys can reach a compromise!!!!
06/13/2012
CRAZYSEXYONE CRAZYSEXYONE
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Originally posted by js250
Never. Not even a few years ago when I did not watch porn at all. Porn and masturbation does not bother me and never has, and since I now enjoy watching it myself, well....

Masturbation is natural and healthy & porn is in the same category ... More
Well i am not thinking of divorce I seen a lady on TV talking about this, but I did have a problem with the hubby watching a lot of porn..lol That is before i read your post. You know reading the words that a stranger puts out there like that really makes sense and i guess hits home with me. I want to thank you for that. i think a lot of it has to do with the problem I have with myself.. I am in the mist of going through a huge transformation in my life and i am really unsure of my body right now. i have always had that attitude if you want something like that then go try to find it because I will never be that small( big boned frame it does not help I am almost 5'11) or look that good. But he has never left. Like I said I think i am going to have to start getting over my own fears of him looking and thinking of them instead of me. I know this is going to sound funny but here lately and ever really since I got with my husband i have only masturbated to the point I have gotten off for him he likes to watch.. sorry for being to graphic, the toys i have now are ones that we play with together (meaning he plays with me..lol) and the whole r rated movie ting I am 31 and i still find myself saying to myself like when I was younger not aloud to watch and I find myself looking else where and saying is it over yet...lol I thank you for being so forward with me I am glad some one is. I am going to have to take you up on that message thing some time it sounds like we come from the same boat. I have found myself to be more open since talking on here and writing my reviews. if you would have met me before i was a totally different person and only talked about this kind of stuff with my best friend.. Which i really don't mind i love our little talks..lol
06/14/2012
Noelle Noelle
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Originally posted by CRAZYSEXYONE
Has anyone else ever felt like their partner porn is more important then yourself so much so that you just want to get away from it and file for divorce?
YEP!!! and he has no sex drive when I want it, and I am a nympho, so I ALWAYS want it.
06/30/2012
CRAZYSEXYONE CRAZYSEXYONE
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Originally posted by Noelle
YEP!!! and he has no sex drive when I want it, and I am a nympho, so I ALWAYS want it.
I feel for you there
07/07/2012
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