BDSM without bondage?

novanilla novanilla
I used to think bondage was my favorite part of bdsm, but now as a sub I much prefer when my partner, who is much stronger than me, can throw me around and move me wherever he wants, and if he does restrain me, I'd much rather it be with his body, like using his legs to hold down my arms for instance. We never use restraints like handcuffs. What do others prefer?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I like restraints
15  (23%)
I prefer to be restrained by my partner's body
2  (3%)
I prefer to be moved around a lot by my partner
I don't like any of these
1  (2%)
I like all of these
42  (66%)
Other
4  (6%)
Total votes: 64
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10/25/2012
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Gracefire Gracefire
I like all of these! Just depends on the mood.
10/25/2012
charletnarouh charletnarouh
i like being restrained. i specifically like having wrist restraints i can pull on. But i also like having to restrain myself sometimes. i like being put in a position and told to stay there and doing so no matter what my Mistress does. i enjoy the challenge of it and the reward of impressing my Miss and earning Her praise when i do well.
10/25/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
I like restraining and like using force to do it. My sub hasn't had any complaints yet
10/25/2012
Swish Swish
it all depends sometimes its nice to get tied down but more often then not its nice to just get pushed around a bit, but I like doing most of the pushing even though im not strong
10/25/2012
quantumspork quantumspork
Bondage can be a lot of fun, but I find that being thrown around and restrained manually puts me into subspace a lot faster.
10/26/2012
Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by novanilla
I used to think bondage was my favorite part of bdsm, but now as a sub I much prefer when my partner, who is much stronger than me, can throw me around and move me wherever he wants, and if he does restrain me, I'd much rather it be with his ... More
It depends.
10/29/2012
Gluesnffr Gluesnffr
i like all of these, so it depends on the mood.
10/29/2012
dks210 dks210
I like them all.
11/06/2012
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by novanilla
I used to think bondage was my favorite part of bdsm, but now as a sub I much prefer when my partner, who is much stronger than me, can throw me around and move me wherever he wants, and if he does restrain me, I'd much rather it be with his ... More
I like all of these.
11/08/2012
Mitzuki Mitzuki
I like them all, though I think I'd prefer it if my partner restrained me with his body more. He doesn't do it often enough!
11/08/2012
Caus Caus
Why not have it all?
11/13/2012
xcapricax xcapricax
All of its good nice to have it all so you can keep mixing it up.
11/17/2012
Marie Hanna Marie Hanna
It really depends. Most of the time I like the restraints.
11/17/2012
Sinfully Sinfully
I like all of the above.
11/17/2012
KiraCat KiraCat
Since I'm physically stronger then my current partner she can't really hold me down that successfully and I like being tied up anyway but if I had a partner who was stronger then me I might like it both ways.
11/18/2012
nosrslylol nosrslylol
I like restraints.
11/19/2012
Supervixen Supervixen
Variety!
11/19/2012
IrishLassie IrishLassie
Ooh. I love it all. I love being bound by my husband or with rope, ties, etc.
12/08/2012
Nurse Katie Nurse Katie
Quote:
Originally posted by novanilla
I used to think bondage was my favorite part of bdsm, but now as a sub I much prefer when my partner, who is much stronger than me, can throw me around and move me wherever he wants, and if he does restrain me, I'd much rather it be with his ... More
i like restraints a little better, but both are good
12/08/2012
Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by novanilla
I used to think bondage was my favorite part of bdsm, but now as a sub I much prefer when my partner, who is much stronger than me, can throw me around and move me wherever he wants, and if he does restrain me, I'd much rather it be with his ... More
I like all of these
12/08/2012
lilacviolet lilacviolet
Since I can remember I always fantasized about being restrained with the person's body weight on me and them holding me down and me being helpless. Whenever I see a photo or video of someone restrained with ropes, it sort of takes the fantasy out of it for me, it almost doesn't make sense to me maybe. I like to fantasize of someone taking another person on the spot, restraining them with their body on the spot, it seems more realistic/natural that way maybe? Almost like the guy is so wild with desire that he can't even think even less think of using ropes or handcuffs, instead just taking you right then and there and holding you down! YEAH!

I still like all the options though.
12/09/2012
novanilla novanilla
Quote:
Originally posted by lilacviolet
Since I can remember I always fantasized about being restrained with the person's body weight on me and them holding me down and me being helpless. Whenever I see a photo or video of someone restrained with ropes, it sort of takes the fantasy out ... More
This is exactly what my partner and I do probably 90% of the times we have sex! I'm with you.
12/13/2012
damnbul12 damnbul12
Quote:
Originally posted by novanilla
I used to think bondage was my favorite part of bdsm, but now as a sub I much prefer when my partner, who is much stronger than me, can throw me around and move me wherever he wants, and if he does restrain me, I'd much rather it be with his ... More
I like all of these
12/13/2012
ASpiritedSlut ASpiritedSlut
I am a female top, to a much larger male bottom, so most of my play is mental. He could physically overpower me if he wanted to, but he is rendered unable through our play. That is my favorite type of restraint, though we do use traditional bondage sometimes as well.
12/13/2012
Miss L Miss L
It's much more of a challenge for him to hold still while I inflict pain.
12/26/2012
talkless talkless
I like the idea of restraints but.. Im still not sure about how i will feel about restraints in practice!
01/03/2013
Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by novanilla
I used to think bondage was my favorite part of bdsm, but now as a sub I much prefer when my partner, who is much stronger than me, can throw me around and move me wherever he wants, and if he does restrain me, I'd much rather it be with his ... More
I like all of these
01/03/2013
fizzygato fizzygato
I think rope work can be really beautiful, and sometimes I think it's too bad when I'm the one prettily tied up, because often I can't see its beauty unless a picture is taken (i.e. if a harness is most intricate from the back).

For that reason, I think it's sometimes cool to see it done on someone else, but I adore the attention I get when someone else rope ties me.

I'm pretty bad at remembering ties, so I don't like trying to tie others. I think it would be so amazing for me to finally get good at it, though. I consistently ask for rope for Christmas and my birthday and haven't gotten any yet. I think I'll just have to get some on my own sometime.

While rope tying isn't hot to me exactly, it does impress me greatly, like if you can rope prettily, I will definitely respect you more. Actually, even if you just know rope facts or how to take care of rope, that'll impress me.

I think black/ leather cuffs can be extremely attractive, like don't turn me on, but they make whoever's wearing them look so much more amazing. I think collars are often pretty cool, and can enhance someone's appearance. I'm not too into ankle restraints because I never look at people's ankles really.

I don't think it's necessary for my relationship to have bondage in it, but it could enhance it greatly/ act as a magnet for me to want to get to know someone better by the fact that they like it
01/04/2013
LoneOokami LoneOokami
I like to be able to make my subs stay in place with a command no need for restraints ... though they are fun
04/05/2013
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