Choosing a name for that special Dom in your life

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Choosing a name for that special Dom in your life

Supervixen Supervixen
My guy is the "Dom" in the relationship. That is, while we don't have a total BDSM lifestyle, in the bedroom, we love it. I love for him to call me his slut, his whore, his girl, his slave, his pet, his sex kitten, and baby (not BDSM related, I know, but it comes out once in a while. )

I'd love to choose a name for him that would indicate his dominance, but I'm not sure how to go about it. I've asked him what he thought about me responding to his demands with "yes, sir" and he said that sounds wonderful. So, Sir seems to be the name for him for now, though we won't get a chance to use it in the bedroom until we're reunited in January. I've considered others...but Master seems like it might not work for us. I can't quite put my finger on why...maybe just because this is still new to me, and I'm not used to it yet. Daddy is out of the question; I had an ex that liked being called that. He was much older than me, and in a position of authority. At the time, I loved how much it turned him on, but now that is associated with him, and I don't ever want to think of him in the bedroom again, especially with my new lover.

What do you call your Dom? Is there another term that I'm not thinking of? Other than the feminine forms of those titles, of course, such as Madam, Mistress, and...I guess Mama? I've never heard of it, but someone out there somewhere must call their Lady "mama."

Also, how did you choose what to call him/her? Did something just come out of your mouth and it stuck? Were you told to address them in such a way? Did you think it through and try different ones out until it "felt right?"
11/09/2012
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- Kira - - Kira -
Mine goes by "Sir." He originally said either "Sir" or "Master," but (like you) I had an ex by the second variation. I don't particularity like to be reminded of my ex, so "Sir" it is. If people are around I'll sometimes say "my love" because it sounds more respectful or something than "baby."
11/09/2012
SaiDiscordia SaiDiscordia
I have never presumed to give him a name, he instructs me what to call him. Sir is standard for us, but if he wants to hear something different, he lets me know.
11/09/2012
Chilipepper Chilipepper
Former-Master insisted on (of course) "Master". When I had a brief online D/s relationship, I naturally fell into calling that one "Sir"; we had discussed it as being what type of a Dom the dominant partner presents themselves as.

One old friend did call her Dom "Professor", which I thought was neat in its originality. I've also come across references of "My Lord".
11/10/2012
Supervixen Supervixen
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Originally posted by Chilipepper
Former-Master insisted on (of course) "Master". When I had a brief online D/s relationship, I naturally fell into calling that one "Sir"; we had discussed it as being what type of a Dom the dominant partner presents themselves ...
Well, since my boyfriend is a professor, this might be a good idea. I just sent him pics of me in a new plaid, pleated mini skirt (yes, I am going to wear it outside of the bedroom), no panties, and our riding crop positioned near my backside. An instant naughty school girl fantasy was born for both of us today!
11/10/2012
mastersonv mastersonv
I also have asked my Dom and he prefers Sir it's not a major thing with him so he doesn't push it. Every now and then he wants to hear it, I've called him master before but it's also weird for us so I get where you are coming from. He really enjoys being called Cookie monster and even cookie crook sometimes lol.
11/10/2012
Lacey- Lacey-
Mine is called Daddy, or Sir when I'm in trouble sometimes.

Our use of names progressed over time. First there was nothing like that, then I started calling him Sir sometimes when it was fitting. He told me that he liked that. Later on our relationship transition to more a Daddy-Dom/little dynamic, and now I call him Daddy almost all the time I'm talking to him. At first it was like I knew this title fit him best, but we had reservations about it, and some point the taboo of it just disappeared and it felt so right, and he's been my Daddy ever since.
11/11/2012
Caus Caus
The usual names I've come across are "Master" and "Sir."

"Daddy" is common, too. But it's one of those polarizing words that you either love or hate.
11/12/2012
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