Lovemaking vs sex

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Lovemaking vs sex

Bittenflame Bittenflame
Would you still consider it love making if you and your partner are gettng really kinky?
07/03/2012
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PolyLove PolyLove
I don't. For us "lovemaking" is slow and sensual, no "extras" (IE toys, kinky stuff, etc. etc.)
07/03/2012
Ansley Ansley
Yes. In our rule book, it doesn't matter if you're going hard and fast or soft and slow - all of it amounts to love and intimacy with each other.
07/03/2012
Nora29714 Nora29714
not usually
07/03/2012
TheirPet TheirPet
I find the words alternate because I love my partner dearly. So sex is always making love.
07/03/2012
gypsymama gypsymama
I have never used or liked the term making love..... I love me hubby more than anything, but for us sex is sex!
07/03/2012
Burn Burn
They're not the same to me. :\
07/03/2012
underHim underHim
They are the same in our house. He loves me even when he is tying me up and whipping my ass : )
07/03/2012
Noelle Noelle
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Originally posted by Bittenflame
Would you still consider it love making if you and your partner are gettng really kinky?
No, I think slow and and passionate is more about love making, kinky is just hard core, but I love both!!
07/03/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
No, I usually consider slow and sensual to be "making love" while the kinky stuff is "fucking."
07/03/2012
Brenden Brenden
I agree, they're two different things.
07/03/2012
SubmissiveFeminist SubmissiveFeminist
I don't consider the sex I have to be "love making" but one could argue that to some couples, it is their expression of love. It's going to be different for each person.
07/04/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
Yep, since sex is more the blunt act while lovemaking involves buildup
07/04/2012
digit88 digit88
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Originally posted by Bittenflame
Would you still consider it love making if you and your partner are gettng really kinky?
yeppers
07/04/2012
quantumspork quantumspork
Depends on the level of intimacy involved. I've had rough, kinky sex that is far more intimate to me than slow, sensual sex.
07/04/2012
Claire-Bear Claire-Bear
Love making is about the feelings involved. Being present and making eye contact... Whatever you do doesn't matter, barring really crazy violent acts. But simply kinky... Yes, it can definitely be making love.
07/04/2012
g- g-
I think it depend on the amount of self restraint...
07/04/2012
little miss kinky little miss kinky
I think they're the same if the people love each other but I would never refer to the rough stuff I usually get into as lovemaking.
07/05/2012
Lavendar Lavendar
If you love the person, even if its sex its still lovemaking
07/05/2012
married with children married with children
yes, as long as there is kissing.
07/06/2012
PassionateLover2 PassionateLover2
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Originally posted by Claire-Bear
Love making is about the feelings involved. Being present and making eye contact... Whatever you do doesn't matter, barring really crazy violent acts. But simply kinky... Yes, it can definitely be making love.
I would have to agree! Yes!
07/06/2012
RomanticGoth RomanticGoth
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Originally posted by PassionateLover2
I would have to agree! Yes!
I would also have to agree!
07/06/2012
Mistress Dragon Mistress Dragon
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Originally posted by Claire-Bear
Love making is about the feelings involved. Being present and making eye contact... Whatever you do doesn't matter, barring really crazy violent acts. But simply kinky... Yes, it can definitely be making love.
I agree with you on this, no matter if it is slow and soft or kinky as kinky can be, it is still love making if it is with the person or persons you love. There are times when my husband and I are with others, we are in an open relationship, that it is just sex. No feelings with most or not the feelings we have with eachother.
Sounds odd to some I know but that is our look at it. Love making is with someone you LOVE and sex is just with someone that is not your partner or partners.
07/12/2012
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
When we were young we 'made love' - and it was less than frequent. Since we now look on sex as recreation - its much more fun and frequent.
07/12/2012
Boyqueen Boyqueen
I would, yes.
07/15/2012
Gdom Gdom
I don't really consider anything that my partner and I do "lovemaking." That's not to say that we don't have passionate, non-kinky sex occasionally; we do. But that term just weirds both of us out...

Regarding what I take to be the meat of the question though (whether kinky sex and passionate, loving sex can overlap), I think the answer is yes. For instance, not all rope bondage has to lead to beatings and rough sex; a good, artistic chest harness can be kinky and sensual at the same time.
07/17/2012
Billie Bones Billie Bones
Lovemaking is determined by the connection I have with that person, not the level of kink in our play.
07/17/2012
Sissy Sissy
If you love the person then it's love making, no matter HOW kinky it gets!
07/17/2012
Sundae Sparkles Sundae Sparkles
even when im "fucking" my partner its still love making..
if it was with some random then i'd call it "sex"
07/17/2012
Zandrock Zandrock
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Originally posted by Bittenflame
Would you still consider it love making if you and your partner are gettng really kinky?
Yes. More-so actually. BDSM requires trust. That trust requires love. Just because it is rough does not take away any emotional connection. And that is what lovemaking is to me a emotional connection during sex.
07/17/2012
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